When I was single I didn’t think about certain things that would happen while being married. I didn’t really know what to expect. Yes, I’ve had people tell me what their marriage was like, but I didn’t think about what it would be like for me. 

So I want to tell those of you who are single some aspects I didn’t think about of what marriage would be like. Giving you a heads up, something to prepare for, and to look forward to.

I also share what to look for in a spouse and how important this decision actually is! DO NOT SETTLE!

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One thing I’ve come to realize and love about my relationship with my husband (there are many) is that we are on the same page politically, morally, and religiously. These are important things to note when you are dating someone and talking about marriage. No, you don’t have to agree on everything, but in my opinion the big stuff you should. 

If you are single, dating, talking about getting married, I would ask these 3 questions

These are hard topics to discuss, I get it, but they are vitally important in a relationship. Think about it, you want to spend the rest of your life with this person. This is the person you will be making all your decisions with. This is the person you will be raising your children with. This is the person you are sharing your finances with. This is the person you will live with. This is an important decision. I cannot stress this enough!!

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Do you struggle with the thought of feeling "left behind"? As if you are getting "too old"? Or thinking you may never be married?

In this episode, I walk through what I did personally to work through the questions and doubts while I was single. I struggled thinking I would never be married as I watched my friends get married and start families.

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Is physical attraction important in a relationship? At one point I thought yes.

In this episode, I unpack what is the most important aspect of a relationship and the truth behind attraction.

Something to think about, our appearance changes overtime.

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Do you know what you are looking for in a partner? Do you know the characteristics and traits they would have?

If you answered no to these questions, it may be time to sit down and write out a list of what you are looking for in a future partner. I'm not talking about physical traits. I'm talking about if they love Jesus, are loyal, outgoing, fun to be around, have a sense of humor, have integrity.

Someone suggested I write out a list of what I was looking for in a future husband. I searched my heart for what I truly wanted in a partner and invited God into the process. My list is about 6 pages of characteristics and at the end I wrote out a prayer.

This may be something you need to do to become clear as to who you are looking for. This made dating less overwhelming for me and I was able to sift through guys I didn't want to date because of this list.

This list is not meant for you to be closed minded, but it will help you be firm in your non-negotiables and not settle.

I want to hear from you! If you decide to make a list tell me! You can DM me on instagram @nikki.houseman or send me an email [email protected]

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There was a point in time when I was set on meeting my future husband “organically.” I had this dream that I would meet him through friends, mutual friends, or doing something I love. I didn't want my story to be "we met online."

With diving into my relationship with Jesus, working on myself, and truly wanting to be with a quality guy, I started to change my mindset around online dating.

My mantra became it doesn't matter how I meet my husband, it's who he is. With this shift I was able to go into online dating with a new perspective and trust that God can use any situation for me to meet my husband.

Dating online isn't easy, but with the help of my dating coach I was able to put parameters around online dating to make it not so overwhelming and discouraging for me.

I have complied those tips into a free guide for you to use yourself. It's called "Do's and Don'ts of Online Dating." If you would like this free guide, click here!

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Maybe you think the reason you are not dating the people you want or aren't dating at all is because of who you are. Maybe you feel you need to change aspects of who you are in order for people to want to date you. I'm here to tell you this is not true!

If you feel this way, maybe it's because you are lacking self confidence. In this episode I share pratical tips for you to boost your self confidence and start attracting the people you want/should date!

I have created a document for you to read through with all these tips. Click here to get that free guide.

One thing I share about is creating healthy habits for yourself. In order to be in a healthy relationship, you must come from a healthy place yourself. I have a highlight on my instagram with videos I've created with healthy habits you too can start implementing. Click here to view those.

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You may be wondering, what is dating coaching? I want to share what dating coaching is and what it looks like to have a coach. Stay tuned until the end of the episode where I will share 2 health tips with you!

You may be unsure what life coaching is and certainly what it means to have a dating coach. In this episode, I hope to answer some of those questions and give you a glimpse as to what it may look like to have a dating coach / working with someone like me. 

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What is the hardest part about being single? 

This is a question I’ve been reflecting on recently. It has brought up some hard moments for me and I share these with you. This is a vulnerable question and I give you an honest answer. I had moments of crying myself to sleep because I was so sad and disappointed. 

I decided I needed Jesus in those moments. I also chose to dwell on what I did have not what I didn’t have. I share what those are with you.

If you haven’t already, listen to the episode about preparing to be a wife while being single. I give practical tips in how to prepare while also enjoying the season you are in. Click here to listen to that episode. 

There is still time to join the Accelerated Dating Program. This is one month group coaching for single women. The things I share in this episode, we will work on inside this program, and you will get results! You will come out the other side better than when you started. Click here to learn more and to sign up. We will begin the 2nd week of April. There are still spots left, but sign up now!

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Green flags, much like a green light, are the go ahead. They are good signs things are going in the correct direction in your relationship. Green flags are what you want in a partner and things to look for when you are dating.

1. Self Confidence

2. Respectful

3. Integrity

4. Relationship with God

5. Own hobbies

6. Solid group of friends

7. Driven and Hardworking

8. Asks good questions

9. Healthy Boundaries

10. Emotionally Mature

11. Intentional and Takes Initiative

12. Knows how to have fun

13. Good listener and communicator

14. Nonjudgmental

15. Takes responsibility for own needs

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