True Identity

What is the hardest part about being single? 

This is a question I’ve been reflecting on recently. It has brought up some hard moments for me and I share these with you. This is a vulnerable question and I give you an honest answer. I had moments of crying myself to sleep because I was so sad and disappointed. 

I decided I needed Jesus in those moments. I also chose to dwell on what I did have not what I didn’t have. I share what those are with you.

If you haven’t already, listen to the episode about preparing to be a wife while being single. I give practical tips in how to prepare while also enjoying the season you are in. Click here to listen to that episode. 

There is still time to join the Accelerated Dating Program. This is one month group coaching for single women. The things I share in this episode, we will work on inside this program, and you will get results! You will come out the other side better than when you started. Click here to learn more and to sign up. We will begin the 2nd week of April. There are still spots left, but sign up now!

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Green flags, much like a green light, are the go ahead. They are good signs things are going in the correct direction in your relationship. Green flags are what you want in a partner and things to look for when you are dating.

1. Self Confidence

2. Respectful

3. Integrity

4. Relationship with God

5. Own hobbies

6. Solid group of friends

7. Driven and Hardworking

8. Asks good questions

9. Healthy Boundaries

10. Emotionally Mature

11. Intentional and Takes Initiative

12. Knows how to have fun

13. Good listener and communicator

14. Nonjudgmental

15. Takes responsibility for own needs

If you are a single woman and want to join a group of like-minded women to learn how love and respect yourself, to have self confidence, to learn how to be content in the season you are in, the Accelerated Dating Program is for you. This is an exclusive offer- from now until March 10th you will receive $40 off! Click here to learn more.

If you have questions, DM me on instagram @nikki.houseman or sign up for a free 20 minute consultation here!

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Did you miss the episode, "15 Red Flags in a Relationship," click here to listen to that episode.

Free document with all 15 red flags and explanations.

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Today we are going to discuss red flags, what they are and how to determine if there is a red flag in your relationship. If you are not in a relationship, these are good to keep in mind when you do enter into a relationship or start dating.

Red Flags are a warning sign. They may not be deal breakers, but definitely a discussion would need to be had. There are some red flags that would be deal breakers. Today I am going to share 15 red flags with you. I have created a document with these red flags along with an explanation.

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Questions to ask yourself:

In this episode, I discuss the foundations of marriage according to a book I've been reading. It's call "Happy Wives Club" by Fawn Weaver. If you are a wife and haven't read this book, I encourage you to do so. She visits 12 countries, 6 continents, with 1 mission, to find the secret of marriage. She interviews a number of married couples and they all say the same secret!

I dive into what the Bible says the role of a husband and wife are. I mention Ephesians 5:22, 25 saying wives submit to your husbands, and husbands love your wives as Christ loves the church. The world has taken these verses out of context. Women think they don't need a man and can stand in the role of a man. This is a wrong way of thinking. According to scripture, both play important roles in a marriage.

If you are single, what I talk about in this episode is important to keep in mind and prepare your heart for what is to come. The way you can prepare is to have an intimate relationship with Jesus.

Here is a link the the book "Happy Wives Club," by Fawn Weaver

I offer one on one coaching for single women. If this is of interest to you, let's hop on a call to see if working together would be a good fit. Click here to choose a time that works for you.

The Accelerated Dating Program is in full swing. We are in week 3 of 4. I had many women interested, so I am going to have a season 2 starting in the spring! This is a group coaching program for single women to learn to love and respect yourself while preparing for a relationship. Click here to sign up for the waitlist so you will be the first to know when the season is available.

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You may be thinking, will I ever meet someone worthwhile? Will it ever be my turn? Will dating lead me to meeting someone I want to spend the rest of my life with?

The answer is YES! DO NOT SETTLE! I had a coworker tell me I needed to compromise what I was looking for in a partner. I’m so glad I didn’t listen to her. You do not need to compromise or settle. I know it can be hard. I had moments I would meet someone and think, I guess I could date this person, yet they didn’t have some key traits I was looking for in a partner. Do not settle. Do not lower your criteria just to be with someone. It’s not worth it!

In this episode I share ways to not settle and to keep your expectations. Dating can be hard and discouraging at times. Don't give up! The right person will show up.

It took me 10 years. I have some interesting stories around dating, but now I have the most amazing husband and it was all worth it! I never thought I would get to the point of thinking all the pain and suffering I went through I would be grateful for. But here we are. There were many amazing a good moments as well. During that time I learned a lot about myself, God, and who I wanted in a life partner.

Listen all the way to the end because I give practical tips on how to get yourself ready to date. You can start today!

The Accelerated Dating Program has started! I'm calling this season 1 because I will be launching season 2 in the spring! Be on the look out. If you are a single woman looking for support and others who are in a similar season as you, you will want to join this amazing group! We meet for one month only- 4 sessions for 1 hour each.

Join my email list here to get updates as to when season 2 will begin.

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Don't waste away the season you are in looking forward to the next one. Once I came to the realization that I could accomplish many goals I had and work on becoming the best version of myself, the more fulfilled, and purposeful I felt in my singleness. I had a deep desire to be married, so I decided to use the time of singleness to prepare myself to be the best wife I could be one day.

I've now been married for 10 months, and my husband and I are happy and have a healthy relationship. In this episode, I share why this is and how you too can start preparing now to have a healthy relationship one day!

There are still spots left for the Accelerated Dating Program. If you are single, let's hop on a call together to see if this program would be a good fit for you! If you have a friend who is single, share this link and episode with them!

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I chat with my friend Kristy about entrepreneurship, her business, singleness, and meeting our husbands later in life. 

In this episode she shares about how and why she started her business. She had a dream at 15 years old of having a skin care line one day, and many years later her dream became a reality. This episode is filled with lots of wise nuggets and encouragement for those of you who are single and how to prepare. 

Some things we shared

Visit Kristy's company and purchase Christmas gifts. They have a holiday sale going on! applerosebeauty.com

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If you would like to join my group coaching, click this link to learn more. Feel free to send me a message on instagram @nikki.houseman or shoot me an email [email protected] if you have any questions. We can hop on a call to see if this program would be a good fit for you! Click this link to schedule a call with me.

The number one thing to ensure you are in a healthy relationship… Do you know what it is???

Marriage does not complete you. It does not solve your problems. It does not fix things that need fixing.

Single friend, I see you. You are enough. You are not forgotten. You are important. You are in a VERY important season you will never get back! Don't take it for granted. Don't wish it away for the next thing. Now is the time to do the things you've been wanting to do. You have no distractions, you don't have another person you need to split your time with. Now is the time to dive deep into your relationship with Jesus. He is waiting for you.

Questions to reflect on:

The wait list for my Accelerated Dating Program is open for limited time! If you are a single woman and would benefit from group coaching to help you eliminate limiting beliefs, to become more confident in yourself, to prepare for a healthy relationship. This is for you! By joining the wait list, you will get first dibs when the sale goes live for Black Friday!

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If you don't know Sylvia, you will want to listen and learn all she is up to! She and I met going on a mission trip with Athletes in Action. We went to Barcelona, Spain with a group of D1 collegiate women basketball players. She was their coach and I went as the Athletic Trainer and one of the leaders. It was an incredible trip and we learned so much about ourselves and God! It's time for a reunion!

Sylvia has a wellness collection, co-owner of Monarch Magazine, she played in the WNBA, and she has played basketball in about 16 countries. She is a family woman, married to an amazing man, and a coach to athletes all around the world!

Follow Sylvia on Instagram @coachcrawley

Make sure to check out her wellness collection @crawleywellness

She is the co-owner of Monarch Magazine

She has an etsy store with all of her creations https://www.etsy.com/shop/CrawleysCreation

It's special to know people like this. People who are going after their passions and living in their sweet spot!

As for me, I am passionate about coaching women through singleness and preparing for their life partner! I offer one one one coaching. It's helpful to have someone to help you navigate the dating world. It can be overwhelming and discouraging at times. I've got you! Schedule a call to see if coaching with me would be a good fit!

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