How Much Estate Information Should You Share with Your Kids?

In this episode of “Trust Us: Estate Planning Wisdom,” Danielle Friedman, Herb Fineburg, and Max

McCauley explore one of the most common client questions: How much should parents tell their

children about their estate plan?

They break the issue into three levels—essentials, structure, and numbers—and discuss what to

share, when to share it, and why timing and maturity matter. From identifying key documents to

understanding trust structures and navigating sensitive family dynamics, this conversation offers

practical guidance for families aiming to strike the right balance.

00:00 – Introduction: Why Estate Transparency Is So Complicated

01:00 – Survey Insight: Most Boomers Think Sharing Is Important—But Few Actually Do

02:00 – Level One: The Essentials (Documents, Advisors, Policies & Emergency Info)

04:00 – Why Fiduciary Roles Should Not Be Revealed Too Early

06:00 – Burial Wishes, Insurance Policies & Other Overlooked Essentials

08:00 – Level Two: Understanding Structure Without Disclosing Wealth

09:00 – Trusts vs. Outright Gifts: What Children Need to Know (and Why)

10:00 – Letters of Intent & Explaining the Philosophy Behind Your Plan

12:00 – Conversations Don’t Count—Only Documents Do

13:00 – Level Three: The Numbers (Why Most Parents Should Avoid This Tier)

14:00 – Maturity, Financial Independence & When Kids Are Not Ready

16:00 – When Shared Numbers Reduce Pressure—or Create It

17:00 – Lifestyle vs. Reality: When Children Don’t Know Their Parents’ Wealth

18:00 – Aligning Spouses: Why You Should Rehearse the Conversation First

19:00 – Final Thoughts: No One-Size-Fits-All Approach

If you’d like to learn more or have questions, contact:

Danielle — [email protected]

Herb — [email protected]

Max — [email protected]

In this episode of 'Trust Us,' Danielle Friedman, Max McCauley, and Herb Fineburg discuss a complex estate planning scenario from a recent article. A father of three sons, two from his first marriage and one from a later relationship, grapples with the decision of whether to divide his estate equally among his children despite differences in their financial situations. The conversation delves into the potential problems with unequal distribution, the complexities of pot trusts, and the use of disclaimers. They highlight the importance of maintaining family harmony through equal treatment while addressing future wealth concerns. The team also emphasizes the necessity of updating estate plans regularly to reflect current wishes and relationships.

00:00 Introduction and Overview
00:48 Reader's Dilemma: Balancing Inheritance
02:05 Danielle's Perspective: Assumptions and Fairness
02:50 Max's Advice: Equal Shares to Avoid Conflict
04:15 Estate Planning Tools: Disclaimers and Pot Trusts
07:27 Real-Life Scenarios: Wealth Disparities Among Children
10:20 Practical Solutions: Trusts and Equal Shares
17:56 Stepchildren and Estate Planning
18:42 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

If you are interested in learning more or have any questions, please feel free to contact Danielle at [email protected], Herb at [email protected], and Max at [email protected].

In this episode of Trust Us, Danielle Friedman, Max McCauley, and Herb Fineburg discuss the recent changes brought by the One Big Beautiful Bill Act, which raised the estate tax exemption level starting January 1, 2026. Despite the increased exemption, the hosts recommend continuing with estate planning and gifting during a person's lifetime due to potential future changes in the law and state inheritance taxes. They emphasize the advantages of lifetime gifting to irrevocable trusts, the importance of initiating the statute of limitations for gift tax returns, and strategies for minimizing state inheritance taxes. The episode concludes with advice to review current estate plans to maximize the benefits of the new exemption levels.

• (00:00) - Introduction to the One Big Beautiful Bill Act

In this episode of 'Trust Us,' Danielle Friedman, Max McCauley, and Herb Fineburg discuss the critical aspects of selecting a trustee. They cover common client questions, including who should be named as a trustee, the benefits and drawbacks of having a corporate versus an individual trustee, and the specific limitations and responsibilities of beneficiary trustees. The discussion also delves into scenarios where independent trustees may be beneficial, trustee compensation, and the process for naming successor trustees. The episode aims to provide a comprehensive overview to help clients make informed decisions in their estate planning.

00:00 Introduction and Welcome
 00:51 Key Considerations in Choosing a Trustee
 02:32 Beneficiary as Trustee: Pros and Cons
 04:39 Independent Trustees and Their Benefits
 09:30 Trustee Selection: Family Members vs. Professionals
 17:41 Trustee Compensation and Responsibilities
 22:30 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

If you are interested in learning more or have any questions, please feel free to contact Danielle at [email protected], Herb at [email protected], and Max at [email protected].

In this episode of Trust Us, Danielle Friedman, Herb Fineburg, and Max McCauley tackle the pitfalls of common estate planning advice, highlighting the risks of adding children to bank accounts or deeds purely for convenience. They discuss the adverse tax implications, potential family conflicts, and legal issues that can arise from such actions. The hosts emphasize the importance of consulting with informed professionals and suggest alternative methods, such as living trusts, beneficiary designations, and powers of attorney, to achieve estate planning goals without unintended consequences.

• (00:00) - Introduction and Overview

If you are interested in learning more or have any questions, please feel free to contact Danielle at [email protected], Herb at [email protected], and Max at [email protected]. 

In this episode of Trust Us, Danielle Friedman, Herb Fineburg, and Max McCauley discuss the significant changes anticipated with the sunset of the Federal Estate Tax Exemption. They explain what the exemption is, how it impacts estates, and the strategic planning necessary to navigate potential changes post-2025. Topics include essential planning techniques, potential legislative changes, and advice on how to prepare for the uncertainties.

• Introduction to Federal Estate Tax Exemption (0:46)
• Current vs. Future Exemption Amounts (1:28)
• Hypothetical Example of Taxable Estate (2:47)
• Impact of Future Legislative Changes (3:53)
• Strategic Planning Techniques (5:23)
• Advantages of Early Planning (10:37)
• Conclusion and Recommendations (13:17)

If you are interested in learning more or have any questions, please feel free to contact Danielle at [email protected], Herb at [email protected], and Max at [email protected].

In this episode of the Trust Us podcast, hosts Danielle Friedman, Herb Fineburg, and Charles "Max" McCauley III dive into the complex world of intestacy—the laws that govern the distribution of assets when someone passes away without a will.

From common misconceptions about how assets pass to surviving spouses and children, to the unexpected complications of business succession and guardianship of minors, this episode unpacks the consequences of intestacy. Learn why not having a will can lead to costly legal battles, family disputes, and unintended tax burdens.

Whether you're married, have children, own a business, or simply want peace of mind about your legacy, this episode will make you rethink your estate planning—and why it’s never too early to start.

If you are interested in learning more or have any questions, please feel free to contact Danielle at [email protected], Herb at [email protected], and Max at [email protected].

In this episode of "Trust Us: Estate Planning Wisdom," hosts Danielle Friedman, Herb Feinberg, and Charles Max McCauley, along with special guest Joe Armstrong, delve into the critical comparison between trusts and prenuptial agreements in protecting family assets.

The hosts explore why trusts can be a stronger and more flexible alternative to prenuptial agreements, especially when planning for high-net-worth individuals and their children's marriages. They discuss how properly structured trusts can provide robust asset protection without the potential awkwardness or limitations of prenups. Key points covered include:

• The advantages of discretionary trusts over mandatory distribution provisions
• How trusts can protect assets from divorce proceedings more effectively than prenups
• The potential pitfalls of last-minute prenuptial agreements
• The use of self-settled asset protection trusts as an alternative to prenups
• The importance of careful trust design in estate planning

This episode emphasizes the long-term benefits of proactive trust planning in safeguarding family wealth across generations. It offers crucial insights for parents looking to protect their children's inheritances and for individuals seeking to shield their assets before marriage.

Join us for this enlightening discussion on the power of trusts in modern estate planning and asset protection strategies.

If you are interested in learning more or have any questions, please feel free to contact Danielle at [email protected], Herb at [email protected], and Max at [email protected].

In Episode 4, through a compelling case study, hosts Danielle Friedman, Herb Fineburg, and Charles "Max" McCauley III explore the vital role of irrevocable trusts when gifting closely held family business interests for the benefit of children.

A client gifted a mere 1.5% stake in his company to each of his three children without using irrevocable trusts, aiming to save on costs. When one child faced divorce unexpectedly, the divorce proceedings centered around this small 1.5% stake in the family business owned by the child. Further complications arose when that same child, who remarried, unexpectedly died, leaving his business interests to his surviving spouse. This led to family conflicts for the children, which destroyed the relationships among the client's grandchildren.

The hosts discuss the missed opportunities for protecting the family business from the divorce and death of a child who owns an interest in the business. This Episode emphasizes how irrevocable trusts can shield assets from divorce and permanent family conflicts. Learn crucial lessons on proactive trust planning to protect both assets and family bonds. Join us for this insightful discussion on safeguarding your legacy.

If you are interested in learning more or have any questions, please feel free to contact Danielle at [email protected], Herb at [email protected], and Max at [email protected]. 

In Episode 3: "Transcript: How Long Should a Trust Last?" hosts Danielle Friedman, Herb Fineburg, and Charles "Max" McCauley III delve into the considerations and implications of establishing trusts, particularly regarding their duration. The discussion revolves around scenarios where trusts terminate at a specific age, leading to unintended consequences such as divorce settlements affecting trust assets. The hosts emphasize the importance of crafting trusts that endure for the beneficiary's lifetime, highlighting the benefits of protecting assets from creditors, divorce, and taxation. They stress the need for flexibility in trust documents to adapt to changing circumstances and advocate for dynasty trusts that span multiple generations. Throughout the episode, real-life examples and legal insights underscore the complexities and nuances of estate planning, guiding listeners toward informed decisions for effective wealth preservation.

If you are interested in learning more or have any questions, please feel free to contact Danielle at [email protected], Herb at [email protected], and Max at [email protected].