We yearn for glimmers of joy as we dismantle racist systems and consume traumatic news updates, all while sheltering at home in a pandemic. So, we’re revisiting our very first episode, Holding on to Joy, with an updated conversation between host Tonya Mosley and her grandmother, this week’s Wise One, Ernestine Mosley.
Our question-asker is Dr. Seema Yasmin, who is an Emmy Award-winning journalist, poet, medical doctor and author. She asked:
“How can I feel joy when the world is burning?”
This episode was recorded before COVID-19, so Tonya was able to travel to her hometown of Detroit. There, she talked to her grandmother and New York Times bestselling author, adrienne maree brown. Tonya asked her grandmother how she continues to find joy. Her response: “There is a difference between joy and happiness,” said Ernestine Mosley. “I am happy right now. I am just happy to see you. That’s different from joy. The joy is in your heart and it stays with you.”
For Ernestine Mosley, she gets joy out of helping people and getting involved in change-making. “When I can talk to someone and lift their spirits, or do something for them to help them in spite of everything in the world, it is still beautiful. We have a beautiful world here and we have to change it.”
The self-identified pleasure goddess, adrienne maree brown, also distinguishes joy from happiness. “Joy is not extraneous. .. something you have to earn, or off to the side.” For brown, joy is a freedom journey that allows for pleasure. So much so, that she wrote a book about how to make social justice the most pleasurable human experience, called “Pleasure Activism”. She references Audre Lorde’s “Uses of the Erotic: The Erotic As Power” which emphasizes that in order to keep your eye on the prize, you need to experience your full erotic self. How do you do that?
Brown suggests starting with getting to know yourself — learning what your calling is and what work you are supposed to be doing. Next, practice “attention liberation” which is taking your attention away from what you cannot change and focus on the helpers. Then, do an inventory of your life. Specifically, identify the spaces you feel in absolute alignment with yourself and out of alignment (i.e. “I say I care about food justice but I buy McDonald’s every time I’m at the airport” says brown.) Finally, brown emphasizes, “Joy is a practice.”
While our world is undergoing a transformation that some may even dub an apocalypse, brown reminds us communities that have survived genocide do so through laughter, intimacy and connection.
“Laughter is important. Joy is important. It’s not a guilty pleasure, it is a strategic move towards the future we all need to create. One in which our children are laughing, our children are free. They can go wherever they need to go. There are no borders holding them. That is what I am living and loving for.”
Brown leaves us with a powerful quote from Bobby Sands, an Irish nationalist who led a hunger strike in prison in 1981:
“Our revenge will be the laughter of our children.”
Tonya checked in with her grandmother recently to talk about joy in this moment. Ernestine lives in Detroit, one of the places hardest hit by COVID-19. And for the first few weeks of the protests,