Here are some tips for daily check ins with your husband/wife.

If you want to have a great marriage, a daily check in conversation is a must. But you can maximize the effectiveness of these daily check ins by following a few simple suggestions.

In this episode of the 'Turn It Up Marriage Tips and Tools Show', host Kelly, a marriage coach, discusses the significance of daily check-ins in strengthening marital relationships. Kelly emphasizes the importance of asking open-ended questions, sharing feelings, and listening to understand as key strategies to make these check-ins more effective.

Tips include transforming closed questions into invitations for deeper conversation, practicing empathy, and engaging in active listening. The episode also highlights the importance of creating a safe space for open communication to build intimacy and understanding. The overarching message is that intentional daily interactions can significantly enhance the connection and understanding between spouses.

00:00 Welcome to the Turn It Up Marriage Tips and Tools Show

00:39 The Importance of Daily Check-Ins

02:03 Effective Communication Tips: Open-Ended Questions

03:18 Deepening Connection Through Sharing Feelings

06:04 Mastering the Art of Listening

09:46 Applying These Tips Beyond Your Marriage

10:32 Closing Thoughts and Resources

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Would you like to improve problem solving with your spouse?

Problem solving can be challenging in a marriage. When you both have different points of view, how do you blend those together?

🔥 Hey, amazing community! Coach Kelly here - your go-to for all things marriage transformation. In today's power-packed episode of the Turn It Up Marriage Tips and Tools Show, we're diving deep into a topic that hits home for so many couples: Problem Solving within Your Marriage. 🌟

Ever felt like you and your spouse are on opposing teams, fighting each other instead of the problem at hand? What if I shared a simple, yet groundbreaking technique that could flip the script on how you tackle challenges together? That's right, all it takes is a piece of paper, a pen, and a shift in perspective to start solving problems in a way that strengthens your bond rather than straining it.

As a seasoned coach, pastor, police chaplain, and the author of "Turn It Up: How to Have the Lifelong Marriage That You Really Want," I've seen firsthand the transformative power of unity in marriage. Today, I'm unpacking a strategy that not only addresses the issue but also brings you and your spouse closer in the process.

💡 In this episode, you'll learn:

- How to externalize the problem to tackle it as a team

- The critical role of communication in problem-solving

- Tips for active listening and empathy to truly understand each other

- Why inviting God into your problem-solving process can make all the difference

- The power of brainstorming and coming up with a practical action plan

Don't let problems turn into conflicts. Discover a method rooted in biblical wisdom, practical tips, and my personal observations to revolutionize how you and your loved one face challenges. This episode is not just about finding solutions; it's about how to come together to find them.

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Remember, it's not about facing challenges alone but how you come together with your spouse, with God's grace, to overcome them.

Great things happen in your marriage when you focus on understanding each other. Understanding is the key to knowing each other, avoiding conflict, solving problems and so much more.

Feeling disconnected in your marriage? Miscommunication and misunderstandings can lead to unnecessary arguments and distance between you and your spouse. In this episode of the Turn It Up Marriage Tips & Tools show, Coach Kelly shares his insights on the importance of understanding each other in building a thriving, God-centered marriage.

Join Kelly, pastor, police chaplain, marriage coach, and author of "Turn it Up: How to Have the Lifelong Marriage that You Really Want," as he compassionately walks you through the power of understanding each other based on Genesis 11:6. In this inspiring video, you'll learn:

1. The deeper meaning of speaking the same language in your marriage

2. The significance of understanding each other's needs, desires, fears, and joys

3. How to improve mutual understanding with 7 practical tips, including:

a. Instituting daily check-ins

b. Practicing active listening

c. Diving into each other's worlds

d. Apologizing and forgiving quickly

e. Speaking your partner's love language

f. Resolving conflicts with understanding

g. Praying, reading the Bible, and attending church together

By adopting these daily habits and incorporating them into your lives, you'll create a marriage where mutual understanding leads to shared victories and endless possibilities.

As Coach Kelly reminds us, with God at the center and a commitment to understanding each other, nothing is impossible for your marriage.

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Turn up the understanding in your marriage and unlock the potential that unity and mutual understanding can bring!

Do you struggle with pleasing your spouse?

In this episode of the Turn It Up Marriage Tips and Tools Show, Coach Kelly, a pastor, police chaplain, marriage coach, and author, addresses the common struggle of not being able to please one’s spouse and offers insightful solutions. Drawing from personal experiences and biblical teachings, specifically Psalm 4:5, Kelly emphasizes the importance of learning one's spouse's likes and love languages to offer 'right sacrifices'.

Through a humorous story about a husband's missing wife, Kelly illustrates the profound lack of knowledge some partners have about each other compared to material possessions. He underlines the significance of giving, serving, and prioritizing your spouse's needs over your own, suggesting practical ways to demonstrate love and make sacrifices.

Additionally, Kelly encourages inviting God into the relationship and trusting His guidance to foster a lifelong, fulfilling marriage. He concludes by offering a free digital copy of his book and a free clarity session for couples looking to enrich their marriage.

00:00 Welcome to the Turn It Up Marriage Tips and Tools Show

00:04 Understanding the Art of Pleasing Your Spouse

01:12 The Biblical Perspective on Pleasing Your Partner

01:57 Learning Your Spouse's Likes Through Observation

05:04 The Importance of Sacrifice in Marriage

07:37 Incorporating God into Your Marriage

10:37 Seeking External Help for a Stronger Marriage

11:22 Final Thoughts and Resources

To get a free digital copy of Kelly's book, Turn it up, go to www.turnitup.coach/75

To book a free 60 minute call with Kelly, just go to www.turnitup.coach

Is your spouse mad at you? Here's what to do so that you don't make the situation worse.

In this episode of the Turn It Up Marriage Tips and Tools Show, join me as I share my insights on how to manage confrontations effectively, focusing on responding rather than reacting to ensure constructive dialogue.

Drawing from personal experience and the wisdom of leadership author John Maxwell, I introduce the metaphor of carrying two buckets - one with gasoline and the other with water - to illustrate how our reactions can either exacerbate or calm confrontational situations. I delve into practical strategies for de-escalation, including active listening, validation, and apologizing when necessary.

I also outline steps to create an action plan to avoid future conflicts, emphasize the value of patience, and discuss the importance of understanding the root of the confrontation.

I wrap up by highlighting biblical advice on communication and offering a free digital copy of my book, 'Turn It Up', to assist viewers in building resilient, lifelong marriages.

Here's the link to the video on the Four R's of an Apology: https://youtu.be/kDM6971AhVg

00:00 Introduction: The Power of Handling Confrontations

00:46 Meet Coach Kelly: Your Guide to Better Relationships

01:09 The Golden Tip: Respond, Don't React

03:01 Practical Steps to Responding Effectively

05:23 The Importance of Apology and Action Plans

06:42 Navigating Unresolvable Anger and Conclusion

To get a free digital copy of his book, go to www.turnitup.coach/75

10 warning signs your marriage needs help. Do you know what they are? These 10 signs are like the lights on the dashboard of your car. They tell you something is wrong and you need to do something about it.

In this episode of the Turn It Up Marriage Tips and Tools Show, Coach Kelly, a pastor, police chaplain, marriage coach, and author, discusses 10 warning signs indicating a marriage might be in trouble, including frequent arguments, lack of communication, and a nonexistent sex life. Kelly emphasizes the importance of recognizing these signs early and taking proactive steps to address them. He offers practical advice for struggling couples, such as admitting the problem, seeking help from professionals or mentors, taking action to make positive changes, and inviting God into the process for strength and guidance.

00:00 Introduction and Welcome

00:42 Meet Coach Kelly

00:58 10 Warning Signs Your Marriage Needs Help

01:47 Understanding the Importance of Warning Signs

02:28 Practical Steps to Get Your Marriage Back on Track

04:32 Inviting God into Your Marriage

05:26 Special Offers and How to Reach Out

06:24 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

To book your free Clarity Call, go to https://turnitup.coach or call 626-804-1731.

To get a free digital copy of Turn it Up!, go to https://turnitup.coach/75

When your spouse says "I don't want coaching" for our marriage, what do you do? Do you just give up or try to pressure them into getting help?

In this episode of 'Turn it Up Marriage Tips and Tools Show', join me as I provide guidance on how to address marriage difficulties when your spouse is reluctant to seek professional help.

I make a clear distinction between coaching and counseling, explaining how the former focuses more on developing skills rather than delving into past traumas. I emphasize the importance of respecting your spouse's feelings, enlightening them about what coaching involves, and considering getting coaching by yourself if your spouse remains resistant.

Throughout the episode, I highlight several coaching skills like learning to respond instead of reacting, setting boundaries, and active listening. My approach as a faith-based coach also involves inviting God to come heal the relationship. Lastly, I invite listeners to get in touch with me for a free, no-obligation clarity call to begin improving their marriages.

00:00 Introduction and the Problem at Hand

02:33 Understanding the Difference Between Coaching and Counseling

04:36 The Power of Individual Growth in a Relationship

07:04 Inviting Your Spouse to Join the Coaching Journey

08:07 Taking the First Step Towards a Better Marriage

09:41 Conclusion and Invitation for a Free Clarity Call

To book your free Clarity Call, go to https://turnitup.coach or call 626-804-1731.

Healing the hurt in your marriage - do you know how? If you are feeling pain in your marriage, there is a reason for your pain. The pain is telling you something is wrong that needs to be addressed.

Coach Kelly, a pastor, police chaplain, and marriage coach discusses emotional hurt in marriages and how to heal it. The episode highlights five main steps; acknowledging the pain, confronting the person who caused the hurt, seeking external assistance if necessary, forgiving the person, and choosing to rebuild the relationship. Coach Kelly also takes a faith-based approach, encouraging couples to pray and ask for God's wisdom. Beyond this, he emphasizes the importance of understanding that healing from emotional pain in a marriage does not mean returning to the way things were before the hurt occurred. Instead, it's about letting go of the pain and moving forward in the relationship.

00:00 Introduction and Welcome

00:48 Understanding the Pain in Your Marriage

02:07 The Role of Pain in Relationships

03:23 Steps to Heal the Hurt in Your Marriage

05:44 The Power of Forgiveness in Healing

06:50 Choosing to Rebuild and Restore Trust

07:59 The Importance of Seeking Professional Help

08:47 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

09:11 Closing Remarks and Resources

To get a free digital copy of his book, go to www.turnitup.coach/75

Marriage in trouble? Marriage coaching could be the answer you need.

This episode of the Turn it Up Marriage Tips and Tools show focuses on marriage coaching as a possible solution for couples who are struggling in their marriage.

Join me as I compare counseling with coaching, outlining that while the former involves a healthcare approach by diagnosing and treating mental health issues, the latter operates by assessing the current state of the marriage and formulating strategies to get where you want your marriage to be.

I also emphasize the future-oriented focus of marriage coaching, describing its techniques and benefits, such as effective communication and rediscovery of joy in relationships. As a pastor, I also encourage couples to incorporate faith into their marriage and believe God to do a miracle in their relationship.

00:00 Introduction and the Struggles of Marriage

00:59 Understanding the Drift, Disagreement, Damage and Division Cycle

02:52 The Alternative to Marriage Counseling: Marriage Coaching

03:42 How Marriage Coaching Works

06:39 The Role of God in Marriage Coaching

07:13 The Importance of Seeking Help

08:05 Invitation to Experience Marriage Coaching

08:50 Conclusion and Call to Action

To book your free Clarity Call, go to https://turnitup.coach or call 626-804-1731.

The Bible says that love never fails. What do you think about that? Perhaps you have failed at love. Do these words make you feel like God is condemning you?

Join me Coach Kelly, a pastor, police chaplain, marriage coach, and author as we look to understand the true essence of love as depicted in 1 Corinthians 13.

This is the final part of 15 recordings that look at each aspect of love found in 1 Corinthians 13, the famous love chapter.

I'll talk about the meaning of 'Love never fails', explaining that it pertains to 'Agape' - the unselfish, sacrificial, and godly kind of love. This reminds us to respect our human limitations and to give ourselves grace, especially when struggling with failed or challenging relationships.

The episode ends with four steps to grow closer to God and activate 'Agape' love in our lives, creating transformation and increasing our ability to love others in the process. A powerful exploration for anyone looking to deepen their understanding of love from the Biblical perspective.

00:00 Introduction and Welcome

00:02 Understanding the Concept of Love in the Bible

01:38 Exploring Different Types of Love in Greek

02:41 Attributes of Love as Described in 1 Corinthians 13

04:34 The Challenge of Emulating God's Love

05:03 Growing in Relationship with God

06:07 The Fruit of the Spirit and Transformation

07:45 Understanding Human Imperfection in Love

09:43 Steps to Grow Closer to God and Activate Agape Love

12:01 Conclusion: Love Never Fails

Need help putting this into practice, call me at 626-804-1731 to schedule a free Clarity Call. Or you can book one at www.turnitup.coach

Also, if you'd like a free digital copy of my book, go to www.turnitup.coach/75