“It’s already done.”  This is the moment of surrender when you know you have done all you can and you recognize the best choice is to release the outcome.  This week’s guest Sarah Harbut leaves what happens next  to God.  She looks to him for guidance, and she seeks his voice over her own.  Sometimes those are hard to differentiate.  And that is another level of surrender.

Sarah was led to write her story because she felt there was at least one someone out there who needed to hear it.  She experienced generational domestic abuse.  Writing about it was painful, and healing.  Sarah knew this was the beginning of surrendering to the right influences.  When you use your voice you have peace and are secure with who you are.  What comes next?  According to Sarah, now it’s God’s turn.

Sarah has been on the podcast before in I’m Going to Write a Book episode 170.

You can find Sarah on Instagram at Less Fear More Fire.

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You start out with a vision.  The vision is grand because, why not?  You are in your mind.  Once you work to make it a reality, things likely shift.  This was true for T-Bone Rube, this week’s guest in our Surrender series.  He had an idea to create a spectacular show during the holidays with gifted performers, merry music and then book that in Manhattan.  Yet circumstances were beyond his control.

Slowly things changed and it was clear this was not going to turn out to be what T-Bone created in his mind.  He had to decrease the scale of the show to fit realistic expectations, some of the cast had to drop the show for a variety of different reasons, and there was not an ample amount of advance ticket sales.  So what did he do?  He surrendered to what was, and ended up doing an acoustic one-man show. And, it was good.

He has been on the show before in Frankie Valli is his Biggest Inspiration episode 144.

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What does surrender mean to you?  As in, you find yourself in a circumstance that you have no control over.  How do you react?  Do you fight it kicking and screaming?  Do you get caught up in obsessive worry about the outcome?  Ellen Burgan is our guest this week and she begins this new series of, you guessed it, surrender.  She explains it takes practice and a lot of self compassion if you want to make the most of it.  And you do.

Ellen shares you can grow your acceptance of the situation by listing the things you can control vs the things you can’t.  Focus on what you can do by getting info on the unknowns, being patient with yourself and finding a way to add something positive to the experience.  Just like she did when her son went to New Zealand and she blogged about his adventures.  Having to surrender?  You likely didn’t ask for it, but you’re here so make the best of it.  Let surrender be a catalyst for change.

She was on before in I Knew There was More Out There episode 159.

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We often say we “just want to be happy” or that we “just want our kids to be happy.”  Is that really the goal for our lives?  I was on Kelly Robinson’s podcast “Kelly Minds Her Manors” recently and had the opportunity to flesh out some different thoughts I have.  It was during her Fearless Five portion of the show when she asked me “Something you think other people value that you don’t.”  For me, happiness is fleeting, flighty even, not sustainable and definitely not a goal. That just can’t be it.  It doesn’t speak to character-building by going through the hard things, being fulfilled by the weighty things or the great sense of joy which I find a deeper, more satisfying place to be.

So this is me, on Kelly’s show.

Kelly asked me about my coaching style.  I shared how much I relish small group work while being hands on throughout.  We learn so much from each other when we are willing to be vulnerable.  Intimacy is built and there is a safe space to interact, to connect.  I want each person I work with to be seen, and to be encouraged.  On our way we will set goals and track progress.  Think about the person you are in your imagination.  Now compare that to how you show up in your real life.  Those two should be closely aligned and if they’re not, let’s do some work to get there.  You’ll be glad you did.

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As a young girl she wanted to be a nurse because she thought the uniforms were cute.  Then she realized the doctors are the ones that tell the nurses what to do so she changed her mind.  Tolulope Olabintan did become a doctor.  She paid attention to the restlessness inside of her.  Of course it wasn’t easy, what is?  Tolu did the hard things, made the sacrifices and became confident in her chosen field.

Part of the journey came when her beloved aunt died from asthma.  That spurred Tolu on to focus on lifestyle medicine so that what she imparts will outlive her.  Big picture thinking, and wanting what’s best for each person, are hallmarks of who she is.  Tolulope emphasizes the value of recognizing and nurturing one's own unique talents, and not being distracted by comparing oneself to others.  Here, here!

Her 2023 takeaways?  This was a “stretchy” year and she realized, “Our challenges are not meant to break us but to increase our capacity.”  Mic drop.  And her looks ahead into 2024?  “It is never too late.”  You can make positive changes, try new things, live your best life in the later decades in your 50’s, 60’s and 70’s.  Follow her advice: don’t give up.

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“Time leaves no fruit on the tree.”  This is a lyric from a John Mayer song and a phrase that Johanna Lobo lives by.  It reminds her to seize the day and not put off important or enjoyable things so she takes the advice to heart daily.  Another practice is paying attention to self-talk.  Are you harder on yourself than you would be to anyone else?  If so, stop.  Be as good to yourself as you would be to someone you loved, which should include you.

If you believe you are capable then by all means step out, and take a risk.  It will take courage Johanna explains as the two are woven together in ways hard to describe.  If you are courageous, you will be more confident.  If you are confident, you will be more courageous.  These two characteristics, truly are something we can all have.  You just plain have to feel it inside, and allow yourself the time to get better at it.  Then watch out!

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"You wouldn't worry so much about what others think of you if you realized how seldom they do." - Eleanor Roosevelt.  This is the quote Amy DeFehr and I could not quite recall.  It’s so true and one we should remember because the fear of what others think is the number one reason we don’t try things.

Amy defined confidence as, “a feeling of knowing you can do anything, taking it out of the heart and into the head. I don’t need anyone to tell me, because I know.”

Here are Amy’s 3 suggestions to increase confidence:

You have to do things that scare you; get past the feeling, once you do one it leads you to the next

Do something that is a release, accomplish something that is hard (like a workout) or get in nature

Surround yourself with really good people; they see you, know you, and are cheering you on

Amy has been on the podcast before in Walking Off a Cliff episode 26.

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What do you think of this definition of confidence?  A place of belief in oneself that is unshakable.  This week’s guest, Donna Cravotta, had a lot to say about women over 50 owning who they are and not caring what others think.  And that spells confidence.  She shares that these women are a bridge, a bridge between how life was and how life's going to be.  It’s a special moment in time.

It began after her frustration with the lack of representation for women of a certain age in mainstream media along with her determination to create a platform for them.  Donna created, "The Real 50 Over 50 Visibility Project: The Wisdom Revolution,” which aims to uncover and amplify the stories of women over 50 who are changing the world.  She is hard at work providing ways for them to connect and collaborate. These untold stories are important for us all.

You can find Donna here Donna Cravotta Media Group.

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It all changed when she read Untamed by Glennon Doyle.  Elyse Muscha recognized herself in the story and what followed was an evolution of who she knew she was.  The confidence came through feeling comfortable in her own skin.  That involved some risk taking because one of the biggest lessons for her was the realization that complacency is the enemy of confidence.   

Elyse shared these practical suggestions to minimize the negativity and maximize the confidence.

You need to surround yourself with positive people (those that build you up)

Take the risk (do it scared - step on the gas, yellow lights can be complacency)

Mirror time (talk to yourself like you would to others, the more you hear it, the more you will be rewired to believe it)

Take the time to fill your cup (self-care is a must)

To follow Elyse’s blog you can find it at The Prismatic Pencil Box.

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Wise.  Powerful.  Friend.  That is how I would describe this week’s guest, Arlana Scola as she shared many inspiring thoughts about confidence.  Like her definition: it  is knowing in the deepest part of yourself you’ve got it.  Even in the hard times.  This is especially true as Arlana’s foundation comes from her relationship with Christ, within that she doesn’t have to worry about anything.

Arlana’s three suggestions to strengthen your confidence muscle?

Decide what you want to build confidence in: whatever it is (like public speaking)

Make a plan of how you’re going to do it (practice in front of mirror, record)

Go out and do it!

It’s ok if you fall on our face because doing so is a great teacher.  You can assess and grow the muscle.  If you thwart or stop you won’t make any progress so get out there and try something.

You can find Arlana at Arlana's website and by email Arlana's email.

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