Unapologetically Human with Dan Boivin

In this episode, I share a deep and wide-ranging conversation with my friend, and men's coach, Colin Cummings.

Follow Colin on IG @iamcoachcolin!

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Let's connect!

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Topics covered/touched upon in this episode:

• The importance of community

• Navigating identity changes, being true to ourselves, and becoming secure in who you are

• Cultivating a mindset of gratitude

• The policing of masculinity on men by other men

• My experiences coming out as bisexual to my family and friends, and how this relates to common challenges people face outside of anything to do with sexuality, such as coming out of the "God closet"

• The need to heal the divide between science and religion, the importance of having things that are sacred, and how we are now living in a post-secular world

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Other things mentioned/to check out:

• Stoic philosophy (such as from best-selling author, Ryan Holiday)

• Ray Dalio's Principles for Dealing with the Changing World Order

• The Munk Debates, and Dialogues series, and Podcast

• Dr. Stephen Porges and Polyvagal Theory

• Healing childhood trauma program, Road to Hope

• Personal and professional growth programs from Landmark

• Mixed-orientation relationships

• Intermittent fasting and the human microbiome

• Eric Thomas, ET The Hip-Hop Preacher

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UH's theme music was composed by Akira The Don. He's amazing...check out his MEANINGWAVE UNIVERSE!

Lyrics and co-production by, yours truly, Max Draxby.

In this episode, I bring back Sofia Pacitti for Part 2 where we talk all about the rollercoaster that is relationships.

Follow Sofia on IG @fiatheartist!

Topics covered/touched upon:

• Monogamy vs different types of open relationships, namely, polyamory or ethical non-monogamy (ENM)

• The importance of communication no matter what kind of relationship dynamics you're in, intimate or otherwise

• Our cultural stories about relationships vs reality

• Giving yourself the time and space to figure yourself out, and how challenging it can be

• Boundaries, self-sabotage, desires, relationship rituals, phases and stages, resentment, and more!

Other things mentioned/to check out:

• My first EP, Angel Numbers by Spiritual Superheroes (featuring me, a couple of my best and most talented friends, and some other real cool cats!)

• WellnessTogether.ca (free therapy for Ontario, Canada residents) and BetterHelp.com online therapy

• Aubrey Marcus on Open Relationships

• World-renowned relationship and sex therapist, Esther Perel

• TED Radio Hour and StarTalk Radio podcasts on the history of human promiscuity (I can't seem to find the one I referenced, but please reach out to let me know if you find it! Haha)

UH's theme music was composed by Akira The Don. He's amazing...check out his MEANINGWAVE YT channel! Lyrics and co-production by, yours truly, Max Draxby.

For more from Unapologetically Human with Dan Boivin, follow us on Instagram:

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Today's episode is about the beauty of blossoming new friendships.

Topics covered/touched upon:

• How mindblowing different languages are/communication in general.

• Creativity, art and entrepreneurship, how we go through creative phases, and even creating ourselves is a creative process.

• Monetizing our creative pursuits.

• Making declarations and commitments, and how synchronicities show up in our lives.

• How big a part of our life work is and how so many people have, as David Graeber put it, Bullshit Jobs.

• How so many of us die spiritually, mentally, and emotionally, long before physically.

• Everything being a chaotic gongshow mess.

• Road to Hope, a program I took a few years ago about understanding and healing from childhood trauma.

• "The Secret" of manifestation.

• The scientific story/explanation of the universe/multiverse.

• Learning to pay attention to how our interests choose us, and jumping on magical opportunities.

• Ethical Non-Monogamy and Polyamory.

• Integrating massive core identity changes.

• Having conversations with ourselves and "council meetings" with our higher selves.

• Taking risks in the face of resistance, internal barriers, and defense mechanisms, and using fear as the roadmap we should head toward rather than away from.

• Figuring life out as we go, and going with the flow.

Other things mentioned/to check out: • My friend Tactile Mind's erotic braille art.

UH's theme music was composed by Akira The Don. He's amazing, check out his MEANINGWAVE YouTube channel here!

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In this episode, I sit down with my friend Jordan and we talk about why I haven't made a new podcast episode for almost a year and a half, and a bit of what I have been up to...ie, the ongoing battle with resistance to creative pursuits, persevering through setbacks, and pivoting into new directions. I tell Jordan about what I had intended this next episode to be about and why I never followed through with it, which includes a shattered belief about myself. Other topics touched on: • Cognitive biases and logical fallacies • Some of the most impactful moments of my life • Dr. Nadine Burke-Harris' work on Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) • How it's hard not to connect with your people when you're in your purpose • How important it is to reach out and check on your people • Climbing the mountains that are our big dreams and goals • Progress over perfection • An Easter egg at the end of the episode Some other things mentioned to check out: • Mindblowing National Geographic '101' series videos • human.biodigital.com • Munk Dialogue with world-renowned historian, Timothy Snyder, on authoritarianism and its 21st century dangers • Amazing books by Steven Pressfield: The War of Art, Turning Pro, and Do The Work Where you can find Jordan: FB: Jordna Lindo IG: @unite.infinity YouTube: askinfinity Twitter: askinfinity_ As always, thanks so much for listening! Truly.

In this episode, I share my thoughts on how this pandemic is political, and how it can be seen as a window into some of our greatest challenges as a species, both historically and going forward.

I share a lot of uncomfortable truths I think many of us need to think about and hear, about how most of us are illiterate in the understanding and languages of science, technology, economics, politics, law, business and power that dominate our world, and how we need to take a good hard look at ourselves, individually and collectively, as to how we got here.

I muse on just how laughably absurd so many things are, and how we need to do our best to get our information from reputable and reliable sources—rather than monolithic conspiracy theories—if we're to understand what's actually going on and do something to improve matters. And I end by sharing reasons for hope and optimism and what we can do, and what some of my favourite sources for information are, namely:

• Munk Debates and Dialogues (for important and meaningful conversations with experts, and currently focused on how coronavirus will affect our world going forward) • Future Crunch (for great news in science, tech, business, government, philanthropy, and some fun...including their coronavirus daily dozen good news stories) • Kurgesagt (one of my favourite things on the internet...amazing animated videos about science, technology, philosophy, and more) • Good Food Institute (for the future of food and food policy) • Citizen University (for understanding power dynamics and civic duty) • James Clear (for expertise in habits and behaviour) • TED Talks and NPR's Ted Radio Hour (for amazing ideas worth spreading and cutting-edge research in many fields) • Nafeez Ahmad's Insurge Intelligence (for deep-dive political investigations about the depth of the shit we find ourselves in and challenges that lie ahead) Other sources not mentioned:

• Masterclass, MentorBox, and MindValley (for great and relatively affordable online learning spaces) • Peter Diamandis and Abundance Insider (for a look into the rapidly evolving technology and advancements of the future, happening right now) • Dandapani (for wisdom and guidance about how our minds work, meditation, and how to use our minds to create the life we want to live) • Richard Davidson and the Center for Healthy Minds (for new research into the science of mental health and wellbeing) • Yuval Noah Harari (for an understanding of the history and future of the human species). Enjoy. Rate and Review. Share. Provide Feedback.

Coronavirus has flipped the world on its head. These are troubling times we find ourselves in, rife with fear and uncertainty, causing us to question what's really going on and who we can trust to inform us truthfully about what's happening in our world.

Times like these breed distrust and so, naturally, many people are questioning everything, and with that comes the proliferation of conspiracy theories being passed around.

Some just unproven theories, some proven facts, many being enough to shatter our worldview and fill us with paralyzingly difficult emotions.

In this episode, I share some personal accounts of having gotten deep into conspiracy culture in my youth, and how I navigate this type of information now, both with an open mind and choosing how I respond to it so that it doesn't severely and negatively impact my physical and mental wellbeing as it has in the past.

I acknowledge how deep many of the political and social issues we face truly are while challenging listeners to be objective about what the most effective use of our time is, despite how monolithic our problems may be.

I also advise people to take caution if they intend to journey too deep down the proverbial rabbit hole, and that it's probably better to not waste your time there.

In this episode, I wonder about who the leaders are on this organic spaceship we are all on together, and dive into some of the things that are holding us back and at the heart of our individual and collective challenges.

I reflect on the journey I've been on for these past few years, first picking myself up from the proverbial rock bottom I had landed myself in—learning many tools to overcome the mental health challenges and self-worth issues I was struggling with—to working toward sharing my story and experiences with others with the intention of helping them with where they're at, and, more recently, training myself to show up as a leader for myself and others in my life and in the world.

And I wonder when you will join me.

In this episode, I chat with my good friend, and neuroscientist, Sofia Raitsin.

Topics Covered:

• That this was take #2 for us to record • The neurochemistry of depression • The overprescribing of psychiatric medications and their relative ineffectiveness compared to the Placebo Effect • How the environmental and behavioural issues that underly mental health issues like depression and anxiety are not addressed by taking medication, which amounts to putting a bandaid on to cover up the symptoms and also leads to other undesirable side effects • How our lifestyle choices are a major factor in our mental health and wellness • The difference between a predisposition and a predetermination when it comes to our potential genetic inheritance of mental health issues and how our choices determine how our genes are expressed • How non-pharmaceutical treatments, such as Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, and rigorously training ourselves to think differently is one of the most powerful tools we can use to cope with the things life throws at us • That exposure to our fears is what helps us to overcome them • That underneath all of our social fears and insecurities, and our fear of rejection, is ultimately the fear of death • If Lindt chocolate would like to sponsor the podcast because it helps with depression much faster than antidepressants • Learning to love fear and see it as a guiding light, showing us the roadmap to the treasures we seek • The effects on our mental health from having access to so much information about the problems in the world vs. using these larger issues as an excuse to not take responsibility for the more personal nature of our individual mental health challenges • Sofia challenges me to reconsider my thoughts on this as I share my story of how the 2008 global financial collapse changed the course of my life and that paying attention to world issues has affected my mental health and wellbeing • The need to take ownership over and responsibility for our lives in order to overcome learned helplessness, push ourselves out of our comfort zone, and face the hard work and discomfort necessary to improve mental health issues •Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs, social belonging, and the social disconnection at the heart of issues like depression and addiction • The difference between having a fixed mindset and a growth mindset in our ability to fix, change, and transform our lives • Recognizing no one else is going to do the work for us. No one can. It's up to us You can find and follow Sofia and check out her beautiful artwork @philosofi_art on IG.

It's my mom's birthday today y'all!

This is a birthday love letter dedicated to my mom, which I believe also has some messages we could all use from time to time.

If you see my mom, Vanda, interacting with anywhere this is posted, please feel free to give her some birthday love!

It is my pleasure to introduce my favourite person to communicate with, my love, my partner on this wild journey we call life, Justine.

In this episode, we talk a lot about experiencing and overcoming resistance, as Justine was feeling quite a bit herself about coming on the show when we had planned to.

We also discuss:

• Not having to be perfect and showing up vulnerably as you are. • Envisioning how you want each major area of your life to be and how you're going to show up in order to make that your reality. • The importance of being grounded in the present moment. • Flipping the "what if?" negative game to the "what if?" positive game. • Taking the opportunities life presents you with because you'll never get the same opportunity twice. • That life and the universe, relationships with others and more opportunities open up when we show up and take action, regardless of how we feel. • How much of a magical mystery our existence is, and to not take it for granted. • Death as the grand motivator for our lives because, even if we do get to reincarnate, we will never be this version of ourselves again. • How everything we think, feel and do are things we learned and we have the power to transform all of it through practice so that we can enjoy our lives more. • The amazing power we have as human beings to choose in each and every moment. • The healing power of our breath.