In “The Things I Didn’t Say,” Harley unpacks the quiet months — the ones filled with background sadness, heavy masking, and the exhaustion that sits behind her smile. She opens up about staying silent when the world, work, school, and the people around her made it easier to swallow her truth than speak it.

This episode explores grief, burnout, the ache of feeling out of place, and the loneliness that lingers even in crowded rooms. Harley shares how music became her language when words failed, how joining a chorus helped her reclaim her voice, and how she’s learning to exist in a world that asks Black women to be everything except tired.

This is an intimate, unfiltered look at the things she never said out loud — until now.

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Healing is messy. Sex is complicated. And sometimes… having a job doesn’t fix everything. In this episode of Unapologetically Spicy, Harley gets real about her journey through unemployment, trauma, and reclaiming her relationship with her body and intimacy. From the painful, unexpected lessons of healing, to unpacking hypersexuality as survival, to redefining what intimacy really means—this episode is raw, reflective, and unapologetically honest.

Whether you’re navigating your own healing journey, questioning society’s messages about sex, or just need to hear that it’s okay to take things one step at a time—Harley’s got you.

Trigger warning: conversations around sexual abuse, domestic violence, and intimate trauma. Take care of yourself and listen when you’re ready.

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In this episode of Unapologetically Spicy, Harley peels back the layers of frustration, burnout, and unspoken labor that come with living in shared spaces — especially as a neurodivergent Black woman. From crusty dishes and crunchy floors to broken promises and broken (metaphorical) dishwashers, Harley explores how chores in adulthood can trigger deep-rooted childhood wounds and reignite old survival patterns.

She breaks down the emotional toll of being “the responsible one,” the people-pleasing habits that are hard as hell to unlearn, and the heartbreak of realizing that grace without accountability will bleed you dry.

If you’ve ever cleaned up messes you didn’t make, stayed silent to “keep the peace,” or felt like a ghost in your own home — this episode is for you.

Plus, Harley shares a life-changing framework called the Accountability Formula by Joe Nucci Therapy that’ll help you protect your peace without losing your mind (or your mop).

Tune in if you’re ready to stop overfunctioning, reclaim your sanctuary, and finally say: “I’m not your mom — clean the damn kitchen.”

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This Mother’s Day, we’re not sugarcoating it.

In this deeply personal and emotionally raw episode, Harley opens up about the complexities of motherhood, loss, estrangement, and the invisible grief that lingers in the in-between. From the pain of almost-motherhood and childless step-parenting, to the ache of being the daughter of an emotionally absent mother, Motherhood in the In-Between: A Love Letter to the Almosts is an unflinching reflection on what it means to nurture without recognition, to grieve without language, and to heal without a blueprint.

This is a love letter to the “almosts.” The not-quite-mamas. The daughters who had to mother themselves. The women who carry generations in their hands without ever being called "Mom."

If Mother’s Day feels complicated for you—you are not alone.
You are seen. You are valid. And this one’s for you.

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In this raw and soul-stirring episode, Harley kicks off 2025 with a vulnerable reflection on healing from the deep wounds caused by narcissistic parents and partners. From the betrayal of a mother who chose appearances over protection, to the emotional unraveling after leaving an abusive relationship, Harley unpacks the tangled roots of trauma, identity, and love. This episode is a healing circle for anyone navigating the grief of what should have been, the anger of what was, and the courage it takes to reclaim your voice. Trigger warning: This episode includes discussions of emotional abuse and pregnancy loss.

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Spotify said that my creator personality is the Non-Conformist. But my 2024 wrapped said I had to learn some hard lessons for 2025.

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One of the roles in a narcissistic family is the "Perfect Child." We start to unpack what that looks like in this episode.

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This deeply personal episode is about being the only child of a complex parent, and it's the beginning of what's most likely going to be an ongoing series about narcissism.

If you relate to any of this, feel free to share your story or just say hi.

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Finally, the self-care episode! But also, we can't ignore Kamala Harris and Sonya Massey in the news.

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References used:

Protecting My Peace: Embracing Inner Beauty and Ancestral Power (Audiobook) - https://amzn.to/4dw7hAX (Please note that this is an Amazon Affiliate link, so I get a commission if you decide to purchase from this link!)

https://www.ourbodiesourselves.org/health-info/35-self-care-tips-for-black-women/https://marsellwc.com/how-black-women-can-practice-self-care-for-mental-wellness/

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