Unapologetically Weird With Tobare!

What happens when you realize the friendships you spent your whole life glorifying were built on people-pleasing? On this episode of Unapologetically Weird With Tobare, Tobare takes a deeply honest look at her lifelong obsession with finding her "chosen family," the painful reality of bullying and feeling like an outcast in school, and the exhausting cycle of trying to be chosen. From childhood TV-fueled fantasies of "girl squads" to recovering from chronic people-pleasing, this episode is a raw, somatic exploration of what it truly means to decenter friendship, drop the performance, and find peace in solitude.

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What happens when an awkward, book-loving student reaches her breaking point with a high school bully? On this episode of Random Unapologetically Weird Moments, Tobare dives into her archives to share a hilarious and mischievous true story from her junior secondary school days in Lagos. From dealing with pre-teen body shaming and late-blooming insecurities to exacting the ultimate, petty revenge, this episode is all about embracing the messy, unfiltered reality of growing up.

If you've ever felt out of place or wanted sweet, harmless revenge on someone who underestimated you, this episode will make you feel totally seen.

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What happens when your passion slowly turns into survival?

After three years away from the microphone, Tobare begins unpacking one of the biggest reasons behind her absence. In this deeply personal episode, she reflects on the burnout that changed her life, the realities of toxic Nigerian work culture, and how constantly proving your worth can leave you questioning it altogether.

This isn't just a conversation about long hours or difficult workplaces. It's about gaslighting, emotional exhaustion, the lack of empathy many employees experience, and the moment she realized that choosing herself wasn't giving up, it was necessary.

If you've ever tied your value to productivity, struggled with workplace burnout, or wondered why so many people normalize unhealthy work environments, this episode is for you.

This is only the beginning. Over the coming weeks, Tobare will continue sharing the stories behind the last three years; one chapter at a time.

In this episode:

• Burnout and emotional exhaustion
• Toxic Nigerian work culture
• Workplace gaslighting
• Mental and physical health
• Rediscovering purpose
• Choosing yourself
• The return of UWWT

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After three years away, I'm finally back behind the microphone. This isn't the full story, just the beginning. In this short episode, I share why UWWT went quiet, how burnout, life, and unexpected challenges changed me, and why I'm finally ready to find my voice again. Over the coming weeks, I'll be unpacking everything that happened, one story at a time. Welcome to a new chapter of Unapologetically Weird with Tobare.

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Get ready for a wild ride on the latest 'Random Unapologetically Weird Moments' segment! 😂 I'm sharing cringe-worthy stories about personal space gone wrong and how it led to some accusations of antisocial behavior. Tune in for a dose of laughter and relatable chaos! 🤷‍♀️ #WeirdMoments #SpaceFails #AntisocialComedy

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In this thought-provoking episode, Tobare bravely opens up about her personal encounters with death and how these experiences have profoundly shaped her perspective on life. Join her as she discusses why it's crucial to break the taboo surrounding death, fostering a healthy conversation around this sensitive topic. Explore the transformative power of embracing the reality of mortality and gaining a deeper appreciation for the preciousness of life.Trigger Warning: Sensitive Topic#EmbracingLife #BreakingTheTaboo #DiscussingDeath

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In the second episode of "Random Unapologetically Weird Moments," Tobare recounts a liberating girl power moment where she said "no" to taking on someone else's task. Join Tobare as she explores the power of setting boundaries and how saying "no" can lead to unexpected moments of self-empowerment. What is one task you need to say "no" to in order to prioritize your own well-being?

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Join Tobare for a new segment of "Random Unapologetic Weird Moments," where she recounts unexpected and liberating experiences. In the first episode, "Dancing Queen," Tobare shares her story of a 10-second dancing encounter with a stranger at the mall that made her feel alive. Celebrate the beauty of unapologetic self-expression and reflect on your own random, weird moments. What is one moment where you let your weirdness shine through?

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Have we become obsessed with romantic relationships? It seems that's what everyone wants to talk about and what everyone wishes for. So much so that we neglect other aspects of our lives? Is love the only thing that can make our lives complete or make us the happiest? All this and more in today's episode!

Can you relate to today's episode? What makes you the happiest? Do you think romantic relationships are overrated?

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Life is a series of ups and downs, with the occasional detour into daydreams and revenge fantasies. For me, it's not so occasional! Take a dip into my world of some of the most unreasonable yet relatable fantasies.

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