Unbecoming Me with Toi

In this episode of "Unbecoming Me," host Toi shares her personal journey of healing and growth, exploring the concept of "unbecoming" to become your true self. She discusses healthy healing practices, including hypnosis, journaling, breathwork, reiki, and traditional therapy, sharing her own experiences and insights. Toi emphasizes the importance of embracing diverse healing modalities, letting go of self-judgment, and focusing on personal progress. She encourages listeners to explore these practices, offering support and resources for anyone interested in deepening their healing journey. The episode inspires self-acceptance and holistic well-being.

Timestamps

Overview of Healthy Healing (00:00:45)Toi explains the concept of healthy healing and introduces various healing modalities alongside traditional therapy.

Hypnosis and Inner Child Work (00:01:35)Discussion of hypnosis as a healing tool, including personal experiences addressing childhood wounds.

Journaling for Emotional Release (00:03:04)Explains the importance of journaling for processing and releasing negative thoughts and emotions.

Overcoming Negative Thinking (00:04:33)Addresses the impact of negative thoughts and the importance of shifting to a positive mindset.

Comparison and Personal Growth (00:05:50)Toi discusses avoiding comparison with others and focusing on personal progress and gratitude.

Breathwork and Reiki Therapy (00:08:21)Introduces breathwork and reiki therapy as modalities for stress reduction, relaxation, and energy alignment.

Encouragement and Resources (00:09:50)Encourages listeners to try healthy healing modalities and offers to provide resources and professional references.

Powerful Quotes from the Episode

"I've been through the fire, releasing who I thought I had to be so that I could finally become who I'm meant to be."

"I've always thought that I wanted to be the best person I can be, better than I was yesterday."

"It's okay to feel down about not being where you want to be, but get through those feelings and be grateful for the lessons you've learned."

"Breathwork really does work if you learn how to calm yourself with breathing and not let anxiety take over."

"It's okay to exhale, to rest, to relax, and not be stressed out."

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"Healing isn't about becoming someone new — it's about returning to who you were meant to be."

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In episode 4 of "Unbecoming Me," host Toi explores the importance of self-care and self-evaluation, emphasizing that self-care looks different for everyone. She discusses practices like spa visits, exercise, journaling, and inner child and shadow work as vital for healing. Toi encourages listeners to prioritize their well-being, embrace change, and regularly engage in self-care activities. She reminds listeners that taking care of oneself is essential, as ultimately, you are responsible for your own well-being. The episode ends with a call to action to discover and commit to personal self-care routines.

Timestamps

Different Forms of Self-Care (00:01:38)Explores diverse self-care activities: spa, retail therapy, exercise, journaling, and personal routines.

Self-Care in Everyday Life (00:03:01)Discusses simple self-care acts like reading, bathing, and making time for oneself amid daily responsibilities.

The Importance of Prioritizing Yourself (00:04:22)Emphasizes not neglecting oneself while caring for others and the necessity of breathing and pausing.

Shadow Work and Facing Your Darkness (00:06:47)Describes shadow work, confronting negative emotions, and the importance of addressing hidden pain.

Self-Reflection and Embracing Change (00:08:03)Encourages self-reflection, adapting to change, and understanding oneself through different life seasons.

Powerful Quotes from the Episode

'Over the past five years, I've been through the fire, releasing who I thought I had to be so I could finally become who I'm meant to be.'

'It's okay to not be okay, and taking that time of not being okay is self-care for some people.'

'At the end of the day, the only person you're left with is yourself.'

'Sometimes you're not going to be okay, and you have to be okay with sitting with that and getting through it to get to the other side.'

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"At the end of the day, the only person you're left with is yourself—taking care of yourself is not selfish, it's essential."

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In this third episode of "Unbecoming Me," host Toi explores "The Lonely Season," a period of solitude that often follows outgrowing relationships, friendships, or life situations. Toi shares personal stories of navigating loneliness during major life transitions and emphasizes how this challenging time is essential for self-discovery, healing, and growth. She encourages listeners to embrace the discomfort, confront their flaws, and take accountability, highlighting that the lonely season—though difficult—ultimately leads to deeper self-understanding and transformation. The episode concludes with a promise to discuss practical self-care strategies in the next installment.

Timestamps

Defining the Lonely Season (00:00:44) Toi explains what the "lonely season" is and when it typically occurs in life.

Lonely Season in Friendships (00:01:29) Toi shares personal experiences of outgrowing friendships and the resulting loneliness.

Travel and Self-Discovery (00:03:07) Toi discusses how travel and new experiences during lonely times contributed to her self-discovery.

Gratitude for Growth (00:05:00) Toi expresses gratitude for the experiences and people that shaped her during lonely seasons.

Self-Reflection and Accountability (00:07:56) Toi emphasizes the importance of self-reflection, dating oneself, and personal growth during lonely times.

Facing Yourself & Shadow Work (00:09:02) Toi discusses the necessity of confronting personal flaws and doing "shadow work" during the lonely season.

Powerful Quotes from the Episode

"Had I not done that, I would not have become the person I am today."

"The lonely season when it comes to relationships has been the most difficult."

"During the lonely season, I'm telling you from absolute experience, you're going to learn who you are."

"I allowed that person to use me as a solution to a problem I never created."

"During this lonely season, from my experience, the one person you can't lie to is yourself."

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"The lonely season isn't punishment—it's preparation for who you're becoming."

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In this throwback episode of "Unbecoming Me," host Toi reflects on her introduction to podcasting over five years ago. She shares a deeply personal story about considering a podcast centered on a difficult, controlling relationship with someone who was incarcerated. Toi discusses how that painful chapter became a catalyst for her healing and growth, ultimately shaping the podcast's mission. She emphasizes the importance of embracing one's true self and encourages listeners to see their own challenging seasons as opportunities for transformation.

Timestamps

Throwback: Discovering Podcasting (00:00:44)Toi recounts her first exposure to podcasting over five years ago and her initial curiosity about the medium.

Enrolling in a Podcasting Class (00:01:40)Toi describes joining a podcasting class and considering a show about a difficult relationship during a low point in her life.

Reflecting on a Transformative Relationship (00:03:18)Toi reflects on how a controlling relationship became a turning point, leading to personal growth and a "shedding season."

Gratitude and Lessons Learned (00:05:01)Toi expresses gratitude for not making the relationship public, recognizing it as a lesson and not her true identity.

Powerful Quotes from the Episode

That relationship wasn't the best, and as reflective as I can be, it was a turning point that made me go through a lonely season and a shedding season."

"I grieved that relationship when it was over. It was very controlling, very traumatizing, and very hurtful."

"When it came to the headspace and where I was in my life, I wasn't happy, I wasn't feeling worthy, I wasn't positive, I wasn't cheerful, I wasn't me."

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In this episode of Unbecoming Me, host Toi shares her deeply personal journey of transformation after a challenging relationship with an incarcerated partner. Reflecting on how this experience led her through loneliness, self-discovery, and healing, Toi emphasizes the importance of shedding old identities to embrace authenticity. She encourages listeners to honor their own "unbecoming" seasons, offering hope and empowerment for anyone navigating pain or change. The episode closes with a reminder to rate, review, and share the podcast, inviting others to join in the journey of healing and self-growth.

Timestamps

Introduction to "The Lockdown Lifestyle Podcast" (00:00:43)Toi Waddles introduces her podcast, sharing her experience dating an inmate and the realities of relationships affected by incarceration.

Realities of Love and Relationships (00:02:51)Discusses the unpredictability of love, personal relationship experiences, and the importance of honesty.

Learning to Love and Be Loved (00:11:53)Addresses how some people struggle with love due to lack of experience or past trauma.

Advice for Women: Self-Respect (00:14:06)Encourages women to avoid being doormats, stand up for themselves, and expect respect and love.

Mutual Respect and Boundaries (00:18:11)Discusses the importance of mutual respect, handling disagreements maturely, and maintaining healthy boundaries.

Teamwork in Relationships (00:20:23)Stresses the need for teamwork, mutual understanding, and loyalty in relationships, especially under challenging circumstances.

Lessons from Incarceration and Loneliness (00:24:03)Toi reflects on what being "locked up" teaches about relationships, loneliness, and self-awareness.

Powerful Quotes from the Episode

"You can't help who you fall in love with."

"Love will have you doing some crazy things."

"There are so many people walking around not knowing how to love themselves because they were never loved."

"You just have to be honest with yourself."

"You are supposed to be loved, appreciated, adored, and admired."

"If I'm not your queen, then you need to let me go."

"Your unbecoming is the beginning of everything beautiful that you never even knew you'd live within."

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Welcome to Unbecoming Me with Toi! Over the past five years, Toi has journeyed through life's challenges, letting go of who she thought she had to be so she could become her true self. In this podcast, she shares insights on healing, personal growth, and shedding old layers to embrace the person you were always meant to be. Unbecoming Me is here to inspire and guide you as you begin your own journey of transformation and self-discovery.

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"Unbecoming is the first step to becoming your true self."

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