UNBOTHERED

If you’re an entrepreneur, influencer, or small business owner who wants to show up online - but still feels afraid to be fully seen - this episode is for you.

Let’s be real: putting yourself out there is scary. Whether it’s sharing your true opinions, posting a full-body pic, recording that first video, or letting your audience get to know the real you… there’s a fear of rejection that can hold even the most driven person back.

In this episode, I’m sharing my personal journey of moving through that fear including the photo shoot that pushed me way outside my comfort zone and how I’ve built the muscle of being unbothered by what people think online.

If you want to stop hiding, connect more deeply with your audience, and grow your confidence as you grow your business, you’ll love this conversation.

Here’s what you’ll learn:

• Why waiting until you “feel ready” will keep you stuck, and what to do instead
• The #1 mindset shift that helps you show up even when you’re scared
• Why posting uncomfortable content is the best way to build courage and connection
• How to intentionally build an audience who loves the real you
• How being vulnerable online gives your audience powerful permission to do the same
• Practical ways to baby-step your way into being more visible and authentic

Bottom line: Your people are out there and they want to see you. The more you let them in, the more connection, impact, and growth you’ll create. Let’s flex that courage muscle together.

Are you ready to join the movement and become unbothered? Visit https://stan.store/theerikaz and subscribe to Unbothered and follow me on TikTok and on Facebook to stay connected. Share this episode with a friend who needs to hear this message and let’s spread the revolution together.

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Hey, welcome back to Unbothered, where we remind ourselves again and again that our worth is not measured by mirrors—even though sometimes we catch a glimpse of ourselves and start spiraling. I had one of those moments yesterday, in the grocery store of all places, and I wanted to walk you through it while it’s still fresh. This episode is for those days when you don’t want to care about your body, but the little voice in your head starts being a real bitch anyway.

What I talk about in this episode:

• What happened when I caught a glimpse of myself in the meat case mirror at the store
• The thoughts that spiraled in (bags, dull skin, frizzy hair—ugh)
• The power of interrupting the pattern and choosing a different belief
• Why the first thought is usually the conditioned one
• What I used to do when this happened vs. what I do now
• How I’ve trained myself not to treat these thoughts as facts
• The difference between acknowledging what you see and labeling it a flaw
• Why we can’t expect to never have negative body image moments
• What to say to yourself in real time to pull yourself out of it
• How to move through these moments faster without making yourself wrong for having them

My takeaway for you:

You’re allowed to have “I feel gross” moments. They don’t make you a failure in your healing or self-worth journey. They make you human. The work is in how you respond. Can you interrupt the spiral? Can you treat yourself with love even when you don’t love how you look that day? That’s the real practice. That’s how we stay unbothered—even when we’re bothered.

Are you ready to join the movement and become unbothered? Visit https://stan.store/theerikaz and subscribe to Unbothered and follow me on TikTok and on Facebook to stay connected. Share this episode with a friend who needs to hear this message and let’s spread the revolution together.

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Summer’s knocking, and no—we’re not talking about “getting beach ready.” In this episode of Unbothered, I’m diving into how to truly enjoy summer in your body as it is. This isn’t about loving your body or flaunting it for attention. It’s about living your life without letting body shame keep you on the sidelines. If the thought of putting on a bathing suit or shorts makes you cringe, I’ve got you. I’ve been there, and I want to help you move through it—not by fixing your body, but by unlearning the BS you’ve been taught about it.

What I cover in this episode:

• Why we’re ditching the idea of a “summer body” for good
• The absurd pressure diet culture puts on us this time of year
• My personal journey of not wearing shorts for 20+ years—and finally reclaiming that choice
• How to desensitize yourself to wearing shorts or a bathing suit (starting at home!)
• Why loving the way you look isn’t the goal—but living your life is
• What it looks like to push past the inner critic and choose comfort over shame
• How to talk back to those body-shaming thoughts in the mirror
• The importance of collecting new evidence that it's safe to exist in your body now

You don’t need to wait to like your body to start living in it. Your body is not the most interesting thing about you—it’s just the vessel for this one wild, beautiful life. So if you’re tired of missing out, let this episode be your permission slip. Wear the damn shorts. Put on the bathing suit. Get in the pool. You are allowed to take up space, to feel the sun on your skin, and to live fully—right now, as you are.

Are you ready to join the movement and become unbothered? Visit https://stan.store/theerikaz and subscribe to Unbothered and follow me on TikTok and on Facebook to stay connected. Share this episode with a friend who needs to hear this message and let’s spread the revolution together.

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In today’s episode of Unbothered, I’m talking directly to my fellow moms — especially those of us who have felt crushed under the pressure of “bouncing back” after having a baby. This episode is a real, raw conversation about the harm of bounce-back culture, the way it robs us of presence in the postpartum period, and how it completely dismisses what we’re actually going through — physically, mentally, and emotionally.

I get fired up in this one, because I’ve lived it. I’ve felt the shame. I’ve obsessed over my pre-baby body. I’ve even convinced myself not to have more kids just to avoid gaining weight again. And I know I’m not alone in that. If you’ve ever struggled with your postpartum body or felt like you had to earn your worth by “snapping back,” this episode is for you.

What I cover in this episode:

• What “bounce-back culture” really is — and why it’s so toxic
• How media, social pressure, and old narratives fuel body shame after birth
• My personal experience with pregnancy, body image, and postpartum depression
• The internal battles I fought — trying to control weight gain during pregnancy
• How society sets us up to grieve our pre-baby bodies, but never supports us through it
• The emotional toll of trying to reclaim your “old self” in the middle of new motherhood
• Why we need to stop preying on new moms with weight loss messages and “Hey girl” DMs
• The deeper fear behind our obsession with looking the same — fear of rejection and abandonment
• What’s actually more supportive than trying to go back
• Why acceptance — not “body love” — is the first step toward healing

I know this stuff runs deep. I know what it feels like to look in the mirror and feel like a stranger in your own skin. And I also know that we deserve more than a culture that tells us our value lies in how fast we can erase the evidence of motherhood from our bodies. You are not alone in these feelings. You’re allowed to grieve, to be angry, and to not love your body every second. But you also deserve support, grace, and a whole lot of compassion.

Let’s challenge bounce-back culture together — for ourselves, for each other, and for every new mom who deserves more than pressure to shrink.

Are you ready to join the movement and become unbothered? Visit https://stan.store/theerikaz and subscribe to Unbothered and follow me on TikTok and on Facebook to stay connected. Share this episode with a friend who needs to hear this message and let’s spread the revolution together.

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Welcome back, my loves!

Today’s episode of Unbothered is one you’re going to feel in your bones because we’re diving into something that so many of us struggle with: perfectionism. Yep, that constant pressure to have everything just right — in our work, our appearance, our homes — is doing way more harm than good. Honestly, it’s exhausting, it’s soul-sucking, and it’s probably keeping you stuck.

I’m sharing real talk about how perfectionism shows up, why it’s such a sneaky dream-killer, and how we can start letting that shit go. I even tell you a little story about the time I almost scrapped an entire course video because of some laundry in the background — spoiler alert: I didn’t, and it ended up being exactly what someone needed to see.

In this episode, I cover:

• Why perfection is a straight-up illusion (and totally subjective)
• How perfectionism amplifies your inner critic and keeps you stuck
• The ways perfectionism shows up in our work, appearance, and even how we run our homes
• How my messy house became a permission slip for other women
• Why waiting for the “perfect time” is just procrastination in disguise
• The power of celebrating mistakes instead of shaming yourself for them
• Why self-compassion is way more important (and freeing!) than chasing perfection
• How to start flexing your courage muscle and trust yourself to handle whatever comes
• Real-life reminders that being messy, imperfect, and human is the whole point

Your biggest takeaway?

Perfectionism is not serving you. It’s keeping you from doing the things you want to do — whether that’s starting a business, launching a podcast, or just living your damn life. The goal isn’t to be perfect. The goal is to show up, be human, and give yourself permission to be messy AF.

Ask yourself this:

What would you do if you stopped waiting to be perfect?

What could you start today if you trusted yourself to handle the outcome — messy and all?

Hey, hey welcome back to Unbothered. Today’s episode is a little different, a little deeper. I’m talking about divorce- not from a place of pain, but from a place of growth. I’m coming up on five years separated and three years officially divorced, and I’ve been doing a lot of reflecting. Not just on what ended, but on what began when I decided to prioritize me. This isn’t just for folks who’ve been through a divorce-this is for anyone who’s ever felt lost in a relationship or afraid to be alone. I’m sharing how I met myself again, how I stopped chasing love just to feel worthy, and how I rebuilt my confidence from the ground up.

What I cover in this episode:

• Why I believe divorce isn’t a failure—it’s a courageous choice
• The pressure women face to be partnered and the stigma of being single
• How I started dating as “market research” for my desires (yes, really)
• My journey from self-abandonment to radical self-trust
• How motherhood and career shifts cracked open my identity
• What choosing myself actually looked like in real life
• Why I needed space—emotionally, physically, financially—to rebuild
• The power of trusting yourself to figure it the f*ck out
• What I’ve learned after three years of living on my own, free of outside influence

Whether you’re divorced, considering it, or just navigating life after a major change, this episode is a reminder that choosing yourself is not selfish. It’s powerful. And it's necessary. I hope my story gives you permission to slow down, listen in, and meet you again. You are not broken. You are becoming.

Are you ready to join the movement and become unbothered? Visit https://stan.store/theerikaz and subscribe to Unbothered and follow me on TikTok and on Facebook to stay connected. Share this episode with a friend who needs to hear this message and let’s spread the revolution together.

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Hey hey welcome back to Unbothered! Today, I’m diving into something that's been coming up a lot lately not just with my clients, but in my own life too: rest. Specifically, why so many of us feel guilty when we slow down, and why it’s time to flip the script. Rest is not laziness. Rest is not a reward you have to earn. Rest is a radical act of self-love and we’re going to unpack exactly why in today’s episode.

What I Talk About in This Episode:

• Why we feel guilty about resting (hint: capitalism and hustle culture)
• How rest is an act of self-love, not laziness
• My personal experiences around rest — from being a hairstylist to co-parenting
• How internalized "productivity = worth" messages keep us stuck
• Recognizing when rest is needed vs. when it’s slipping into avoidance
• A simple strategy to allow rest and still show up for yourself (without the shame spiral)
• Why you don't have to "earn" your rest — ever
• Giving yourself permission to recharge, guilt-free
• How to gently shift your inner dialogue when the guilt creeps in

Rest is not a luxury. It’s necessary. It’s your birthright. You don’t have to hustle for it, you don’t have to justify it, and you don’t have to beat yourself up when you need it. I’m giving you (and myself) full permission to rest without guilt, and I hope after this episode, you feel empowered to do the same. Next time that inner critic starts up, just say it out loud: "I'm not doing that today."

You deserve peace. You deserve rest. Always.

Are you ready to join the movement and become unbothered? Visit https://stan.store/theerikaz and subscribe to Unbothered and follow me on TikTok and on Facebook to stay connected. Share this episode with a friend who needs to hear this message and let’s spread the revolution together.

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In today’s episode, I’m sharing a big ol’ love note to everyone who’s been hiding from the camera. If you’ve ever said, “I’ll get in the photo once I lose weight,” or avoided pictures because you didn’t like how you looked, this is for you. I’m breaking down how to get more comfortable being seen, how to stop picking yourself apart in every photo, and how to start creating memories with you in them.

Because trust me—someday, you (and your people) are going to want those pictures.

What we cover in this episode:

• Why you don’t have to love the way you look in every picture (and that’s okay)
• How to stop waiting for confidence and start building it instead
• The story behind the “One Pic Challenge” (thanks to my 3-year-old!)
• Why taking one unfiltered, unedited photo matters more than 25 “perfect” ones
• How selfies can be a powerful tool for healing (yes, even if they’re just for you)
• Tips to stop over-editing and start normalizing what you actually look like
• The importance of booking a photo shoot just for you—not for the ‘gram, not for your partner, but because you’re worth celebrating exactly as you are

Let this episode be a reminder:

You don’t have to look flawless to be in the frame. Your body is not the problem. And you deserve to be seen and remembered—not just for how you looked, but for who you were.

Next steps if this resonated:

• Try the One Pic Challenge this week, just take one photo and let it be enough
• Post it (if you feel safe to), or keep it just for you. But take it.
• Consider booking that photo shoot you’ve been putting off,no “perfect” weight, season, or style required

You’re not here to take up the least amount of space- you’re here to be seen.

In honor of my 39th birthday (yep last year of my thirties!), I’m diving into a conversation I wish more of us were having: aging, beauty standards, and choosing not to participate in the bullshit anymore. This episode is for anyone who’s ever caught their reflection and started nitpicking wrinkles or gray hairs. I’m talking about what it actually means to feel unbothered not because those thoughts never come up, but because we get to decide not to let them run the show.

What I cover in this episode:

• Why I’m genuinely excited to turn 40 (and beyond)
• The toxic messaging around aging, especially for women
• My go-to response when I start picking myself apart in the mirror
• How to start unlearning the belief that wrinkles or gray hair are "problems"
• The connection between body neutrality and aging unbothered
• Why I stopped wearing makeup and buying anti-aging products
• What modeling self-acceptance means to me as a mom
• How choosing not to fight aging has felt like freedom
• The sneaky ways the beauty industry profits off our insecurities—and how we can opt out
• A few real questions to ask yourself if aging still feels hard

My favorite reminder in this episode:

Saying “I’m not doing that today” out loud can be such a powerful pattern interrupt. Whether it’s picking yourself apart in the mirror or buying into anti-aging messaging we don’t have to keep doing it just because we’ve always done it.

I don’t think aging is something to fear. In fact, I think it’s a privilege. I’m not here to shame anyone for their choices, but I am here to remind you that you have a choice. You don’t have to participate in the story that aging makes you less valuable. You can unsubscribe from that noise, any time you’re ready.

Are you ready to join the movement and become unbothered? Visit https://stan.store/theerikaz and subscribe to Unbothered and follow me on TikTok and on Facebook to stay connected. Share this episode with a friend who needs to hear this message and let’s spread the revolution together.

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Welcome back to Unbothered. Today’s episode is kind of a continuation of the first episode this season, where I talked about decentering weight loss in the Ozempic era — but I wanted to go deeper. Let’s talk about how beauty standards, body rules, and anti-fatness have always been used as tools (or honestly, weapons) against us.

I’ve been seeing a lot on my scroll lately that sparked this conversation — the return of “skinny is in” and the rise of things like SkinnyTok. It feels like we’re right back in the 90s and early 2000s, when it was all about being thin no matter the cost. I lived through that era — magazines in the salon, before-and-after celebrity photos, the constant shaming — and it’s wild to see it being repackaged and sold to Gen Z now.

In this episode, I’m unpacking how all of this isn’t just about personal choices or preferences — it’s about control. It's about distraction. And it’s about keeping us focused on shrinking ourselves instead of expanding our power.

• The return of “heroin chic” and how beauty standards are always shifting — because they’re made up
• Why the cultural obsession with thinness is a weapon, not just a trend
• How shame is used to keep us small — literally and mentally
• My own past with dieting, overexercising, and the false promises of “miracle” weight loss solutions
• Why Ozempic and other shots aren’t the enemy, but the messaging around them is
• What fat liberation actually means and how body positivity got co-opted
• How anti-fat bias shows up in everyday life, especially in places like the doctor’s office
• A reminder that you can make personal choices without reinforcing harmful narratives
• The bigger picture — and why divesting from diet culture gives you your power back

This isn’t about shaming anyone. It’s about awareness. It’s about making choices from a place of clarity, not cultural pressure. And it’s about recognizing that this obsession with being skinny isn’t random — it’s intentional, it’s systemic, and it keeps us distracted.

We deserve to live full, rich, expansive lives in the bodies we have now. And while it’s not always easy to push back against the messages we’ve absorbed for decades, it’s powerful work. Curate your feed. Pay attention to how you talk to yourself. And remember — your body is not the problem.

Thanks for listening. If this episode resonated with you, I’d love it if you shared it with a friend or on your IG story. And if you’re ready to keep unlearning and reclaiming your energy, stay tuned — there’s more to come.

Are you ready to join the movement and become unbothered? Visit https://stan.store/theerikaz and subscribe to Unbothered and follow me on TikTok and on Facebook to stay connected. Share this episode with a friend who needs to hear this message and let’s spread the revolution together.

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