Faking orgasms, pornstar-style moans, pretending to like things you're really not into... Performative sex shows up in a whole range of ways. There are some truly valid reasons why women are faking their pleasure during sex, but what lives on the other side of performative sex is a drool-worthy world of authenticity and bliss. 

Melissa Vranjes is an internationally certified Holistic Sex Coach based in New Zealand and she joins me for this episode to talk all about the impacts of performing in bed, as well as the beautiful benefits of being authentic in your sexuality. Some of the things that come up during this episode are...

And literally SO much more. This episode is here to show you that your pleasure MATTERS. 

Want to connect with Melissa? Check out her Instagram here to see how she supports hundreds of women to step past the fear and shame that sex brings and feel unbounded with the possibility of their sexuality and relationships.

Uh huh, you read that right! This episode is all about an experience that my partner and I had recently where we booked two sensual masseuses for an hour and had a BLAST together. 

It was hot, it was sensual, it was a little bit nerve-wracking. And you get to hear all about it! 

In this episode, I share with you some of the details of this sexy booking so that you can get an understanding of what this experience was like, and how you might go about doing the same thing if that's up your alley. I talk about what I would do differently if my partner and I have a similar experience again, and I also throw in some fun stuff about my past experiences with sex work and even how my partner and I met. 

I'm so excited to be able to share about this with you. 

Vulnerability consistently shows up within sex. But is it vulnerability that adds to the intimacy and depth of the experience, or does your vulnerability become overwhelming and stop you from making your desires come true? 

Having sex with the lights on, sending naked pictures, making the first move... vulnerability can be present in all of these things. And this episode is here to show you how you can view vulnerability is a positive light, rather than doing your best to repress it and avoid it. 

I'm getting vulnerable here and sharing my own experience with how I almost let my vulnerability dictate my experience of sending frisky pics to my partner, plus a whole lot of other stories, insights and tips that are going to transform how you think about and respond to your vulnerable moments. 

PLUS get your FREE TICKET to my upcoming workshop on Resurrecting your Libido here. In just 60 minutes, reconnect with your sexual energy and crank the heat up on your sex life. It's gonna be juiiiiicy. Happening on the 22nd of August at 7pm (NZ time). 

Interested in learning more about how I can support you to create a thriving relationship with your sexual self, and a life that is literally dripping with pleasure? Send me a message on IG (@_sofielouise) or flick me an email ([email protected]) and let's chat. 

The naked body does not need to be stigmatized and sexualized and surrounded by shame. Naturism is all about reversing the taboo that we've associated with getting naked, and creating safe and empowering spaces for people of all genders and sizes to liberate their relationship with their bodies. 

Rikki Yeowart is a nude yoga teacher and an avid member and coordinator of the Queensland naturist community. She loves to get naked, and she loves to empower others to do the same, safely and from a space of deep acceptance and empowerment. 

Want to hear all about the connection between body positivity and naturism, the sexualization and liberation of the naked body, and the power of naturist communities? This conversation between Rikki and I is for you. 

Check out more of Rikki's work by following the links below... 

Rikki Yeowart: Website, Facebook

Having sex without foreplay is like trying to fly a plane without a runway, or light a fire without any kindling. It is essential. And in this episode, I'm not just talking about the fun and fiery foreplay that happens in the bedroom (though this is a key aspect of the episode), but also the mindset shifts that need to happen for sex to be bloody amazing, like loving your body and building up your capacity to feel pleasure. 

If you want to have deeply pleasurable, orgasmic sex, you've got to do the prep. And in the case of foreplay, it's ridiculously fun and rewarding prep. Check out this episode to hear all the different reasons why incorporating more foreplay into your sexual experiences is going to benefit you ten-fold (no exaggeration), some spicy and intimate foreplay ideas to try, and the importance of foreplay in self-pleasure. 

Kink and BDSM are forms of sexual exploration that, unfortunately, often come seeped in shame. This shame can stop us from trying new things and it can also rob us of our pleasure. 

In this week's episode, Olivia Merwood (professional dominatrix, emotional alchemist and pleasure priestess) and I sit down with the intention of normalizing these topics. Because there's absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to get kinky! 

We chat about what it means to be a dominatrix, how you can communicate your boundaries clearly and sexily, and some tips for newbies who are wanting to try their hand at BDSM, among other things. 

Quite simply, this episode is hot as hell. 

If you've ever felt like there was something blocking your throat and stopping your from talking during sex...

Or you've been scared that communicating what you like in bed will leave your partner feeling insulted... 

The simple and implementable communication tips in this episode are going to completely transform your sex life. 

Communication is essential to having enjoyable, pleasurable sex. There's no way around it. 

But speaking up for your desires doesn't need to be awkward or uncomfortable. This episode is going to help you to communicate your turn-ons and turn-offs with ease, confidence, and in a manner that your partner is going to love. 

Get ready to learn how to love talking about sex before, during and after you get into the bedroom. 

You might have heard about conscious sex, but how about conscious sex toy use? 

Whether you've never touched a sex toy in your life, or you've got a whole bedside table drawer full of them, this episode with Sophie from Clean Satisfaction shares a new way of engaging with sex toys. 

If you've ever been worried that your partner will be insulted about you requesting to bring your sex toys into the bedroom, or you've felt like your relationship with your vibrator could be more empowering and less shameful, this episode is here to change the sex toy game. 

Gone are the days of buying shit quality toys off aliexpress that are inevitably going to mess up your vagina's pH and give you some sort of infection. 

Join us to learn all about conscious toy purchasing, how to have those "awkward" sex conversations (and make them a whole lot of fun), and how to use toys to up your self-love game. 

Want to check out the sustainable and beautiful products that Clean Satisfaction offer? Head to their website or their Instagram to feast your eyes on their wonderful creations. 

Let me know your thoughts on this episode and share all of your awkward and wonderful sex toy stories with me via Instagram or my email ([email protected]). 

I currently have limited spaces available for new 1:1 clients. Get more information and organize a free, no-pressure discovery call here. 

For so many women, sex feels like a chore. It's not all that enjoyable, it doesn't feel particularly good, it's not something that you get excited about. Perhaps you're having sex because you know your partner wants to, or because you feel like you should. 

This episode is going to completely transform that. Before you know it, you'll be having sex because you actually, genuinely want to. You'll be having sex because it is a drool-worthy experience full of more pleasure than you've ever experienced. 

Over the course of this value-packed episode, I share with you my top tips to actually enjoy sex, like the importance of speaking up for your desires, how self-pleasure is going to amplify your partnered sexual experiences, ways to stay present in the moment, and, of course, the importance of foreplay (but taking this three steps further than you ever have before). 

You're seriously going to want to be taking notes for this one. 

Let me know your thoughts and share with me how your sex life transforms after listening to this episode via Instagram (@_sofielouise) and/or email ([email protected]). 

I currently have limited spaces available for new 1:1 clients. Get more information and organize a free, no-pressure discovery call here. 

Emotional intelligence is not something that we're taught.

As a result, we often go around thinking that our emotions are here to be controlled, or repressed, or fought against.

Susie Tagarro and I sit down in this episode to break down these beliefs and to share with you why emotions (even ones like grief or anger or fear) get to be so bloody delicious. We talk about how they can be a source of so much pleasure, information and motivation, and how you can bring the skill of emotional regulation into your life by bringing your body into the equation.

Emotional intelligence will impact every aspect of your life, from business to relationships to sex. There are literally no downsides to learning more about this.

You can find Susie via her Instagram or her website. 

I'd absolutely love to hear any feedback, questions or a-ha moments that have come up for you while listening to this episode. I love chatting with you! Flick me a message through my Instagram or send me an email ([email protected]). 

I currently have limited 1:1 coaching spaces available. Get more information and organize a free, no-pressure discovery call here.