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My husband Kevin has left for a work trip to India. The last time either of us were apart internationally, our son Lincoln died. In this episode, I talk about the leading indicators that let me know I was numbing the pain I expected to feel, and the process I've grown to use when doing the hard work of incorporating and moving forward from a trigger. Borrowed from a beloved Disney Frozen 2 song "The Next Right Thing", I talk about how seeing too far into the future is unbearable, yet if we lean into the next breath, step, and choice that we can make it can be truly healing.

For any of you that make it through to the end, I did get my eggs Benedict. 

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I had the honor of speaking with my friend Katie about the love and loss of her sweet husband, Charles. She graciously shares some of her amazing adventures with Charles, how grief has changed over the last few years, challenges, comforts, and how she seeks meaning. She is such a light. I hope you enjoy our discussion.

Resources:

• If you find yourself at Arlington National Cemetery, pay your respects to Charles in Section 60 site 11190
• TAPS
• Good Grief Camp

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Before and after our recorded conversation, Katie shared with me so many cards that she and Charles wrote to one another while they were apart. It was truly a gift to witness the love these two have. They were each other's person. I hope that as you listen, it gives you strength to ask a bereaved friend or family member about their person. Sure there are some tears, but I think you may be surprised to hear all of the laughter that we shared this day. It brings us such comfort to say their names and share a lovely story. The bonds we have in this life surely transcend our transition into the next chapter and beyond.  

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I continue my interview with my husband Kevin covering the topics of grieving at work, the many kinds of grief and the challenge of relating, humanizing aspects of grief, and the future.


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In today's episode, I have the first half of an interview I did with my husband, Kevin. We sat down and discussed how becoming parents has changed our relationship, how we've grieved in similar/different ways, leveraging our relationship as a tool while suffering, and some things he does differently after loss. 

Resources:

• Swallowed by a Snake
• Provide me feedback via a quick 1 minute survey.

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EVERYONE struggles to make decisions. Are we doing the right thing? What happens if we make the wrong choice? Today, I wrap up my mini-series about managing and take more time to dive into the Love-Fear decision making model that I've been using since Lincoln's passing. I hope it helps empower you to align your decisions with what means the most to you.

Resources:

• Jyoti Patel - Spille:Play
• When Breath Becomes Air - by Paul Kalanithi

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I used to be very direct with feedback when speaking about what's going well and what needs to be fixed, however, that doesn't always present in a loving way. What would it look like if you helped someone grow even when giving constructive or "consider" items to develop toward? Lincoln showed me that EVERYONE is valuable and how can we encourage and support these skills to benefit the lives of those around us, especially at work.

Resources:
-Employee Feedback Form

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Almost every person I've been talking to has been dealing with some amount of burnout. As a people manager, over the last few years, I've seen it countless times at work AND I've experienced it myself. Today I talk about similarities between grief and burnout, how others have shown up for me when I'm feeling this way (thank you Lincoln for giving me the courage to be vulnerable at work), and tactics I've tried to help support my employees through it to. I hope the gifts of grace, compassion, and empathy that Lincoln has taught/is continuing to teach me can help inspire you on your journey as well.

Resources:

• Sparke Type Assessment - It's Free!

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I continue my interview mini-series with my Aunt Kathy who we affectionately call Kiki. She's been the matriarch of our family as long as I can remember, and I discuss what grief has been like for her growing up, what it was like when she heard the news of Lincoln, what's changed since then, and the importance of family and what family means to her. I feel so blessed to have been able to spend this time with her and feel so fortunate to have this interview for posterity. 

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My best friend, Christina, has shown up for me in such a supportive way my entire life, but especially through the loss of my son. Today we discuss how she's supported me, how Lincoln impacted her life, and the special meaning and impact our children have on our lives.

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