Under the Bodhi Tree

I've landed on another GOLD MINE! In this episode we're diving into relationship, communication and a new evolved model for consent. Im very soon going to a week long retreat with an organization called touch and play (check em out below) anddd they have an epic model for consent and relationship interactions. So this week is diving into and sharing this beautiful model to have more clarity, pleasure and magic in your relationships!


This is such an awesome and eloquent model for connection, im so excited to be sharing it.


loving you FOR ALWAYS AND FOREVER

bodhi :)

andddd


check out the frameworks here!


https://docs.google.com/document/d/1BA2hqDYRRxzmncfV7AcFkCzi93i7WUMPUP3lPKTSStA/edit?usp=sharing

https://mexico.touchandplay.org/

Ok so this week ill be exploring and giving a demonstration of this epic tool that will support us into cultivating a deeper relationship with our body, specifically when we're challenged with making decisions.

Sooo this week will be a bit of an explanation, a demonstration and a debrief :)

This tool come in handy when...

I have a decision to make and it feels like two parts of me are not in alignment. For example, have you ever had the experience where you really wanted to do something, but logically it just didn't make any sense? or logically, you wanted to do something, but you weren't excited at all to do it?

So when this happens it might be that two parts of us are having differing desires and through giving each of them a voice, we can actually better understand whats happening within our inner world.

This is similar to parts work if your familiar with it, but ultimately it focuses our awareness on 4 centers, our head (or logic center), our heart (our spirit center), our gut (our emotional center), and our sex (our animal body)

Through encouraging each one of these to speak up, we can find profound insight of how and where to move when we're stuck in indecision. 

(BIG LOVE), (little love)
bodhi :)

I fucking LOVE the wheel of consent

Have you ever had a sexual interaction where most of the experience you were in your head worrying about where the interaction was going to go, because it was unclear from the beginning?

I know that when there is  a lack of clarity in my interactions, I tend to go into my head, I tend to contract or avoid eye contact etc etc. 

The idea is, when I am relaxed, I feel the most pleasure. When i am contracted, there is less space for pleasure to flow through. Therefor to increase the chances of relaxation, it serves to bring clarity of what I am desiring and what others are desiring in a certain engagement.

Sooooo to support relaxation and therefor, maximum safety and therfor maximum enjoyment, fun, pleasure, healing dot dot dot

Betty Martin developed a model to support clarity and consent in the interactions  between two people who desire to engage in some type of touch based interaction.

This model reveals the different dynamics that happen between two people in a touch exchange and helps us relax into this clarity and enjoy an interaction without needing to waste energy "trying to figure out" where its going or whats going on.


check out betty martin on laurie handlers podcast here:

http://bettymartin.org/wp-content/uploads/2015/03/062711.mp3


check out betty's content here:
https://bettymartin.org/


big love
bodhi

Ok this week we're diving into an awesome model of polarities to explore some different  energetic signatures that move through us as relational beings.

This model, termed "the cross' brings clarity to the often misunderstood archetypal energies that reoccur in our personal lives and our collective culture.

This week well explore the model and explore the concept of becoming a channel for energies beyond our limited personality.

if you want to hear more in depth about each of these energies check out:
https://youtu.be/S-9_k9od1Fk
https://youtu.be/FGKRoOL-pi8
https://youtu.be/rJinF9ydEIQ
https://youtu.be/8FFtmQLN8CY


sending love!
bodhi 

So upon finishing this radically transformational experience called ista, a few powerful things came through.

This week ill be sharing some stories and talking about self pleasure and the beauty of letting go of the excess shame that many of us (and definitely myself) carry around, that holds us back from truly finding pleasure


Thanks for playin with me :)

bodhi

Love and Fear

this week, we will use the lens of these powerful forces to more closely observe the energy that lies right beneath our actions.

by looking below our actions, into the motivation behind them, we can start to see patterns of energy and find out what direction our life is heading towards. 

When i make choices out of fear, i head towards fear and contraction. When i make choices from love, i head towards freedom and expansion.

now obviously, its not always as easy as choosing love (although it is a simple concept)

this week will be more about observing and noticing the ripple effect of where our core lies, and how that manifests into the physical world around us.

What is underlying your decisions?

How would it look to choose and act from a space of love?

with love from me to you 
bodhi

hey hey hey!

this week were diving into our SHADOW!

what even is shadow hmmm?

in this episode we'll define it as everything that i hide, hold shame around, neglect and disown. These are parts of myself that i don't identify with and therefor are unconscious.

WEVE ALL GOT A SHADOW

its like when we stand in the sun, right behind me, is my shadow. 

There are a fascinating, many methods of exploring the shadow with your hand held by a group, or someone facilitating the process, and i would heavily recommend, in your own time, when you are ready, at your own pace and level, to enquire into one of these methods, groups and organizations.

the organizations that i share about in the show are as follows:

https://ista.life/trainings/ista-level-1

https://courses.theconnectioninstitute.net/

https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/50915816-existential-kink



i hope you enjoy looking around my own shadow with me as we explore the world of the unseen, with love and play :)

big love to everyone
bodhi

This week we're diving into grief

What does life look like when we take the time to look into our past and bring back layers of ourselves that are residing in other time lines?

Lets look into the world of grief and explore that value of letting go of the past and inviting life force back into our bodies

acknowledge
love
and honor
what was

with love
bodhi 

Hey loves!

This week we're exploring a few exercises that will support you and your relationships to move through deeper layers of intimacy. My partner and i call them ceremonies, temples, or containers. By creating intentional spaces where we are invited to speak our deeper truths, it allows us to step into more transparency with our partners. In our day to day life with our partners, in conversation, in passing, we interact so quickly, that often unconscious and subconscious aspects of ourselves are underlying our conscious expression. Creating intentional spaces to slow down and focus our energy, allows us to look at the deeper layers of what underlies our actions and allows us to look at what's normally hidden in the shadow, and to reveal ourselves in order to get cleaner in our interactions. Think of these practices as brushing your emotional and energetic teeth for your relationships.


Enjoy these practices with any intimate relationship, partners, friends, siblings, parents etc.

they've been unbelievably supportive in my life and i encourage you to invite those you love into these spaces, and see what comes up.


big love 
bodhi

As Im diving deeper and deeper into authentic relating, relational inquiry and the practice of circling, im finding that SO much is happening behind the scenes of my everyday interactions and conversations. Our current conversation tools and relational "technologies", mixed with our withholding culture, seem to create an environment that discourages us to share our truth and really identify whats happening for us in the moment behind how im expressing myself. The practice of revealing our inner experience can be both terrifying and unbelievably relieving. And from my experience, when I truly step into sharing my inner truth with accountability and compassion, it is a proven to be a doorway directly to a more intimate reality and connection.

The relational academy introduced me to the practice of circling, or relational inquiry, which is like a relational meditation, a way to have one foot inward, and one foot outward. All of the concepts and invitations that ive brought forth in this episode come from the relational academy, and the practice of authentic relating.

I heavily recommend this platform as it has truly shifted my relational abilities and completely guided the evolution of my relationship and communication abilities.

check out the institute here!

https://courses.theconnectioninstitute.net/

sending love to you all
get down with this invitationsss!!
in loving service,
bodhi