Understanding Love

Last episode of Season 1. Monologue

In this episode, we will continue to explore the life and times of the Black man in America. In part 2, we go into more of what the image of the Black man should be. We talk about solutions that should be implemented in the life of the Black man in order to be successful. We also discuss at length what success looks like for the Black man in America.

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Intro - 00:00

Who Is Teaching Our Black Males - 1:47

Masculinity - 2:10

Social Conditioning - 4:14

Things That Keep Us Unhealthy - 5:28

Solutions To Help Advert Health Issues - 10:18

The Average Lifespan Of A Black Male - 13:03

Protecting The Black Man’s Image - 14:10

Damien’s Story Of Being Judged For Coming From A Broken Home - 16:16

What A Good Father Should Do When A Man Shows Interest In His Daughter - 19:34

What Defines A Successful Black Man - 20:47

What Should Every Black Male Be Taught - 27:48

“You Gotta Get Up!” - 28:54

“It’s Better To Raise Strong Children Than To Repair Broken Men!” - 30:11

Everyone Does Not Get A Trophy - 32:20

King! - 33:44

What Do Black Men Need - 35:19

Failing Is A Good Teacher - 39:19

What Makes A Black Man Attractive - 41:05

Question Of The Day “ What Advice Would You Give Today?” - 45:30

Recap - 1:11:49

In this episode we will explore the life and times of the black man in America. It is important that we understand what the black man is up against and what the needs are for the black man. This episode will be broken up into 2 parts. In this 1st part we will cover some of the obstacles the black man faces, the role of the father and the mother in the life of the black man, as well as what defines a real man. My hope is that through making plain the needs of black men, collectively we will be better able to meet those needs to begin unifying and strengthening the black community.

Intro - 00:00

Some Of The Strikes Against The Black Man - 1:55

Emotional Men In Our Community - 6:40

A Few Reasons Why Black Fathers Are Not In The Home - 8:05

When Did The Breakdown In The Black Home Begin - 9:00

Understanding Of The Roles & What’s Missing In Our Homes - 9:50

In These Streets - 10:45

Group Mindset & Followers - 12:05

The System Is Not Designed For You - 12:45

Conflict In Our Culture - 13:00

The Origin Of Our Issues - 13:25

Starting From Scratch - 14:39

Fear Of The Black Man’s Potential 17:00

All Cultures See The Value Of Black People - 18:28

We Need To Focus On Guarding Our Own Black Image - 19:36

The Role Of A Father - 20:08

Dealing With The Police - 25:40

“The Black Lottery” - 26:50

The Image The World Portrays Of The Black Man & It’s Affects - 27:58

Neutering The Black Man & The Real Agenda - 29:33

The Role Of A Mother For The Black Male - 30:28

What Is A Real Man...Manliness Is Required - 32:40

Intelligence Is Required -34:18

Resourcefulness Is Required - 34:37

Pay It Forward - 35:20

Fear & Guilt Is Holding Back The Best & Brightest Among Us - 35:57

Be Responsible & Accountable - 38:10

High Character Is Required - 39:20

Why We Feed On Each Other - 41:50

Everything Begins Within The Home - 42:46

Recap - 43:49

In this episode, we will explore the different ways to effectively communicate. Learning to properly communicate with others, learning different cues and signals, will help us avoid miscommunication. Communication is more than just with my words, but also includes body language, lack of responses is also communication cues to take notice of. We have a lot of work to do within our community and if we hope to understand each other and build something amazing together, we have to communicate and communicate effectively!

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Grievances - 0:00

Email From One Of Our Listeners - 2:43

Intro - 3:37

Topic Of The Day “Communication” - 5:10

Direct Eye Contact - 5:47

Firm Handshake - 8:00

Hygiene - 9:30

Great Listener - 11:13

A Person’s Walk - 12:40

What You Do With Your Hands - 13:34

The Touch - 15:24

Tonality - 17:20

Sense Of Humor - 18:00

Assertiveness - 19:02

Easy To Talk To - 22:03

Confidence - 25:00

Are You A Rider? - 29:00

Question Of The Day “What Should You Be Doing To Effectively Communicate Within Your Relationship?!” - 32:00

Recap - 37:40

In this episode, we will explore a very critical subject essential to building vibrant black communities and that is the subject of "Friendships". We explore what real friends are, what friends should never be. We also explore the boundaries that should be established when you or your friend is in a relationship.

My hope is with this episode we each examine ourselves and do a personal assessment. “Do I measure up?” “Am I a good friend?” “Am I a bad friend?” “How can I be a better friend?” If we all ask these questions of ourselves this can help us be better people to one another.

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Grievances - 0:00

Intro - 2:17

Topic Of The Day “Friendship” 3:57

Words From Ian’s Father 4:37

Our Take On What A Real Friend Should Be Like 5:45

How Are Friendships Established - 9:40

A Story Of Betrayal - 10:55

Lack Of Trust & Loyalty In Our Community - 14:05

Proper Etiquette In A Friendship When Your Man Is In A Relationship - 14:29

What Signs To Look For When You Need To Question Your “Friendship” - 16:50

How We Should Interact With Each Other Within The Community 17:59

What It Takes For Someone To Become A Friend - 19:25

Mom Dukes Is Right “Brothers Be Flaking Sometimes” - 22:36

Respect & Similar Viewpoints - 24:19

Either You Going To Be Jealous Of A Man Or You Will Respect Him - 24:35

The Ultimate Betrayal - 25:01

FB Friends - 25:39

A Message From The O’Jays - 26:58

Are You Genuinely There For Your Friend? - 28:08

Married With Single Friends - 30:00

Compromising Situations - 31:44

No Interference. You Can’t Get Involved 33:35

We Must Be Genuine In Our Dealings With One Another - 36:43

What’s The Scenario….Question Of The Day “Can Men & Women Be Friends?!”37:23

Friendzone - 47:05

In this episode, we each discuss what we were taught about “Dating” when we were young. We also talk about what we ultimately discovered through our own experiences once we started dating on our own terms. Our personal experiences have helped to shape the viewpoints and stances we have on dating today. We each share what we teach our own children in regards to dating that may be different from what we were taught and may also be different from some of the mainstream approaches to dating today.

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Grievances “Tights” – 0:00

Intro & What We Will Explore In This Episode – 3:26

What Jason Was Taught About Dating – 5:30

What Dame Was Taught About Dating – 6:25

What Ian Was Taught About Dating – 7:39

What Jason Learned As He Started Dating – 8:39

What Dame Learned As He Started Dating – 13:11

What Ian Learned As He Started Dating – 14:45

The Honeymoon Phase – 16:49

How To Ensure You Are Not Wasting Your Time – 18:11

What Advice Would Jason Give His Children – 20:10

What Advice Would Ian Give His Children – 21:23

Unicorns Only Breakdown – 23:10

What Advice Would Dame Give – 26:26

“What’s The Scenario?!” Question Of The Day “When Is The Right Age To Allow Your Child To Date?” – 27:32

Seek Only The One For You – 34:30

Jason’s Advice For The Single Mothers- 37:09

The Recap & Closing Thoughts – 38:40

Bonus Dating Commentary From Damien – 44:10

In this episode, we explore the topic of “Love” all while testing out our new microphones and recording equipment. The episode is a freeform discussion with no structure at all. Meant for testing and is full of mistakes and bloopers. There are a lot of post-edit soundbites we used in our testing to exam various approaches we may want to take in future episodes.

We sent this pilot episode out to about 100 people and got wonderful feedback. We thank all who responded and gave us constructed criticism. Moving forward, beginning with episode 1, you will see that we listened and made necessary adjustments. If you enjoy the content please remember to share it with at least 10 people you know. Happy Listening and Enjoy this classic archival episode.

“Welcome To The Show!” – 3:25

Dame’s Background And How He Came To Experience Love – 4:10

Jason’s Background And How He Came To Experience Love – 5:50

What’s Not Love According To Jason – 7:25

Jason’s Shaquille O’Neal Analogistic Breakdown Of His Real Love Relationships – 9:05

Ian’s Background And How He Came To Experience Love – 13:03

Dame’s Background Continued – 16:36

Step Daddies – 20:46

What Our Generation Saw – 23:03

Emotional Impact – 24:15

We Are Still Learning – 26:33

Dame’s Take On What Is Wrong With Some Women Today – 27:18

What Makes A Woman Wife Material & Submissiveness – 27:49

Understanding The Roles Of Men And Women – 30:00

War On Love – 32:40

People Aren’t Looking For Love Anymore – 33:33

Manipulation Time – 33:50

Men Are Simple – 34:25

How Jason Realized He Was Experiencing Real Love – 35:00

Dame’s Epiphany “It’s So Basic Ladies!” – 35:43

Ladies Don’t Fall For The Lie – 38:39

Love Is The Solution – 39:55

Welcome to the Understanding Love Podcast.

I’m your host, Ian Cobb. In this trailer, I convey why I felt like there was a need for a podcast like this one. With so much content out there today to choose from already, what will distinguish this one from all others. Well, I assure you there is nothing out there like this. Hopefully, you will give this podcast a weekly listen. Explore the Code bLLaCk site and hopefully, you will get the mission. We appreciate any support we can get. We ask that you help spread the message. If you like the content please share it with 10 people you know. Subscribe to our feed and never miss an episode. Thank you again and enjoy the podcast!

Why Should You Listen?! – 00:19

Enough Is Enough! – 1:47

We Are In Bad Shape As A People – 3:23

What Will Save Us?! – 4:31

Love Is The Solution – 5:10

Cancer Culture – 6:40

I Waited My Whole Life For This – 8:18

My Co-Hosts – 9:00

Moment Of Truth – 10:00