Undone Redone

On this week's episode, Tray and Melody talk openly and honestly about how painful the holidays can be for those who are dealing with marital issues stemming from sexual brokenness. During the holiday season, everywhere we look we see smiling, happy families…out shopping, on the Hallmark channel, commercials that are non-stop. When we are experiencing a season of brokenness that overlaps with the holidays, things can really be magnified and our enemy…the accuser of the brethren…often loves to point out the discrepancy in our circumstances and what we see around us.

Having experienced 6 years of divorce, Tray and Melody know firsthand how hard the holidays can be and address some practical ways we can successfully navigate the Christmas season. For all of the show notes for this episode, go to http://www.undoneredone.com/ur172.

On this week's Undone Redone podcast episode, Tray and Melody are joined by April McKinney of the 20,000 words podcast. April is a wife, mom, chef, podcaster, and believer. April bravely and body shares her story of overcoming an eating disorder in her younger years and how that impacted her faith journey and life.

April shares her undone redone story in a transparent and vulnerable way which will impact and inspire everyone who listens. To learn more about April visit her website, www.aprilmckinney.com.

On this week's Undone Redone podcast, Tray and Melody welcome Dina Alexander back to the show! Dina is the Executive Director of Educate and Empower Kids, a Texas-based non-profit that provides resources to parents and educators to encourage deep connection with their kids through media education, meaningful family communication and intentional parenting.

In this interview, Dina shares wisdom and insight for parents on media literacy, body image, positive self-talk, living in an image-based culture, and becoming a trusted resource for your children on the topic of sex and sexuality. If you haven't already heard her earlier interview on Undone Redone, "How To Talk To Your Kids About Pornography", go to episode #84 and check it out!

Here are links to all of Educate and Empower Kids' new books written for children: Noah's New Phone: A Story About Using Technology for Good https://amzn.to/2RdWnGg Petra's Power to See: A Media Literacy Adventure https://amzn.to/2RdY3iJ Messages About Me: Wade's Story: A Boy's Quest for Healthy Body Image https://amzn.to/2TQaWBt Messages About Me: Sydney's Story: A Girl's Journey to Healthy Body Image https://amzn.to/2RdX968

Happy Thanksgiving! After a 2 month hiatus from the show, Tray and Melody are back with episode 169 of the Undone Redone podcast where they discuss their trip to Uganda with SOZO Children, celebrating the 10th anniversary of their remarriage in the Bahamas, the Open Your Purse gala, becoming empty nesters, recent speaking trips to Maryland and Georgia, and of course, thoughts on Thanksgiving.

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Tray and Melody are back for part two of their two part series on healthy conflict in marriage. They dig more into what having conflict in a marriage can look like when it is healthy and how to handle conflict with grace.

Tray and Melody discuss how loses yourself in your coupleship can often times lead to more issues and more conflict because if you are properly inmeshed your spouse should understand. The problem with that is that when you think that your spouse is thinking the same thing which leads to stagnant frustration.

Tray and Melody also talk about the need to be assertive and how not being assertive can cause more conflict than being assertive and stepping up. This can lead to resentment on one side because it causes one spouse to step up and fill the void that the other will not assertive themselves into.

Having a desire for your husband to be assertive does not mean sitting, waiting and hoping your spouse can be a mind reader. Melody and Tray talk about what assertive and active listening actually mean and how they can impact your marriage in a positive way.

Tray and Melody are talking My Secure Family and the event benefitting MSF called Open Your Purse happening September 21st. Listen to hear more about what Tray and Mel are doing to prepare and equip parents with the tools and knowledge to protect their children in the world of technology.

There will be a ladies only event at the Grand Bohemian Hotel in Mountain Brook, Alabama. This is a wonderful opportunity to gather with a community of women at a dinner benefitting a incredible initiative.

The Open Your Purse Benefit is unlike any event Birmingham has seen and gives you an opportunity to wear your giving on your arm while positively impacting families in our community.

Proceeds from the Open Your Purse Benefit will go to support My Secure Family, an initiative that seeks to help equip parents and grandparents in protecting their children from online dangers and other inappropriate content and to encourage and empower individual responsibility in the age of technology.

One exceptional woman will be presented the Power of the Purse Award, given to the woman who brings the most women to this inaugural event to encourage philanthropic support and awareness within the community.

Limited number of tables and tickets are available, so make your reservation soon.

Doors Open at 5:30 p.m. Visit www.mysecurefamily.com to learn more and get your tickets!

My Secure Family will provide a community for parents and grandparents that will equip them to effectively shepherd the hearts of their children and to innoculate them from the harmful impact of pornography and other sexually explicit content. My Secure Family will inform parents on the constantly changing digital landscape and help them navigate current issues like cyberbullying, gaming, social media, and online digital safety.

For any questions concerning the event email melody at [email protected]

Melody is joined by Catherine Etherington all the way from Northern England to discuss betrayal trauma, her unique insight into addiction of all types, recovery and the beauty of grace. Catherine and Melody talk their own journey through betrayal and finding healing through various resources and community.

Catherine and Melody discuss how finding community, support and finding someone to process the pain with are the best first steps for women to take after facing betrayal. Self care is an extremely important part of the healing process due to the amount of emotional energy women are putting out. Catherine walks us through the process she walks women through to find true healing and comfort after betrayal.

Catherine is a 10 year recovering addict who found Christ through her recovery. Catherine met her husband a few years into her recovery journey and coming out of a relationship with a man who was struggling with sex addiction. After several years Catherine discovered pornography on her husband's phone. After doing loads of research, and finding support and resources for him Catherine hit a brick wall in finding support for herself. This caused Catherine to become a life and recovery coach.

Full Circle Coaching was created to offer support and guidance for women as they consider what the future holds for themselves as well as their relationship. It is aimed at providing support for them to rebuild their personal wholeness and strength. Catherine has trained as a Certified Professional Life Coach and has added specialist training for partners of men with sexual issues with both the American Association of Sex Addiction Specialists (AASAT) and The Association of Partners of Se Addicts Trauma Specialists (APSATS), making me the only coach with this training in the UK.

Catherine is able to provide a unique insight into addiction and has worked with many other addicts to achieve sobriety through the 12 step model and other modalities.

Catherine is a published blogger, aiming to raise awareness of the issue of sex addiction and the impact on the partner, writing for the Huffington Post as well as other publications. She is a 35 year old mother to two daughters both entering their teens. This issue will affect all women in some way and Catherine's goal is to work hard to equip her daughters for healthy relationships when the time comes.

Melody is joined by Lynn Cherry to take betrayal, healing and the beautiful grace found in the gospel. Melody and Lynn share their personal journeys walking through betrayal trauma and how they got through the most difficult times in their lives.

Lynn walks us through her own undone redone story including getting married, starting a family and discovering betrayal from her husband through pornography addiction. Lynn and Melody discuss her book. And how it is used as a healing tool for women facing betrayal.

Lynn was born and raised in North Dakota. She discovered a love of writing in the sixth grade and was a bit of a science nerd. She went to college, got a degree in biology, and met her husband, David. They got married in 1991 and moved to Texas. She worked in molecular genetics for six years and when she became a mom, she was able to stay home with their two boys.

During the most difficulty season in life Lynn rediscovered her love of writing. After discovering her husband's virtual infidelity of pornography addiction Lynn pretended and coped for many years, but because of the grace and joy found in the Gospel Jesus met her in the pain. He gave her the courage and strength to face it. Writing helped her reconcile her reality. After going through group therapy, Lynn learned that the way she expressed her recovery journey resonated with other women. She released my book, Keep Walking, 40 Days to Hope and Freedom after Betrayal in 2016.

Thanks to Jesus and therapy, Lynn and her husband made it through the addiction and trauma together. They both knew they wanted to share their story and wanted people to know there is hope.

Tray is joined by singer/songwriter, actor, speaker, and advocate against sexual exploitation in all its forms, Jeromy Darling of The Spokeman. Tray and Jeromy dive into a conversation surrounding his passions, abstinence, music, movies and the beauty of faith based relationships.

Jeromy has his hand in a vast array of projects ranging from speaking engagements, music, films, writings and even tied martial arts. He walks us through these projects, why he is passionate about each of them and how you can get involved.

Jeromy has been married to his one and only girlfriend Gretchen since September 1, 2002. The couple live in Minneapolis with their three sons; Wyatt, Wilder, and Wren.

Jeromy started The Salvage Project in 2008 when he felt called to bring his songs, heart and missions to those behind bars. Although he faced many hurdles he found his way to playing small concerts for disabled vets. Since then he has been able to add bringing concerts to women's prisons ever since. To learn more about all the good work The Salvage Project is doing visit their website. http://www.thesalvageproject.org/

Jeromy is a speaker for The Abstinence Resource Center and visits schools and other venues to speak to young people on the importance of abstinence. To learn more about the Abstinence Resource Center and find out how to bring them to your school or venue visit their website. http://www.arc.rocks/

To learn more about Jeromy's music and his three act broadway style play called The Spokesman and how you can book it near you visit here. http://thespokesman.live/

You can find the film Love&Sexx&Porn on youtube here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x15FblpH6mU

To find out where to buy Jeromy's companion book that follows along to the film Love&Sex&Porn click here. http://thespokesman.live/books

To connect with Jeromy, learn more about the projects he is involved in or follow his life visit his website. http://www.jeromydarling.com/

Tray is joined by Lee Strobel to talk his story of going from atheist to Believer, his books, and the transformative power of Christ, the Gospel and Grace. Lee walks us through the thought process he went through in his journey of discovery of Christ and understanding his love and grace.

Lee gives us some insight on his conversion and sanctification process which lasts a lifetime. He also gives hope to those who are struggling with shame of dealing with wrongdoings and it not being instant.

Lee's book The Case for Christ was turned into a movie and he walks us through seeing his own story out there for the whole world to see. Seeing all his wrongdoings and life before Christ put on display for anyone to see is all worth it when people are coming to faith.

Atheist- turned- Christian Lee Strobel is the former award- winning legal editor of the Chicago Tribune and best-selling author of more than twenty books. HIs classic, The Case for Christ, is a perennial favorite which details his conversion to Christianity. His recent release, The Case for Grace, just won the 2016 Nonfiction Book of the Year from the EPCA. For the last twenty-five years, his life's work has been to share the evidence that supports the truth and claims of Christianity and to equip believers to share their faith with the people they know and love.

Lee earned his Bachelor of Journalism from the University of Missouri and his Master of Studies in Law at Yale Law School. He was a journalist for fourteen years at The Chicago Tribune and other newspapers, winning Illinois' highest honor for public service journalism from United Press International. He also led a team that won UPI's top award for investigative reporting in Illinois.

Lee has been a featured guest on national networks including ABC, Fox, Discovery, PBS, and CNN. He was the host of Faith Under Fire, a provocative program that brought together some of the brightest Christians and skeptics to debate issues central to the Christian faith. He also appeared in the feature film, God's Not Dead 2, as an expert witness for the defense. In 2017 Pure Flix Entertainment will release a major motion picture depicting Lee's journey from atheism to faith. You can learn more about the film, watch the trailer, and subscribe for updates at thecaseforchristmovie.com.

As part of his speaking ministry, Lee travels across the country (and sometimes the world) sharing his testimony, encouraging believers, and challenging skeptics. He regularly speaks at conferences, commencements, fundraisers, and other major events.

Lee is currently a teaching pastor at Woodlands Church in Texas where he speaks multiple times each year. He recently joined the faculty at Houston Baptist University as a Professor of Christian Thought.