UNFeigned

"It's not that big of a deal". That phrase is used often in situations like this. But...Maybe it should be! Maybe it should be a big deal. Maybe if we were purposefully and intentionally making it a bigger deal, we wouldn't have so many broken relationships. Just sayin'!

It's often said that forgiveness isn't for the other person, that it's for you. However, I think that statement is only half true. When we forgive, it absolutely frees us from bondage, but it also does something to the other person. Check out this latest episode, where I talk about my experience with how being forgiven freed me.

When confronted with the "hard things", the very things you need healing in, the difference between brokenness and healing isn't that those "hard things" disappear. The difference is in how we're affected and how we respond.

How many times have we heard someone doing something because "that's the way it's always been done"? How many times have we allowed someone to act in a toxic way because, "that's just how they are"? How many times have we done these things ourselves? Is it "supposed to be" some kind of way when we are "triggered"? I think we have abused this idea of being triggered, and it's become much more of a buzzword. What is it then? Could it be life just lifeing? How do we handle this concept in our healing? We should all challenge the idea of "supposed to"!

Remember to follow this podcast!!! [email protected] Over the last few days, I have been asked a specific question. How did I heal? Like what were some of the practical things you did to heal? There is one thing that has to happen in order for healing to begin. I realize that I talk a lot about healing and my healing journey, and how I am currently walking in the healed version of me. On the latest episode of UNFeigned the podcast, I talk about some practical things that I did to help me experience healing. These practical exercises also coincide with one of the mantras that I live by.

In a moment of vulnerability, I share two thoughts that came to me today. The first one absolutely wrecked me, and involved a trip down memory lane then thinking about "lasts". The other one is regarding a perspective on what to do when healing meets triggers.

It's so easy, and most of us do it, to simply get up and dust ourselves off, slap on a smile, and push through. Something that I missed early on in my healing journey, was giving myself permission to grieve. I failed at it miserably! Had I simply allowed myself to sit in the mess, to really "embrace the suck", I may have gotten to healing a lot sooner. When I finally gave myself permission to grieve, I was able to take the next step and walk into my healing process.

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What if you could guarantee that you would never lose the romance in your relationship, the passion in your relationship, the love in your relationship, or the connection in your relationship?
There is something that we can do, that seems so simple yet carries unimaginable power, that will guarantee that we are never left wondering "what happened to our relationship".

On this episode, discover a key to unlocking the "perfect" relationship. Find out why Perspective and Perception are such vital ingredients. Find out if one influences the other, and which one it is. Do this one simple thing and you will experience a healthy and vibrant relationship.

What stops us from experiencing healing? To understand that, we have to take a look at what stops us from being vulnerable and transparent. Whenever there is a risk of feeling uncomfortable, or hurt, or pain, we'll naturally choose comfort and safety. We have an insecurity, and so we perceive ourselves a certain way. Then, we project that onto the people who we may need to be vulnerable and transparent with. Then, we assume that they will perceive us in that same way. So, fear begins to well up inside of us, and it becomes so gripping and paralyzing that we avoid vulnerability and transparency. However, in doing so, we also remain in our brokenness instead of experiencing healing and growth.