How many times have we heard someone doing something because "that's the way it's always been done"? How many times have we allowed someone to act in a toxic way because, "that's just how they are"? How many times have we done these things ourselves? Is it "supposed to be" some kind of way when we are "triggered"? I think we have abused this idea of being triggered, and it's become much more of a buzzword. What is it then? Could it be life just lifeing? How do we handle this concept in our healing? We should all challenge the idea of "supposed to"!

Remember to follow this podcast!!! [email protected] Over the last few days, I have been asked a specific question. How did I heal? Like what were some of the practical things you did to heal? There is one thing that has to happen in order for healing to begin. I realize that I talk a lot about healing and my healing journey, and how I am currently walking in the healed version of me. On the latest episode of UNFeigned the podcast, I talk about some practical things that I did to help me experience healing. These practical exercises also coincide with one of the mantras that I live by.

In a moment of vulnerability, I share two thoughts that came to me today. The first one absolutely wrecked me, and involved a trip down memory lane then thinking about "lasts". The other one is regarding a perspective on what to do when healing meets triggers.

It's so easy, and most of us do it, to simply get up and dust ourselves off, slap on a smile, and push through. Something that I missed early on in my healing journey, was giving myself permission to grieve. I failed at it miserably! Had I simply allowed myself to sit in the mess, to really "embrace the suck", I may have gotten to healing a lot sooner. When I finally gave myself permission to grieve, I was able to take the next step and walk into my healing process.

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What if you could guarantee that you would never lose the romance in your relationship, the passion in your relationship, the love in your relationship, or the connection in your relationship?
There is something that we can do, that seems so simple yet carries unimaginable power, that will guarantee that we are never left wondering "what happened to our relationship".

On this episode, discover a key to unlocking the "perfect" relationship. Find out why Perspective and Perception are such vital ingredients. Find out if one influences the other, and which one it is. Do this one simple thing and you will experience a healthy and vibrant relationship.

What stops us from experiencing healing? To understand that, we have to take a look at what stops us from being vulnerable and transparent. Whenever there is a risk of feeling uncomfortable, or hurt, or pain, we'll naturally choose comfort and safety. We have an insecurity, and so we perceive ourselves a certain way. Then, we project that onto the people who we may need to be vulnerable and transparent with. Then, we assume that they will perceive us in that same way. So, fear begins to well up inside of us, and it becomes so gripping and paralyzing that we avoid vulnerability and transparency. However, in doing so, we also remain in our brokenness instead of experiencing healing and growth.

www.tinyurl.com/unfeignedpodcast [email protected] When life gets hard, how do you deal? How do you deal with really stressful times, or really difficult emotions? We all have coping mechanisms, and they will either be healthy or unhealthy. Do you know what your coping mechanisms are? Are they promoting healing or enabling brokenness?

What does it mean to be healed? Healing is misunderstood far too often. It's as though if even the slightest glimpse of who we used to be, or what we used to do, creeps up, then it's assumed that we're not actually healed. It's almost as though the moment we claim to be healed, we're expected to be "perfect". That's not what healing is. Being healed does not mean that the former things don't exist. Being healed means, that even though those things do still exist, that we may still get tempted, we understand that we are no longer a slave to those things. Being healed means, we no longer resort to those toxic coping mechanisms, and behaviors, but instead choose to live free from the former things, and run towards healthy coping mechanisms and behaviors.

There's a common pitfall shared by broken relationships. It's the idea of "growing apart". When asked why relationships took a turn for the worse, or ended, the reason most commonly given is, "we grew apart". What if you could guarantee that you would never grow apart again? Do this one thing, and you will never grow apart!