Season 1, Ep 8 is here and wow - what an incredible night with Chris B. Writes! I felt like I was soaking in wisdom at a poetry masterclass, breaking down in a therapy session, and laughing in a cozy pub with a good friend.
Chris is a master at inviting us into the tension between hard and hope. We talked about 1980s vocab workbooks & high school creative writing, Bon Jovi & My Girl, and 9/11 & lost hopes & caregiver PTSD. We ended the evening knowing how vital it is sit in that really uncomfortable place where we stare right at the pain while clinging onto hope with all our soul.
Chris read three poems during our live: A Thousand Versions, Shave, and Above Water. Make sure to go check them out and then hop over and hear Shave set to music and have it hit you all over again.
I took away so much from my chat with Chris, but below I’ve shared my top takeaways. Make sure to scroll all the way down for poems & people referenced during our chat.
Write for an audience of one. If you’re like me, a slightly-intimidated-wanna-be poet, start with total honesty to yourself. Write just for yourself because the only validation that matters is internal. If the poem doesn’t mean anything to you, you have missed the point. Everything in poetry (and art in general!) is so subjective. Chris has had 150 rejections in two years and only a handful of acceptances. The victory is in the process and release, not the public praise.
Write to process what we can’t yet say out loud. Ever since high school, Chris has been able to write about things before he can speak them. His poetry began as the release of teenage angst and evolved into the primary tool he uses to process Brayden’s rare genetic disorder, hospitalizations, PTSD, and the heavy grief of missed milestones. He describes the writing experience as almost out-of-body, gripped by a message that needs to be shared. He’ll sometimes go back to a poem he wrote at 5am and think “Whoa! I wrote that?!”
Hold the tension of grief and joy together. Don’t resolve it (because resolution doesn’t exist). One of the aspects of Chris’s work that makes it so powerful is his refusal to choose between the pain of caregiving and the pure joy of Brayden. Choosing Braden ten times out of ten doesn’t erase the ache. His poem, Shave, is the clearest expression of grieving the life Brayden won’t have (teaching him to shave, college, a wedding) while holding onto Brayden’s pure smile and absolutely magical belly laugh.
Community inspires creativity. Chris is an absolute master at building community and raising up other voices. He joined Substack in August 2025, one year after Brayden was medically cleared from his harrowing 28-day stay in the hospital. Since then, he’s never been more prolific. He mentioned specific creators on Substack—JC, Wildwood Writer, Veronica Llorca-Smith, Heather Carpenter, Kelly Trost—whose poetry, photography, and prompt challenges have inspired poems he wouldn’t have written alone. In his own community, he runs “Two for Tuesday” (share your work, shout out someone else’s) as an intentional way to lift each other up and discover new creators.
Music is inseparable from the poetic process. Alanis Morissette's Jagged Little Pill was playing when Chris wrote his very first poem. Chris grew up on vinyl (Billy Joel, The Beatles, Jim Croce, Bon Jovi), was a college radio DJ, includes music therapy for Brayden, and submerges himself in music throughout his day. As a kid, he loved getting out the good ol’ lyric inserts losing himself in the teeny-tiny words. He has been experimenting with setting his poems to music using AI—not to sell, not to outsource, but almost as a way to hear his words reflected back in a form he couldn’t create himself. The way he described it sounded almost like a form of therapy—hearing something familiar in a new way to reach something new inside.
Thank you to everyone who joined us live - it was so fun to see so many familiar names. Thanks, especially to mary beth kaplan🪶for wonderful words of encouragement and wisdom during the live! I can’t wait to watch your live in a few weeks!
🦄 Kristin
More People & Poems
* Make sure to watch for Chris’s work on Tuesday at Tiny Memoir!
* Collaboration Post with Heather Carpenter
* Kelly - Mothers never give up writes at Melodies of Courage and is a huge inspiration for Chris
* Jeannie Ewing who co-hosted a caregiver journaling workshop with Chris and is a great resource on the nervous system & caregiving
* A couple of other poems mentioned in the pod: What I Kept & An Otherwise Quiet Morning
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