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Ignite Your Purpose Daily Show 133 #IYP

 We talk longevity through a healthy lifestyle ~ a mix of mental physical and spiritual knowledge ~ The mind Body soul trifecta ~ Neagative To Positive ~ Better Everyday       

The Elephant in the Room - do we need to address it?  When I put out a post last night, I had no idea it would spark an absolutely brilliant conversation between John and myself as well as a few other great minds that decided to tag in. So my post was based on addressing the elephant in my room which is my size compared to other's in my underground hand to hand combat training group. When I step into train I almost always pause and have to breath deep, focus and take a mental energy and strength to move forward. Meaning; I know that the fact that I am smaller then all that the other's in the group...the hit's and shot's I take to the head and body hurt and hurt a lot.       

So I have had to address this fact and the fear that comes with it and the knowledge and empowerment I am getting each time I move forward on this path to progress. It started though by addressing the fear which has been there since such an early age when those older than me and in authoritative positions would always re enforce this fact by saying things like : your smaller be careful, or he is small so go gentle on him...       John had a very valid point which is this; at some point we need to drop and not pay attention to those little voice's in our head that trigger those old neurones', behaviour's and belief system's. It is also a fact that the more you think it, speak it, and believe it the more you strength those hard wires in our brain. 

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Ignite Your Purpose Daily Show 132 #IYP

We talk longevity through a healthy lifestyle ~ a mix of mental physical and spiritual knowledge ~ The mind Body soul trifecta ~ Neagative To Positive ~ Better Everyday

With Hindsight

So John wanted to get into the talk of #hindsight so he asked me about my thoughts on; What, How and would you change anything about the moves I made when it came to my music and entrepreneur lifestyle and ways.

Although off the top I state this much: We are exactly where we are supposed to be at in this moment from all OUR choice's and decision's and our level of understanding and conciseness.

So try not to regret anything, this is a bad spot to be....If we can realize all that happen's to us is actually happening FOR US...for our betterment and so we may learn! To be better and evolve!

On that note, I mentioned 2 things I wish I knew more about at a very very early age would be this; Not giving away my power to others, And

to not allow or listen to those I put into an authoritative position, thinking they knew better than I did how to get what I wanted, and as well thinking they knew what I needed do to or where I needed to get better than I did for myself.

These 2 are massive, and a must to take back our self control and power...once we do that there is NO LOOKING BACK or hindsight, it's just your personal road of knowledge!

Ignite Your Purpose Daily Show 131 #IYP

 We talk longevity through a healthy lifestyle ~ a mix of mental physical and spiritual knowledge ~ The mind Body soul trifecta ~ Neagative To Positive ~ Better Everyday  

Standing Out From the Crowd. 

John and myself talk about this need to fit in. This need to be accepted to feel that we are part of the #team or #tribe or #community. This came up when I had a chat with a father over a cup of tea this morning and his son who is in grade 1, and this other son who is in his first year of high school are both havig troubles #adjusting and fitting in. From that they are having #anxiety and #self #worth issue's. It was also super interesting to note that the father himself who is in his mid to late 40's was then talking about how he was having trouble fitting in with the already tight nit community at his new job. As I sat there listening and remember the same issue's in school then high school then first job...adult hood it was very relevant to me that "hey we actually never grow out of this yearning to be accepted"  

The mind blowing part is most of the time we want to be excepted by those whom we don't even like or enjoy their company (this may not be the case all the time but a good portion of the time it is) all just to be able to breath easy and say "cool I got the invite or the ok from the team" even if that mean's hiding who we truly are just to fit in because that is the "norm"       But we were not put here on this #beautiful #planet that is full of #abundance to fit in...we are all meant to stand out from the crowd!!!  

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Ignite Your Purpose Daily Show 130 #IYP

We talk longevity through a healthy lifestyle ~ a mix of mental physical and spiritual knowledge ~ The mind Body soul trifecta ~ Neagative To Positive ~ Better Everyday    The Why - The End Game       

In this Episode John  came up with some awesome questions to get us all back to the reality of the situation when we seek validation~       

1. Why?(why are you seeking this)   

2. What would you want to say to the other person (write that down)   

3. What would you want to hear from them? (write that down)   

4. How would that actually change the situation?      

 After I did this process, I kind you not I laughed so hard I almost peed myself! It was absolutely ridiculous.  From those question's we then got into the discussion of the programming we all have as human's in each of our upbringing. It's that of the authority figure and how we are told we are lesser than those in that position and to listen to and do as they say, so we seek approval from them and all the while we are simply giving our power away!! So think about that...why is it that we give our power away? Thinking someone else's words, opinion or advice is the answer for us, when in actual fact if what they say is not in alignment with what's in our heart or mind we then get upset. (John spoke about that issue with how he use to converse with his sister)    

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Ignite Your Purpose Daily Show 129 #IYP

Seeking validation We talk longevity through a healthy lifestyle ~ a mix of mental physical and spiritual knowledge ~ The mind Body soul trifecta ~ Neagative To Positive ~ Better Everyday 

To go a little deeper on the title would be to say #seeking your #own #self #worth through the #validation of others! If you are doing this you have lost...this is a game you can not win!  John as usual does a great job in asking me the tough question's to hold my feet to the fire, and also offers up his thoughts on the my situation. He also talk's about where we both feel this #insecurity comes from which dates back to the age of 4 or younger. It truly is something that hit me over the head that all of us since birth crave the attention and love of our parents...especially our mother's! Then followed by the validation or pat on the back from our father's. Something that has come up for me is the 'WHY,' why in this situation when in any other fighting sport I would be looked at like hero Conor McGregor style of fighting larger opponents. I should have just been happy and impressed that I show up everyday to train with those who out weight by 50 plus pounds. Yet I let (for the first few hours anyway) this validation destroy my #mental, #physical, and #emotional #strength. From there my energy, skill set and speed also fell way below what I was capable of (all very interesting side effects by the way)   Until I used every last trick in my bag of tricks from the last 10 years of #sotozen training to undo what my mind had let conjure up! I was down at the first half...but I destroyed it by the second half to come out on top!  

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Ignite Your Purpose Daily Show 128 #IYP

 We talk longevity through a healthy lifestyle ~ a mix of mental physical and spiritual knowledge ~ The mind Body soul trifecta ~ Neagative To Positive ~ Better Everyday 

Calling out the B.S in our lives! No work No results. So many times in our day we have people ask us questions about this or that, and so many times people only ask so that they may dump all of their #failures on you as a "poor oh me" let's have a pitty party session. Why, because here are all MY reason's as to why I CAN NOT do something....then we go on an hour and a half session as to why that is; no this - no that, too much of this too much of that...if only so and so would do this, I would be able to...well you just don't know what its like to be in my shoe's....And sooooooooo on! In reality we just don't want to put the work in!   In reality it is just easier to #blame someone else!       

This even came up for me when John asked me about how I felt after my test...and even I was amazed that after all I have been through and learned in the last 10 years, at one point I almost let myself run away with the thought and idea that there was #favouritism and that I was being picked on or singled out because of this or that. Placing blame on the external — instead of focusing on what is in front of me and putting my head down to continue to grind.       

Don't be fooled people, it start's with us! It start's with You!~      

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Ignite Your Purpose Daily Show 127 #IYP

 We talk longevity through a healthy lifestyle ~ a mix of mental physical and spiritual knowledge ~ The mind Body soul trifecta ~ Neagative To Positive ~ Better Everyday       

Why Do we Do this to Ourselves?  One thing that has become very, very clear to me this weekend after hosting an event with competitive athletes, and as well taking on another level in my #KravMaga training is the self pressure we put on ourselves. John asks me about how I'm feeling for the test day, after having to miss a full day of review (which would have been super, super help-full)       

The thing I noticed was the day prior I had so many athletes tell me how they #stressed themselves out so much a week prior to the competition that they almost didn't make it because they almost made themselves to ill! Low and behold I started doing it to myself as well the morning of my test. What is it in us that makes us think like this? Is it the fact that we worry about what others think about the way we will perform, or is it that we just want to do our best?       

Take a listen and let us know what you think!    

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Ignite Your Purpose Daily Show 126 #IYP

 We talk longevity through a healthy lifestyle ~ a mix of mental physical and spiritual knowledge ~ The mind Body soul trifecta ~ Neagative To Positive ~ Better Everyday    

A day in the Mountains.  As I have for the last 5 years — co hosted and M.C'ed an event where athletes from across #Western #Canada come for a weekend of #fitness and #fun      

 John ask's me all about the day, how it goes, what happens and also what my biggest take away is. In the end it's really (in life in general) the community, the people we surround ourselves with and how we perceive all that life has to offer us. We can look at it as our life is; half full or half empty. The reason I am there is to pump up the athletes and crowd, but by the end of the day it was me who was inspired by the athletes!       In life we can surround ourselves with donters or doers!! There were athletes who were just beginners, grandparents with grandchildren on a team and even those whom had lost limbs....That to me is who we chose to be around those who strive to be better everyday!! That's the Ignite Your Purpose way     

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Ignite Your Purpose Daily Show 125 #IYP

 We talk longevity through a healthy lifestyle ~ a mix of mental physical and spiritual knowledge ~ The mind Body soul trifecta ~ Neagative To Positive ~ Better Everyday   The #Grass is always #greener on the other side       John Barrett and myself talk the age old story of how we all meaning each one of us thinks that the grass is greener some where else or with someone else!       It's just too easy to think this way...as we don't really recognize or understand the amount of work, time, the situation, or circumstance that arose for 'THEIR' greener grass!       As well there is a massive amount of #assumption on our behalf when we perceive what we think is someone else's #reality but truly may not be.       I speak about how being on vacation is not real life but a lot of time we think the place we are having a vacation at is the answer "if we only lived here all would be this perfect" but that is not real life — no #work — no #stress — no #worries - just the dream life!       We finish up with #creating a life and #lifestyle you don't need a #vacation from!    

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Ignite Your Purpose Daily Show 124 #IYP

We talk longevity through a healthy lifestyle ~ a mix of mental physical and spiritual knowledge ~ The mind Body soul trifecta ~ Neagative To Positive ~ Better Everyday

Against Our Better Judgement~

Ohh boy ohh boy! You know those time's when you should probably just shut the phuck up...but you don't! Well, that's what we chat about today.

John Barrett tells his tale's of just even today how he went against his better #judgement and still went ahead with his #decision, some minor and some major but non the less we try to get to the bottom of the why?

Why even though we have paused and are very aware of what we are about to do and or say...we still do it anyway.

Myself I went through the same type of issue this week when I was out numbered in a gathering and we started talking health...even though I knew everyone's #education and background on the #HEALTH topic we were discussing...I just could not keep my mouth shut and had to put my 2 cent's in!

Where did that get me by the way?!! No Where ~

I ask John on the real tip and in all #honesty why did you do what you did...and from there we try to peal back the onion that is our own #self #awareness and why we went through with that decision.

Was it our #intent<