Unpacking Myself

A recent experience made me realize how much we bury negative self-talk in our minds. Sometimes we don't even know its there. All we experience is the negative emotions but most of the time there is "not very nice" self-talk going on in our minds that it is stemming from. If we don't take a minute to pause, we will never be able to get to the root cause, which is the constant chatter programmed into our minds based on past experiences. I dive into why we need to figure out what this talk sounds like.

Have you ever had something happen that you weren't expecting, that threw you off, made you feel defeated? You feel like you just want to curl into bed and rebel against all the action you were supposed to take? Well I had this happen to me this week and I share what happened as I battled action versus inaction in my head. Every part of me wanted to go towards inaction to soothe myself but what happened reminded me of the power in taking action especially in those moments. Listen in as I share my experience with taking action when all I wanted to do was anything but that.

A lot of women today cringe when women are objectified but I couldn't help but notice how often women on social media are asked where their dress or shoes or earrings are from when they are posting inspirational, informative content. I couldn't help but go "wait, what is our roll here and are we a part of the problem?" Yes of course we will compliment other women and that is being supportive but what happens when we lead with that all the time? I dive into this in this week's episode.

Have you ever felt like you had to allow someone's bad behavior because you know why they are that way? Recently I resisted unpacking others in my life because I didn't want to excuse the behavior. This led me down the path of realizing that it wasn't an all or nothing type of thing and why I can and should do both. Ignoring bad behavior can give us a false sense of being compassionate and a peaceful relationship but in reality there is something greater on the other side if we are willing to have the hard conversation.

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As young kids we are taught that there are consequences when we break the rules. Rules created by society, teachers, parents… so many rules. So then, as adults, we are programmed to just blindly follow the rules. Yes some rules are for our own safety but I'm talking about the little things where we are scared to go off the path or push the limits in fear of being reprimanded. We are programmed to feel shame and guilt when we break the rules but what if we approached it differently?

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There is so much out there about empowering women and making sure our daughters know they can do whatever they want. Being a woman and a mom of two girls, I'm all for this and love the motivation and encouragement this provides but we also need to make sure we don't get caught up in spending a lifetime proving that we can do it all. It should always come back to what WE want to do and not proving ourselves to others or meeting external images of the modern day woman.

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We have all felt like the victim before - someone takes advantage of us, makes us feel bad, is rude to us or we lose that promotion. Life can feel unfair at times and make us feel like it is all just happening to us. And when we play the victim then at least it's not our fault. In this episode, I talk about how it's normal and ok to feel like the victim but how, in these moments, I teach myself to regain power and control over my life.

Instant gratification is no longer a luxury, it has just become a part of how we live. It's become an expectation whether we are aware of it or not. But most things that are really good for us aren't instant, they take time. So in today's world how do we not lose sight of the long term plays, the long term decisions, the long term successes. It's not easy but still very necessary. We can't avoid all instant gratification but in this episode I share why it's important to at least give the long term plays a fighting chance and to make sure we don't just default to short term plays & instant gratification.

Do you ever feel like some things or friendships come easy in your life and some feel like soooo much work? I recently unpacked this to try and figure out when I should be working hard to make something work and when I should let it go. Sometimes we put all the burden on ourselves to make that job, friendship, business work rather than have faith that it will work out if it is meant to be. In this week's episode I share how I figure out when to continue putting in the work versus letting it go.

Some friends of ours did a simple exercise during a road trip that inspired me to talk about this week's episode. We all know we project our stuff onto our kids but did you know we do that with our "dreams" too? This brilliant exercise helps you unpack what you still are wanting for yourself. I talk about why it's important to make your dreams your own again versus pawning them off on your kids. It is never too late - no matter what.

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