Unraveling Pink

*Trigger warning: if you've recently lost a loved one, the first seven minutes might be challenging.*


In this episode, Sam and Annie come back after a month to reflect on the episode that never was -- a recording fail, but also a raw, challenging conversation -- and share their fresh takes on what it's like to have open and honest conversations about gender. Sam also speaks directly to our male audience members. This concludes the man box season, the Fall season, the third year of Unraveling Pink, and takes us to episode 100. Enjoy!

In this episode, Annie talks with a long-time friend, Noah Lemas, about what increasing gender equality in the workplace feels like for a 50-ish white male, why he left the traditional workplace, and what the workplace lost when he left it. Enjoy!

In this week's episode, Sam and Annie try to untangle friendship - among men and among women - and dig deep into the past to understand why they see friendship as they do. In the process, Sam has an epiphany about the man box. This episode may take you down your own memory lane. Enjoy!

In this episode, Sam and I start to explore how the man box shows up in leadership, but this launching point took us to an exploration of authenticity. Also, a confession by Sam, a recommendation, and a challenge.

Enjoy!

In this episode, Sam and Annie explore the Patriarchy - what it really is (which may not be what you think), why it's so pervasive, and what we might be able to do to change it.

Resources in this episode:

Philippe Leonard Fradet, "7 Reasons Why Patriarchy Is Bad (and Feminism is Good) for Men" (https://thebodyisnotanapology.com/magazine/7-reasons-why-patriarchy-is-bad-and-feminism-is-good-for-men/)

Charlotte Higgins, "The age of patriarchy: how an unfashionable idea became a rallying cry for feminism today" (https://www.theguardian.com/news/2018/jun/22/the-age-of-patriarchy-how-an-unfashionable-idea-became-a-rallying-cry-for-feminism-today)

Drew Serres, "Why Patriarchy Persists (and How We Can Change It)" (https://organizingchange.org/patriarchy-persists-can-change/)

Shannon Ridgway, "Patriarchy and How It Shows Up for Everyone" (https://everydayfeminism.com/2013/05/patriarchy-and-how-it-shows-up-for-everyone/)

Miki Kashtan, Ph.D., "Why Patriarchy Is Not About Men" (https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/acquired-spontaneity/201708/why-patriarchy-is-not-about-men)

Please note: This episode deals with gun violence.

In this episode, Sam and I explore the connection between the man box and gun violence and mass shootings. We hope this sparks some conversation about this difficult topic and, more importantly, that it encourages you to reach out to those in your life to check in with them.

Let us know your thoughts on this conversation by email to [email protected] or message us on Twitter @unravelingpink.

Resources in this episode:

Intro audio clip (https://vimeo.com/237772858)

Mark Follman, "Armed and Misogynist: How Toxic Masculinity Fuels Mass Shootings" (https://www.motherjones.com/crime-justice/2019/06/domestic-violence-misogyny-incels-mass-shootings/)

Steve Hewitt, "El Paso: we need to examine the role masculinity plays in mass shootings" (https://theconversation.com/el-paso-we-need-to-examine-the-role-masculinity-plays-in-mass-shootings-121533)

Marina Fang, "California Gov. Gavin Newsom Says Gender Needs To Be Part Of Gun Violence Conversation" (https://www.huffpost.com/entry/gavin-newsom-gun-violence-gender-toxic-masculinity-domestic-violence_n_5d496721e4b0d291ed069141?guccounter=1&guce_referrer=aHR0cHM6Ly93d3cuZ29vZ2xlLmNvbS8&guce_referrer_sig=AQAAAMbjBDgzI98Pn95-PVbFE94RAcYwyXKZ9OxY-DMDtONDIjwidr1gRRT1vIM3wglSg0Qx9dfgB6dkDSKtZPOSmUnSeBMIy9dwO4hyQ3PwX0C7YbOpFmEHnwVUjsHlLFteFEX0Oi_uSvvrLpmwUJybqPwhsRwPhczj_xOubXYDBkRs)

Sam and I kick off the Fall 2019 season exploring what happened with the Forbe's America's 100 Most Innovative Leaders list, whether it truly reflects merit or, instead, historical privilege, and whether the "man box" had a role.

In this season, we'll continue exploring how we all contribute to and are affected by the man box, and where it shows up in current events.

Let us know what you think!

Resources in this episode:

Intro audio from MSNBC (https://www.msn.com/en-us/weather/topstories/forbes-faces-backlash-for-leaving-women-off-innovators-list/vi-AAH2BaW)

Abdu'l-Baha quote: “The world of humanity is possessed of two wings: the male and the female. So long as these two wings are not equivalent in strength, the bird will not fly."

America's Most Innovative Leaders List (https://www.forbes.com/lists/innovative-leaders/#1ed1949c26aa)

Forbe's Editor's Reflection (https://www.forbes.com/sites/randalllane/2019/09/08/opportunity-missed-reflecting-on-the-lack-of-women-on-our-most-innovative-leaders-list/#14ff7321c6b6)

Privilege walk (https://edge.psu.edu/workshops/mc/power/privilegewalk.shtml)

Recent books written by former Unraveling Pink guests:

Better Allies: Everyday Actions to Create Inclusive, Engaging Workplaces, by Karen Catlin (https://www.amazon.com/Better-Allies-Everyday-Inclusive-Workplaces/dp/1732723303/ref=asc_df_1732723303/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=266235278092&hvpos=1o1&hvnetw=g&hvrand=931641627450300950&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9031912&hvtargid=pla-614689803116&psc=1)

How to Be an Inclusive Leader: Your Role in Creating Cultures of Belonging Where Everyone Can Thrive, by Jennifer Brown (https://www.amazon.com/How-Be-Inclusive-Leader-Belonging/dp/1523085177/ref=asc_df_1523085177/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=366446893595&hvpos=1o1&hvnetw=g&hvrand=18155657442622920792&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9031912&hvtargid=pla-804305575419&psc=1&tag=&ref=&adgrpid=79033900511&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvadid=366446893595&hvpos=1o1&hvnetw=g&hvrand=18155657442622920792&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9031912&hvtargid=pla-804305575419)

Piloting Your Life: Take the Controls and Be the Pilot in Your Own Life, by Terri Mead (https://www.amazon.com/Piloting-Your-Life-controls-pilot-ebook/dp/B07VJ6RBCP/ref=sr_1_1?crid=316UIQLZBM7XD&keywords=piloting+your+life&qid=1569102733&s=books&sprefix=piloting+your+life%2Caps%2C213&sr=1-1)

Elephants Before Unicorns: Emotionally Intelligent HR Strategies to Save Your Company, by Caroline Stokes (https://www.amazon.com/Elephants-Before-Unicorns-Emotionally-Intelligent/dp/1599186586)

In this final episode of the "man box" season, Sam and I reflect on the season - what it's been like to sit across from someone of another gender and talk about gender issues - and we issue a challenge to all of you to do the same. We offer some suggestions based on our experience - our successes and failures - and close with Sam's thoughts on what he's learned from this experience. Enjoy!

Unraveling Pink will return with a new season in the Fall.

Extending a bit from the man box, this episode looks at the impact of design on women - this time, with a designer in the conversation, as Sam comes back for another conversation. This week's challenge: observe the world around you and who it is - and is not - designed for.

Resources in this episode:

"Invisible Women: Exposing Data Bias in a World Designed for Men – a review." (http://theconversation.com/invisible-women-exposing-data-bias-in-a-world-designed-for-men-a-review-113693)

Aimee Cunningham, "‘Invisible Women’ spotlights a gaping and dangerous gender data gap." (https://www.sciencenews.org/article/invisible-women-book-dangerous-gender-data-gap-health-safety)

Matthew Schwartz, "NASA Scraps First All-Female Spacewalk For Want Of A Medium-Size Spacesuit." (https://www.npr.org/2019/03/26/706779637/nasa-scraps-first-all-female-spacewalk-for-want-of-a-medium-sized-spacesuit)

Cara Kelly, "NASA's spacesuit issue is all too familiar for working women." (https://www.usatoday.com/story/news/2019/03/28/nasa-anne-mcclain-christina-koch-all-female-spacewalk-scrapped-spacesuits-women-fashion-uniforms/3294159002/)

Ritu Prassad “Seven ways the world is not designed for women.” (https://www.bbc.com/news/world-us-canada-47725946)

In this episode, we explore whether the man box comes into play when women are attacked for scientific accomplishments. Sam joins the podcast again and we discover common threads among the topics we've tackled this season. We end with a challenge that everyone can take on.

Resources in this episode:

Katie Bouman talk at Stanford (https://talks.stanford.edu/katie-bouman-imaging-a-black-hole-with-the-event-horizon-telescope/)

Jason Duaine Hahn, People.com, “Male Scientist Claps Back at Trolls Who Tried to Discredit Female Colleague's Role in Black Hole Photo.” (https://people.com/human-interest/male-scientist-claps-back-trolls-discredit-katie-bouman/)

Cara Curtis, Science, "The Internet Idiots Are Already Trying to Discredit Katie Bouman's Historic Accomplishments." (https://thenextweb.com/science/2019/04/12/the-internets-idiots-are-already-trying-to-discredit-katie-boumans-historic-accomplishments/)

Rosalind C. Barnett and Caryl Rivers, Recode, “We’ve studied gender and STEM for 25 years. The science doesn’t support the Google memo.” (https://www.recode.net/2017/8/11/16127992/google-engineer-memo-research-science-women-biology-tech-james-damore)

Better Allies email (https://betterallies.com)

NY Times email - In Her Words (https://www.nytimes.com/series/in-her-words)

Fortune’s email The Broadsheet (http://fortune.com/newsletter/broadsheet/)