Unreasonably happy

New HUGE timeline started today, as I recorded this episode in my new apartment! My own home! There is chaos and I don’t have lights everywhere and all my clothes are in the corner and I have ONE spoon, but I'm so excited and emotional and grateful and this is simply a sweet little episode inspired by the fact that I brought Norwegian cinnamon back from Paris in my luggage today.

Long timelines can be wonderful and so can short ones. Tiny moments of meeting, something you experience that marks a before and after, a first time (always easier to catch than a LAST time, which we often don't know we're experiencing). I know some are ending now and it's sad and it's life and it makes sense and I know a whole bunch are starting too

(if you want more drama for these thoughts, listen to the song "Always starting over" from the musical If/Then, all bout those possible timelines and connections)

So glad you're here <3

I'll let Laura tell her story below, and I hope you'll join us for this lovely, silly, honest conversation about perfectionism, should's, how long change can take, vulnerability around people pleasing and how hard (and rewarding) going after what you actually want is! I hope you find this as comforting and normalizing as I did, always nice to know we're not alone <3

(*Elise here, can you see why I thought Laura would be a good match for the podcast themes? Yeah, me too ;) )

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Enjoy!

An unreasonably happy year <3 

Talking about kindness, some of my biggest lessons of the year and some reminders for youuu!

Oh how I loved this conversation!

Join in our talk about self care and how we define it, how it's perfect to be an accountant (if you want to be an accountant), how putting yourself in new situations can unexpectedly bring you to exactly where you want to go, the battle of play and productivity, how to habit stack self care with picking up your phone and the importance of making your routines and rituals fit you.

Who's this episodes happiness worker?

Lena is a playful experience designer on a mission to make self-care more accessible and fun. Utilising her expertise in game design, theatre, and meditation, she crafts playful rituals. Her latest endeavour is Spirit World - a self-care app in which you take care of mythical creatures by taking care of your own well-being.

Spirit world on Instagram here!

A thought or seven about moving, from the middle of a messy mess, all about big cleanups and decisions and changing and shifting and all the metaphors that come up with this process.

What you hold on to, what you want to bring with you, what you accidentally accumulated and how to decide what comes into the next chapter. 

Also, can you believe it's episode 40?!? So glad you're here!

Assuming we're already friends on Instagram ;)

Class available here, come boost your gratitude practice friend!

Todays episode is a clip from my gratitude class (so it's extra fancy and also has video)!

As mentioned during the episode, this one was actually taken out of the Skillshare version, while left as a bonus in the version you can get directly from me, and I'm really excited to share the perspectives of what you're really doing and practicing when you start a gratitude habit.

Because it seems so simple! Noticing what you like? And writing down three things? Seems too small to be training your brain to find solutions and be able to hold nuance and acceptance and awareness of your life, but I can speak for myself (and also... science backs me up*) after doing this for a loooong time now, it's annoying how well it works!

My gratitude class "The power of positivity" contains all my favorite ways of establishing a flexible, tiny, easy, grounding, sweet gratitude practice, to notice, remember and enjoy your life more!

Find it on my website here

or on Skillshare here

In the spirit of feeling for yourself if something is a big deal or not, here is the story of my first little tattoo and how that felt for me, it was such a fun sweet experience and I can't stop looking at it and showing it to everyone ✨

GREAT exercise for self trust!

*Yes yes, technically this came out on a Wednesday, but I got it on a Tuesday ;)

Aaah, the skill of discomfort tolerance, a term I learned from Karin Nordin, is todays topic, and not just "How good are you at being uncomfortable?" but also "What kind of discomfort is worth it?"

If both options are uncomfortable, what's the right one for me? Speaking up or not speaking up? Getting up early or being late for work? Staying or going?

Not all discomfort is created equal, and what's horrendously uncomfortable for me, might be fine for you. And vice versa of course. Sometimes what seems easy, is the hardest. Oh, to be a human! I'll share my example from last week and some reminders for you, that this, too, is a situation where you can choose. All about that life you've decided on, remember?

There is a lot of talk about "Choose your hard" (listen to the episode with Tina for more examples) like how it's hard to work out and also hard to be out of shape, choose your version, and this is under a similar umbrella!

Also, at the end of this episode I'm inviting you to my new gratitude class, find the link to purchase below!

The Power of Positivity - Start your own gratitude habit

As per always, come hang out over on instagram

@elise.aabakken

Tina Ethridge is one of my favorite humans to follow online for acceptance and gentle self kindness reminders, which makes perfect sense, as she is a radical ADHD and AuDHD acceptance coach.

In this glorious all-over-the-place conversation we touch on so many elements of happiness and figuring out who we are, topics of fun and joy and pleasure, how to work with your brain, how to know if you're feeling joy, what a happiness-worker is and a ton of non-sense. I hope you'll love it as much as I do!

Find more info below and go follow her everywhere!

Tinas website

Instagram - @comfortandkindness

Podcast - Connected Divergents

When you feel like nothing matters and everything feels blah and unnecessary and stuck and you're not sure what would help, let me share some Facebook/Reddit wisdom with you (which is backed with the book "Burnout" by Emily and Amelia Nagoski (sidenote, I haven't read it, but it's on the list!) about learned helpnessness and how much it matters to do something... that isn't nothing.

A sweet little emotional episode of tiny things that remind me that I matter, and a reminder that you matter, you literally have the power to change the world and I'm not even using that as a metaphor!

Glad you're here

Song mentioned: Out of the frying pan and into the fire

Original Post here (Found at Wholesome fox on Facebook)