Unshaming

James Sexton has facilitated over 1,000 divorces as an attorney based in NYC. He is a best selling author, having made recent blockbuster appearances on Diary of a CEO and The Mel Robbins Podcast. In this episode, he discusses the #1 technique you can use TODAY to strengthen and revive your relationship: “Hit Send Now.” He talks about how shame can sabotage this framework and how shame has been woven into his own life.

We cover:

• The #1 technique you can use today to save and grow your relationship 
• How shame shapes our childhoods and relationships
• Why James almost cancelled our interview then used the technique on me
• Why bravery will lead us to our truth

If this episode resonated, please share with just one person who you believe it would benefit.

Executive Producer

Jordan Gonsalves

Producers

Amanda McLoughlin, Multitude

Brandon Grugle, Multitude

Editor

Deanna Chapman

Special thanks to:

Larry Colton

Adam Berman

Chip Conley

Larry Colton & John McCoy

Mike Phillps & Jay Morton

Bill Glenn & Scott Hafner

Robert Holgate

Jenny & Jude Gonsalves

DeeDee Towery

Kevin Palmer & Tom Ellicott

Michael & Laura Werner

Alex Berman & Alex Scotta

Steve Houck

Dave Koz

David Beatty

Paul Grossinger

Randy Quebec

Tom Viola

Broadway Cares / Danny Whitman

Julie Stampler

David Vogel

Brooke & Will Muggia

Judi & David Issacson

Reesa Manning

Kathleen Salemi

Cindy & Neil Lyon

Anil Crasto

Teresa Kersten

Cary Berman

Rhett Wilson

Tom Emrich & Jonathan Carver Moore

Nick Scandalious

Dixie Webster Davis

David Schutte

Stuart Spencer

Jay Kuo

Ned Lustbader

Ken Lustbader & Jay Kidd

Susan & Joyce Lowenberg

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David Ferrugio’s father was one of the nearly 3,000 victims in the September 11th attacks. He was working on the 105th floor of the first tower that fell. The plane struck floors 93-99. 25 years after the attacks, his son tells his story in detail and what his grief can teach you. David is the host of the “Dead Talks” podcast, which you can listen to on YouTube. His new book is called "You're Not Dead Yet: How Grief and Loss Can Teach You to Live.” You can find it at deadtalks.net/book.

We cover:

• The 1 word that can help you get through grief 
• What loss can teach us about how to live
• How shame can prevent the grieving process
• The most awkward part of grief that no one talks about
• The importance of humor in grief

If this episode resonated, please share with just one person who you believe it would benefit.

Executive Producer

Jordan Gonsalves

Producers

Amanda McLoughlin, Multitude

Brandon Grugle, Multitude

Editor

Deanna Chapman

Special thanks to:

Larry Colton

Adam Berman

Chip Conley

Larry Colton & John McCoy

Mike Phillps & Jay Morton

Bill Glenn & Scott Hafner

Robert Holgate

Jenny & Jude Gonsalves

DeeDee Towery

Kevin Palmer & Tom Ellicott

Michael & Laura Werner

Alex Berman & Alex Scotta

Steve Houck

Dave Koz

David Beatty

Paul Grossinger

Randy Quebec

Tom Viola

Broadway Cares / Danny Whitman

Julie Stampler

David Vogel

Brooke & Will Muggia

Judi & David Issacson

Reesa Manning

Kathleen Salemi

Cindy & Neil Lyon

Anil Crasto

Teresa Kersten

Cary Berman

Rhett Wilson

Tom Emrich & Jonathan Carver Moore

Nick Scandalious

Dixie Webster Davis

David Schutte

Stuart Spencer

Jay Kuo

Ned Lustbader

Ken Lustbader & Jay Kidd

Susan & Joyce Lowenberg

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1 in 7 American have paid for s*x work, according to the National Institute of Justice. If the oldest profession in the world is still so popular, why is it so stigmatized? Former escort Thea Rose dishes why. Thea is the host of one of the most popular sexuality podcasts in America called “Seggs Talk Radio.” She recently came out publicly as a former escort, and you can watch that YouTube video here. She became an escort to fund her startup “Testie,” and revolutionize STI testing.

We cover:

• Why so many men are paying for escorts
• What a former escort can teach us about being a better lover and partner
• The life of a s*x worker no one sees
• How s*x work impacted Thea’s dating life

If this episode resonated, please share with just one person who you believe it would benefit.

Executive Producer

Jordan Gonsalves

Producers

Amanda McLoughlin, Multitude

Brandon Grugle, Multitude

Editor

Deanna Chapman

Special thanks to:

Larry Colton

Adam Berman

Chip Conley

Larry Colton & John McCoy

Mike Phillps & Jay Morton

Bill Glenn & Scott Hafner

Robert Holgate

Jenny & Jude Gonsalves

DeeDee Towery

Kevin Palmer & Tom Ellicott

Michael & Laura Werner

Alex Berman & Alex Scotta

Steve Houck

Dave Koz

David Beatty

Paul Grossinger

Randy Quebec

Tom Viola

Broadway Cares / Danny Whitman

Julie Stampler

David Vogel

Brooke & Will Muggia

Judi & David Issacson

Reesa Manning

Kathleen Salemi

Cindy & Neil Lyon

Anil Crasto

Teresa Kersten

Cary Berman

Rhett Wilson

Tom Emrich & Jonathan Carver Moore

Nick Scandalious

Dixie Webster Davis

David Schutte

Stuart Spencer

Jay Kuo

Ned Lustbader

Ken Lustbader & Jay Kidd

Susan & Joyce Lowenberg

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Have you ever felt too much? Or like your feelings are so big compared to others? Board certified psychiatrist and an ADHD clinical specialist Dr. Sasha Hamdani joins Unshaming to discuss the science behind it. She recently published a book on the understudied area of ADHD called Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria or RSD. And she’s going to share everything she learned.

We cover:

• The evolutionary reason you feel so sensitive
• The evolutionary strengths of having an emotionally sensitive brain
• Why ADHD brains are most likely to have RSD
• What happens in the brain when a situationship doesn't text back
• The most impactful thing you can do when triggered by rejection
• ADHD hacks for better sleep, brain health, and productivity

Check out Dr. Hamdani’s new book wherever books are sold: “Too Sensitive: Rejection, Resilience, and the Science of Feeling Deeply"

Executive Producer

Jordan Gonsalves

Producers

Amanda McLoughlin, Multitude

Brandon Grugle, Multitude

Editor

Deanna Chapman

Production & Publicity 

Franklin Benavides

Morgan Jones

Ben Lauer

Dio Anthony

Larry Colton

Adam Berman

Special thanks to:

Chip Conley

Larry Colton & John McCoy

Mike Phillps & Jay Morton

Bill Glenn & Scott Hafner

Robert Holgate

Jenny & Jude Gonsalves

DeeDee Towery

Kevin Palmer & Tom Ellicott

Michael & Laura Werner

Alex Berman & Alex Scotta

Steve Houck

Dave Koz

David Beatty

Paul Grossinger

Randy Quebec

Tom Viola

Broadway Cares / Danny Whitman

Julie Stampler

David Vogel

Brooke & Will Muggia

Judi & David Issacson

Reesa Manning

Kathleen Salemi

Cindy & Neil Lyon

Anil Crasto

Teresa Kersten

Cary Berman

Rhett Wilson

Tom Emrich & Jonathan Carver Moore

Nick Scandalious

Dixie Webster Davis

David Schutte

Stuart Spencer

Jay Kuo

Ned Lustbader

Ken Lustbader & Jay Kidd

Susan & Joyce Lowenberg

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Groundbreaking proctocologist Dr. Evan Goldstein has changed thousands of lives. His mission is to destigmatize or “unshame” butts and “everything that goes in them and out of them.” He has definitive information on how to have the best poops and how to have the best bottoming experiences.

We cover:

• Why most people should having “no wipe” poops in 30 seconds or less - and how you can too
• The fiber craze and everything you need to know about it
• The ideal diet for bottoming
• The 3 types of butts
• How to have pain free, fun bottoming
• Why there’s so much shame around anal and why it’s pleasurable from an anatomy perspective

Check out Dr. Goldstein’s book “Butt Seriously: The Definitive Guide to Anal Health, Pleasure and Everything In-Between”

If this episode resonated, please share with two people who you believe it would benefit.

Executive Producer

Jordan Gonsalves

Producers

Amanda McLoughlin, Multitude

Brandon Grugle, Multitude

Editor

Deanna Chapman

Production & Publicity 

Franklin Benavides

Morgan Jones

Ben Lauer

Dio Anthony

Larry Colton

Adam Berman

Special thanks to:

Chip Conley

Larry Colton & John McCoy

Mike Phillps & Jay Morton

Bill Glenn & Scott Hafner

Robert Holgate

Jenny & Jude Gonsalves

DeeDee Towery

Kevin Palmer & Tom Ellicott

Michael & Laura Werner

Alex Berman & Alex Scotta

Steve Houck

Dave Koz

David Beatty

Paul Grossinger

Randy Quebec

Tom Viola

Broadway Cares / Danny Whitman

Julie Stampler

David Vogel

Brooke & Will Muggia

Judi & David Issacson

Reesa Manning

Kathleen Salemi

Cindy & Neil Lyon

Anil Crasto

Teresa Kersten

Cary Berman

Rhett Wilson

Tom Emrich & Jonathan Carver Moore

Nick Scandalious

Dixie Webster Davis

David Schutte

Stuart Spencer

Jay Kuo

Ned Lustbader

Ken Lustbader & Jay Kidd

Susan & Joyce Lowenberg

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Shame journalist Melissa Petro thinks almost all your problems are because of shame. She’s no stranger to it. She was once earning money as a call girl. Years later, she embarked on a healing journey that ended in her becoming a public school teacher. But the NY Post found out about her past, and embarked on a public shaming campaign against her  that forced her to resign. Since being publicly humiliated, Melissa has become a student of shame: why it’s so prevalent in culture and why women are so susceptible to it.

We cover:

• The life changing consequences women pay for higher rates of shame
• The 4 ways your nervous system responds to shame
• Was Taylor Frankie Paul a victim? Was Amber Heard?
• Melissa’s healing journey from sex worker to shame expert
• Why Donald Trump likely feels intense shame
• Why you need shame to live your best life

Check out Melissa’s book “Shame on You: How to Be a Woman in the Age of Mortification”

If this episode resonated, please share with someone who you believe it would benefit.

Executive Producer

Jordan Gonsalves

Producers

Amanda McLoughlin, Multitude

Brandon Grugle, Multitude

Editor

Deanna Chapman

Production & Publicity 

Franklin Benavides

Morgan Jones

Ben Lauer

Dio Anthony

Larry Colton

Adam Berman

Special thanks to:

Chip Conley

Larry Colton & John McCoy

Mike Phillps & Jay Morton

Bill Glenn & Scott Hafner

Robert Holgate

Jenny & Jude Gonsalves

DeeDee Towery

Kevin Palmer & Tom Ellicott

Michael & Laura Werner

Alex Berman & Alex Scotta

Steve Houck

Dave Koz

David Beatty

Paul Grossinger

Randy Quebec

Tom Viola

Broadway Cares / Danny Whitman

Julie Stampler

David Vogel

Brooke & Will Muggia

Judi & David Issacson

Reesa Manning

Kathleen Salemi

Cindy & Neil Lyon

Anil Crasto

Teresa Kersten

Cary Berman

Rhett Wilson

Tom Emrich & Jonathan Carver Moore

Nick Scandalious

Dixie Webster Davis

David Schutte

Stuart Spencer

Jay Kuo

Ned Lustbader

Ken Lustbader & Jay Kidd

Susan & Joyce Lowenberg

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Men are burning their cash to pay for OF. But why? I sat down with OF creator Gracie Canaan and legendary journalist Leon Neyfakh to find out. They just released an explosive podcast called “OnlyFantasy” exploring the psychology of OF and all the sides of it they don’t want you to know about. What they found is that OF is using shame to rewrite the rules of human intimacy. Watch to find out how.

We cover:

• Why men would rather pay for OF than watch corn for free
• The mutli-million dollar secret industries that are being created by OnlyFans
• The disturbing rise of e-pimps 
• How OF is changing modern dating forever

Listen to OnlyFantasy here: https://open.spotify.com/show/3HmSbXPy9Ype5VXhAcQ6gd?si=1eb94f464b3d4d68

If this episode resonated, please share with someone who you believe it would benefit.

Executive Producer

Jordan Gonsalves

Producers

Amanda McLoughlin, Multitude

Brandon Grugle, Multitude

Editor

Deanna Chapman

Production & Publicity 

Franklin Benavides

Morgan Jones

Ben Lauer

Dio Anthony

Larry Colton

Adam Berman

Special thanks to:

Chip Conley

Larry Colton & John McCoy

Mike Phillps & Jay Morton

Bill Glenn & Scott Hafner

Robert Holgate

Jenny & Jude Gonsalves

DeeDee Towery

Kevin Palmer & Tom Ellicott

Michael & Laura Werner

Alex Berman & Alex Scotta

Steve Houck

Dave Koz

David Beatty

Paul Grossinger

Randy Quebec

Tom Viola

Broadway Cares / Danny Whitman

Julie Stampler

David Vogel

Brooke & Will Muggia

Judi & David Issacson

Reesa Manning

Kathleen Salemi

Cindy & Neil Lyon

Anil Crasto

Teresa Kersten

Cary Berman

Rhett Wilson

Tom Emrich & Jonathan Carver Moore

Nick Scandalious

Dixie Webster Davis

David Schutte

Stuart Spencer

Jay Kuo

Ned Lustbader

Ken Lustbader & Jay Kidd

Susan & Joyce Lowenberg

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I sat down with America’s #1 career expert Suzy Welch. Her approach to careers isn’t about resumes though; it’s about values. She has the best data set on human values in the world. I wanted to understand what her research could tell us about shame. 

We cover:

• Why only 7% of people know their values
• How you can become part of the 7%
• America’s #1 value isn’t what you think it is
• Why Only 2% of Gen Z is hirable
• The connection between values and shame

THE 16 HUMAN VALUES

1. Agency: Need for self-determination and making decisions.

2. Scope: Desire for a big, chaotic, adventurous life versus a small, secure one.

3. Affluence: Importance of financial wealth and money.

4. Achievement: Drive for visible success and personal validation.

5. Belonging: Need for community, friends, and your people.

6. Belovedness: Value placed on romantic love.

7. Work Centrism: Making work the primary lens of your identity.

8. Family Centrism: Organizing your life and decisions around family.

9. Eudaimonia: Focus on self-care, personal wellbeing, pleasure, and fun.

10. Beholderism: Caring about how things and people look.

11. Radius: Drive to change or blow up large social systems.

12. Cosmos: Reliance on faith and spirituality.

13. Voice: Need to be heard and express yourself.

14. Luminance: An inner desire for wide recognition, fame, or legacy.

15. Nonsibi: The internal drive to give back, be altruistic, and help others.

16. Place: The deep importance and grounding of a specific physical location.

TAKE THE VALUES BRIDGE ASSESSMENT

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Executive Producer

Jordan Gonsalves

Producers

Amanda McLoughlin, Multitude

Brandon Grugle, Multitude

Editor

Deanna Chapman

Production & Publicity 

Franklin Benavides

Morgan Jones

Ben Lauer

Dio Anthony

Larry Colton

Adam Berman

Special thanks to:

Chip Conley

Larry Colton & John McCoy

Mike Phillps & Jay Morton

Bill Glenn & Scott Hafner

Robert Holgate

Jenny & Jude Gonsalves

DeeDee Towery

Kevin Palmer & Tom Ellicott

Michael & Laura Werner

Alex Berman & Alex Scotta

Steve Houck

Dave Koz

David Beatty

Paul Grossinger

Randy Quebec

Tom Viola

Broadway Cares / Danny Whitman

Julie Stampler

David Vogel

Brooke & Will Muggia

Judi & David Issacson

Reesa Manning

Kathleen Salemi

Cindy & Neil Lyon

Anil Crasto

Teresa Kersten

Cary Berman

Rhett Wilson

Tom Emrich & Jonathan Carver Moore

Nick Scandalious

Dixie Webster Davis

David Schutte

Stuart Spencer

Jay Kuo

Ned Lustbader

Ken Lustbader & Jay Kidd

Susan & Joyce Lowenberg

See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

I sat down with Tim Fletcher, a counselor and researcher specializing in Complex Trauma recovery with over 30 years of experience. The goal: how do we heal our shame and reclaim our lives?

We cover:

• Why 100% of the Population Struggles with Shame
• The #1 thing to heal from shame
• How Shame Shows Up in Dating: Fawning and Self-Abandonment
• Why We Subconsciously Date People Like Our Parents
• How to Regulate Your Nervous System and Silencing the Inner Critic

If this episode resonated, please share with someone who you believe it would benefit.

Executive Producer

Jordan Gonsalves

Producers

Amanda McLoughlin, Multitude

Brandon Grugle, Multitude

Editor

Deanna Chapman

Production & Publicity 

Franklin Benavides

Morgan Jones

Ben Lauer

Dio Anthony

Larry Colton

Adam Berman

Special thanks to:

Chip Conley

Larry Colton & John McCoy

Mike Phillps & Jay Morton

Bill Glenn & Scott Hafner

Robert Holgate

Jenny & Jude Gonsalves

DeeDee Towery

Kevin Palmer & Tom Ellicott

Michael & Laura Werner

Alex Berman & Alex Scotta

Steve Houck

Dave Koz

David Beatty

Paul Grossinger

Randy Quebec

Tom Viola

Broadway Cares / Danny Whitman

Julie Stampler

David Vogel

Brooke & Will Muggia

Judi & David Issacson

Reesa Manning

Kathleen Salemi

Cindy & Neil Lyon

Anil Crasto

Teresa Kersten

Cary Berman

Rhett Wilson

Tom Emrich & Jonathan Carver Moore

Nick Scandalious

Dixie Webster Davis

David Schutte

Stuart Spencer

Jay Kuo

Ned Lustbader

Ken Lustbader & Jay Kidd

Susan & Joyce Lowenberg

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I sat down with legendary YouTuber Markian B about how to talk to strangers. His entire brand and life story has been built on understanding what belonging is and how to find it. His biggest tip: talk to strangers more. Talking to strangers is our best chance at finding our people and finding ourselves.

We cover:

• Why talking to strangers in person is a life hack
• How to talk to strangers
• The best prompts to start a conversation  
• How to overcome the fear of rejection and judgment  
• How to stop identifying with your feelings
• The work required to build authentic friendships  
• Why you should smile at strangers more
• What is belonging
• How to make inner peace your north star

If this episode resonated, please share with someone who you believe it would benefit.

Executive Producer

Jordan Gonsalves

Producers

Amanda McLoughlin, Multitude

Brandon Grugle, Multitude

Editor

Deanna Chapman

Production & Publicity 

Franklin Benavides

Morgan Jones

Ben Lauer

Dio Anthony

Larry Colton

Adam Berman

Special thanks to:

Chip Conley

Larry Colton & John McCoy

Mike Phillps & Jay Morton

Bill Glenn & Scott Hafner

Robert Holgate

Jenny & Jude Gonsalves

DeeDee Towery

Kevin Palmer & Tom Ellicott

Michael & Laura Werner

Alex Berman & Alex Scotta

Steve Houck

Dave Koz

David Beatty

Paul Grossinger

Randy Quebec

Tom Viola

Broadway Cares / Danny Whitman

Julie Stampler

David Vogel

Brooke & Will Muggia

Judi & David Issacson

Reesa Manning

Kathleen Salemi

Cindy & Neil Lyon

Anil Crasto

Teresa Kersten

Cary Berman

Rhett Wilson

Tom Emrich & Jonathan Carver Moore

Nick Scandalious

Dixie Webster Davis

David Schutte

Stuart Spencer

Jay Kuo

Ned Lustbader

Ken Lustbader & Jay Kidd

Susan & Joyce Lowenberg

See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.