I sat down with America’s #1 career expert Suzy Welch. Her approach to careers isn’t about resumes though; it’s about values. She has the best data set on human values in the world. I wanted to understand what her research could tell us about shame. 

We cover:

• Why only 7% of people know their values
• How you can become part of the 7%
• America’s #1 value isn’t what you think it is
• Why Only 2% of Gen Z is hirable
• The connection between values and shame

THE 16 HUMAN VALUES

1. Agency: Need for self-determination and making decisions.

2. Scope: Desire for a big, chaotic, adventurous life versus a small, secure one.

3. Affluence: Importance of financial wealth and money.

4. Achievement: Drive for visible success and personal validation.

5. Belonging: Need for community, friends, and your people.

6. Belovedness: Value placed on romantic love.

7. Work Centrism: Making work the primary lens of your identity.

8. Family Centrism: Organizing your life and decisions around family.

9. Eudaimonia: Focus on self-care, personal wellbeing, pleasure, and fun.

10. Beholderism: Caring about how things and people look.

11. Radius: Drive to change or blow up large social systems.

12. Cosmos: Reliance on faith and spirituality.

13. Voice: Need to be heard and express yourself.

14. Luminance: An inner desire for wide recognition, fame, or legacy.

15. Nonsibi: The internal drive to give back, be altruistic, and help others.

16. Place: The deep importance and grounding of a specific physical location.

TAKE THE VALUES BRIDGE ASSESSMENT

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Executive Producer

Jordan Gonsalves

Producers

Amanda McLoughlin, Multitude

Brandon Grugle, Multitude

Editor

Deanna Chapman

Production & Publicity 

Franklin Benavides

Morgan Jones

Ben Lauer

Dio Anthony

Larry Colton

Adam Berman

Special thanks to:

Chip Conley

Larry Colton & John McCoy

Mike Phillps & Jay Morton

Bill Glenn & Scott Hafner

Robert Holgate

Jenny & Jude Gonsalves

DeeDee Towery

Kevin Palmer & Tom Ellicott

Michael & Laura Werner

Alex Berman & Alex Scotta

Steve Houck

Dave Koz

David Beatty

Paul Grossinger

Randy Quebec

Tom Viola

Broadway Cares / Danny Whitman

Julie Stampler

David Vogel

Brooke & Will Muggia

Judi & David Issacson

Reesa Manning

Kathleen Salemi

Cindy & Neil Lyon

Anil Crasto

Teresa Kersten

Cary Berman

Rhett Wilson

Tom Emrich & Jonathan Carver Moore

Nick Scandalious

Dixie Webster Davis

David Schutte

Stuart Spencer

Jay Kuo

Ned Lustbader

Ken Lustbader & Jay Kidd

Susan & Joyce Lowenberg

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I sat down with Tim Fletcher, a counselor and researcher specializing in Complex Trauma recovery with over 30 years of experience. The goal: how do we heal our shame and reclaim our lives?

We cover:

• Why 100% of the Population Struggles with Shame
• The #1 thing to heal from shame
• How Shame Shows Up in Dating: Fawning and Self-Abandonment
• Why We Subconsciously Date People Like Our Parents
• How to Regulate Your Nervous System and Silencing the Inner Critic

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Jordan Gonsalves

Producers

Amanda McLoughlin, Multitude

Brandon Grugle, Multitude

Editor

Deanna Chapman

Production & Publicity 

Franklin Benavides

Morgan Jones

Ben Lauer

Dio Anthony

Larry Colton

Adam Berman

Special thanks to:

Chip Conley

Larry Colton & John McCoy

Mike Phillps & Jay Morton

Bill Glenn & Scott Hafner

Robert Holgate

Jenny & Jude Gonsalves

DeeDee Towery

Kevin Palmer & Tom Ellicott

Michael & Laura Werner

Alex Berman & Alex Scotta

Steve Houck

Dave Koz

David Beatty

Paul Grossinger

Randy Quebec

Tom Viola

Broadway Cares / Danny Whitman

Julie Stampler

David Vogel

Brooke & Will Muggia

Judi & David Issacson

Reesa Manning

Kathleen Salemi

Cindy & Neil Lyon

Anil Crasto

Teresa Kersten

Cary Berman

Rhett Wilson

Tom Emrich & Jonathan Carver Moore

Nick Scandalious

Dixie Webster Davis

David Schutte

Stuart Spencer

Jay Kuo

Ned Lustbader

Ken Lustbader & Jay Kidd

Susan & Joyce Lowenberg

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I sat down with legendary YouTuber Markian B about how to talk to strangers. His entire brand and life story has been built on understanding what belonging is and how to find it. His biggest tip: talk to strangers more. Talking to strangers is our best chance at finding our people and finding ourselves.

We cover:

• Why talking to strangers in person is a life hack
• How to talk to strangers
• The best prompts to start a conversation  
• How to overcome the fear of rejection and judgment  
• How to stop identifying with your feelings
• The work required to build authentic friendships  
• Why you should smile at strangers more
• What is belonging
• How to make inner peace your north star

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Jordan Gonsalves

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Amanda McLoughlin, Multitude

Brandon Grugle, Multitude

Editor

Deanna Chapman

Production & Publicity 

Franklin Benavides

Morgan Jones

Ben Lauer

Dio Anthony

Larry Colton

Adam Berman

Special thanks to:

Chip Conley

Larry Colton & John McCoy

Mike Phillps & Jay Morton

Bill Glenn & Scott Hafner

Robert Holgate

Jenny & Jude Gonsalves

DeeDee Towery

Kevin Palmer & Tom Ellicott

Michael & Laura Werner

Alex Berman & Alex Scotta

Steve Houck

Dave Koz

David Beatty

Paul Grossinger

Randy Quebec

Tom Viola

Broadway Cares / Danny Whitman

Julie Stampler

David Vogel

Brooke & Will Muggia

Judi & David Issacson

Reesa Manning

Kathleen Salemi

Cindy & Neil Lyon

Anil Crasto

Teresa Kersten

Cary Berman

Rhett Wilson

Tom Emrich & Jonathan Carver Moore

Nick Scandalious

Dixie Webster Davis

David Schutte

Stuart Spencer

Jay Kuo

Ned Lustbader

Ken Lustbader & Jay Kidd

Susan & Joyce Lowenberg

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I sat down with New York Times spirituality journalist and host of the Believing newsletter Lauren Jackson. We talked about what's really driving the cultural movement back to church. Headlines like "Gen Z’s Catholic Revival" and "Young Adults Packing the Pews" have flooded our feeds. I myself decided to go back to church? But what's driving it?

We cover:

• The surprising data that contradicts the "religious revival" headlines
• How AI is capitalizing on America’s longing for God
• What MAGA and the Eras Tour have in common
• The benefits of religion and the costs
• Why women who attend church are less likely to die of cancer
• Why countries like Indonesia and the Philippines outrank the US on human flourishing — despite being far less wealthy
• How this movement will impact America’s politics and how it already has

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Executive Producer

Jordan Gonsalves

Producers

Amanda McLoughlin, Multitude

Brandon Grugle, Multitude

Editor

Deanna Chapman

Production & Publicity 

Franklin Benavides

Morgan Jones

Ben Lauer

Dio Anthony

Larry Colton

Adam Berman

Special thanks to:

Chip Conley

Larry Colton & John McCoy

Mike Phillps & Jay Morton

Bill Glenn & Scott Hafner

Robert Holgate

Jenny & Jude Gonsalves

DeeDee Towery

Kevin Palmer & Tom Ellicott

Michael & Laura Werner

Alex Berman & Alex Scotta

Steve Houck

Dave Koz

David Beatty

Paul Grossinger

Randy Quebec

Tom Viola

Broadway Cares / Danny Whitman

Julie Stampler

David Vogel

Brooke & Will Muggia

Judi & David Issacson

Reesa Manning

Kathleen Salemi

Cindy & Neil Lyon

Anil Crasto

Teresa Kersten

Cary Berman

Rhett Wilson

Tom Emrich & Jonathan Carver Moore

Nick Scandalious

Dixie Webster Davis

David Schutte

Stuart Spencer

Jay Kuo

Ned Lustbader

Ken Lustbader & Jay Kidd

Susan & Joyce Lowenberg

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Do you feel either anxious or suffocated in your relationship? Then this episode is for you. 

I sat down with licensed marriage and family therapist Kati Morton to discuss attachment styles. She explains why we are constantly chasing emotionally unavailable partners, how we can finally break that cycle, the biggest dating green & red flags in dating and more.

We cover:

• Why less than 10% of the population grows up with a secure attachment style
• How your romantic attachment style is completely formed within the first five years of your life
• The "anxious-avoidant trap" and why toxic relationships feel like high highs and low lows
• Why feeling intense "butterflies" on a first date is actually a massive red flag
• The deep connection between childhood emotional neglect, shame, and the fear of expressing your needs
• The exact steps to heal your attachment style

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Jordan Gonsalves

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Amanda McLoughlin, Multitude

Brandon Grugle, Multitude

Editor

Deanna Chapman

Production, Publicity, & Board

Franklin Benavides

Morgan Jones

Ben Lauer

Dio Anthony

Larry Colton

Adam Berman

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Are you or a loved one in credit card debt? Then this episode is for you. 

I sat down with debt journalists Jamie Feldman and Rachel Gayle Webster to discuss the biggest finding from their year-long investigation into America’s $2.27T credit card debt crisis. They host the award winning podcast Debt Heads, which chronicles their investigation in debt. And the villain isn’t who you think.

We cover:

• Why the economy literally depends on you staying in debt
• The 1978 Supreme Court decision that created America's debt crisis (Marquette National Bank of Minneapolis v. First of Omaha Service Corp.)
• Why the "get out of debt" industry needs you to stay in debt
• How your childhood shapes your relationship with money before you were old enough to know it
• The hidden connection between debt, shame, and belonging
• How to stop blaming yourself and start seeing the full picture

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Jordan Gonsalves

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Amanda McLoughlin, Multitude

Brandon Grugle, Multitude

Editor

Deanna Chapman

Production, Publicity, & Board

Franklin Benavides

Morgan Jones

Ben Lauer

Dio Anthony

Larry Colton

Adam Berman

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Do you have sex/intimacy issues? Then this episode is for you.

I was in a sexless relationship with my dream man. For years, I couldn’t understand what I did wrong, until this conversation. I sat down with Ian Kerner, sex expert and licensed psychotherapist specializing in sex. He’s the author of the New York Times best-selling book She Comes First (Harper Collins) which has changed so many of friend’s sex lives. But I discovered through his last book which really changed my outlook on sex. It’s called So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex.

We cover:

The #1 sex issue couples face

Why porn might actually be a good thing

How to build your sexual intelligence

Why most of us go into sex only 50% aroused

How to talk to your partner about sex when shame makes it feel impossible

Why men in their 20s have more ED than men in their 50s and 60s

How to fix your sex issues

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Executive Producer

Jordan Gonsalves

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Amanda McLoughlin, Multitude

Brandon Grugle, Multitude

Editor

Deanna Chapman

Production, Publicity, & Board

Franklin Benavides

Morgan Jones

Ben Lauer

Dio Anthony

Larry Colton

Adam Berman

Special thanks to:

Chip Conley

Larry Colton & John McCoy

Mike Phillps & Jay Morton

Bill Glenn & Scott Hafner

Robert Holgate

Jenny & Jude Gonsalves

DeeDee Towery

Kevin Palmer & Tom Ellicott

Michael & Laura Werner

Alex Berman & Alex Scotta

Steve Houck

Dave Koz

David Beatty

Paul Grossinger

Randy Quebec

Tom Viola

Broadway Cares / Danny Whitman

Julie Stampler

David Vogel

Brooke & Will Muggia

Judi & David Issacson

Reesa Manning

Kathleen Salemi

Cindy & Neil Lyon

Anil Crasto

Teresa Kersten

Cary Berman

Rhett Wilson

Tom Emrich & Jonathan Carver Moore

Nick Scandalious

Dixie Webster Davis

David Schutte

Stuart Spencer

Jay Kuo

Ned Lustbader

Ken Lustbader & Jay Kidd

Susan & Joyce Lowenberg

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If religion ever made you feel like you didn't belong, this episode is for you.

I grew up gay, Catholic, and deeply ashamed. And most of my shame points back to the church. For the very first episode of Unshaming, I sat down with the one person who started to change that for me — Father Jim Martin, one of the most outspoken advocates for LGBT people in the Catholic Church today.

He is also the author of a new book called Work in Progress and leads “Outreach”, the ministry bringing LGBTQ Catholics back to the Church. He has over 1 million followers across social media and has become one of the most important and controversial figures in American Catholicism.

What we cover:

• Religious trauma origin stories
• The Church's treatment of LGBTQ people
• Why the transactional God doesn’t exist
• The recent sexual abuse settlements 
• Father Jim grieving his mother who passed away this year
• Forgiveness and mercy

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Executive Producer

Jordan Gonsalves

Producers

Amanda McLoughlin, Multitude

Brandon Grugle, Multitude

Editor

Deanna Chapman, Multitude

Production & Publicity 

Franklin Benavides

Morgan Jones

Ben Lauer

Dio Anthony

Larry Colton

Adam Berman

Special thanks to:

Chip Conley

Larry Colton & John McCoy

Mike Phillps & Jay Morton

Bill Glenn & Scott Hafner

Robert Holgate

Jenny & Jude Gonsalves

DeeDee Towery

Kevin Palmer & Tom Ellicott

Michael & Laura Werner

Alex Berman & Alex Scotta

Steve Houck

Dave Koz

David Beatty

Paul Grossinger

Randy Quebec

Tom Viola

Broadway Cares / Danny Whitman

Julie Stampler

David Vogel

Brooke & Will Muggia

Judi & David Issacson

Reesa Manning

Kathleen Salemi

Cindy & Neil Lyon

Anil Crasto

Teresa Kersten

Cary Berman

Rhett Wilson

Tom Emrich & Jonathan Carver Moore

Nick Scandalious

Dixie Webster Davis

David Schutte

Stuart Spencer

Jay Kuo

Ned Lustbader

Ken Lustbader & Jay Kidd

Susan & Joyce Lowenberg

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If you’ve ever felt judged or like you’ve had to hide who you are, you’re invited to the Unshaming dinner party. A place where you are safe to be your authentic self and where your curiosity knows no limits. Hosted by journalist Jordan Gonsalves, we’ll have raw conversations with experts and storytellers to explore how shame is quietly shaping our relationships, our culture, our sense of self - and what becomes possible when we stop hiding and start belonging. Dinner’s ready.

Weekly episodes drop 6/17 on YouTube. Subscribe now!

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