UnShrinking U

You Don’t Have to Be Healed to Hit Record (with Vanessa Carroll)

You’ve done the work. You’ve pulled the wisdom out of it. And it still feels a little tender when you talk about it, so you wait.

You wait until you’re fully healed, perfectly neutral, and “over it” before you share your story.

Meanwhile, the woman two steps behind you is desperately looking for someone who gets it right now.

In this Friday live, I’m joined by Vanessa Carroll, EFT practitioner and coach, to talk about who gets to hear your story, how to know when it’s ready to share, and what’s really happening when your body slams on the brakes right before you hit record.

We get into why confidence comes after the reps and never before them, why the fear you feel is a symptom of something older, how EFT and conversational hypnosis reach the part of you that’s still protecting you, and why affirmations can’t outrun a belief system that says this isn’t for you.

And then something neither of us planned happened. Vanessa shared, for the first time on camera, the letter she wrote to her younger self and the steps she took to go from writing it down to saying it out loud. It’s one of the most real moments we’ve had on these lives.

In this episode:

* 00:00 Who gets to hear your story

* 01:30 Sharing while you’re still in it vs. waiting until you’re through it

* 05:45 Why it’s so hard for leaders to be seen mid-process

* 07:15 Where imposter syndrome really comes from

* 09:15 Be the person you wish you’d had

* 13:00 When your body hits the brakes before you go live

* 15:30 Confidence comes after the reps

* 16:50 Fear is the symptom: finding where it started

* 18:40 EFT and bringing safety to your younger self

* 21:50 Why affirmations don’t stick

* 23:50 What conversational hypnosis actually looks like

* 26:35 Vanessa’s letter to her younger self

* 33:00 Finding people with the capacity to hold your story

* 36:40 The birthplace of the UnShrinking U Podcast, and The Practice by Seth Godin

* 41:20 How to work with Vanessa and Tammy

Want to know what’s keeping you from hitting record? Book a free 45-minute Clarity Call with me. It’s a conversation, not a hypnosis session, and I hold 4 spots a week:

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~Tammy McCroaryCertified Clinical Hypnotherapist · Fascia Maneuvers Coach · Host of the UnShrinking U Podcast

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Connect with Vannessa Carroll

Vannessa CarrollClinical EFT Practitioner & Emotional Resiliency Coach

Book a Clarity Call with Vannessa:Schedule a consultation

Learn more about Vannessa:www.revealtherealme.com

Keep unshrinking, your body knows the way.

Tammy McCroary, Clinical Hypnotherapist and Fascia Maneuvers Coach, host of the UnShrinking U Podcast.

Thank you to everyone who tuned into my live video!

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Be Visible Anyway

Real Conversations on Fear, Rejection, Belonging & Using Your Voice

What does it actually cost to be seen?

Not just to turn on the camera or hit publish—but to let people hear what you really think, tell the story that shaped you, and allow yourself to be perceived without knowing exactly how it will land.

In this episode of UnShrinking U, Tammy McCroary sits down with Vannessa Carroll for a candid conversation about visibility, storytelling, rejection, belonging, and the protective patterns that can quietly keep us from using our voice.

Tammy shares what she has been noticing in her own relationship with being visible—the over-fussing, scripting, editing and trying to make sure everything lands just right. And the realization that some of what makes her most powerful in conversation happens when she stops trying to control it.

Because being unscripted isn't the problem.

Sometimes, it's the magic.

They explore what changes when connection stops meaning:

Everyone has to understand me.

No one can judge me.

My message needs to land perfectly.

And instead becomes:

I can show up with my presence, my story and my voice—and trust that the right people will recognize themselves in it.

Vannessa brings another layer to the conversation: the very real cost of telling your story when speaking your truth has previously brought rejection, shame, disconnection or a feeling that you no longer belong.

Sometimes staying quiet isn't a confidence problem.

It's protection.

And yet, there can come a point when the cost of staying frozen becomes greater than the perceived safety of staying small.

In this conversation, we explore:

The protective pattern underneath overthinking your visibility

Why trying to perfectly script yourself can disconnect you from your natural voice

Being willing to be misunderstood, judged—or simply not for everyone

Why connection isn't the same as certainty

Rejection, belonging and the fear of activating discomfort in other people

The shift from I'd rather be liked than upset anyone to recognizing the impact your story may have

The rationalizing voice that asks, “Who even cares?”

Imposter syndrome and the discomfort of becoming known

Regulating yourself while becoming more visible

Why the goal isn't to connect with everyone—it's to become more available to the people you're actually here for

There is a different kind of freedom in realizing:

You don't need everyone to understand you in order to be understood by the right people.

And maybe the work isn't becoming fearless enough to be visible.

Maybe it's becoming connected enough to yourself that fear no longer gets the final vote.

Connect with Tammy McCroary

~Tammy McCroaryCertified Clinical Hypnotherapist · Fascia Maneuvers Coach · Host of the UnShrinking U Podcast

Explore Tammy's work / Clarity Call:Why Can't I Go Live or Get on Camera?

Connect with Vannessa Carroll

Vannessa CarrollClinical EFT Practitioner & Emotional Resiliency Coach

Book a Clarity Call with Vannessa:Schedule a consultation

Learn more about Vannessa:www.revealtherealme.com

Thank you to everyone who tuned into my live video! Join me for my next live video in the app.

This audio is designed to be listened to daily, alongside your 7-Day Nervous System Reset PDF.

You do not need to save it for a specific day or moment. Come back to it every day of the week. Let it become part of the rhythm. Some days it will land differently than others. That is the point.

Open your PDF, do the day’s practice, and let this be what holds the space around it.

If you’d like to go deeper and map exactly where this pattern is running in your specific life, you’re welcome to book a free UnShrinking Assessment with Tammy at calendly.com/tammymccroary/unshrinking-you

Have you ever wondered why you can't switch off... even when nothing is wrong?

Why you replay conversations, overthink simple decisions, feel guilty setting boundaries, or carry the emotional weight of everyone around you?

What if the problem isn't anxiety at all?

In this special workshop replay, Tammy McCroary introduces The UnShrinking Method—a three-part framework developed through seven years of clinical practice helping high-functioning women uncover the hidden survival pattern beneath chronic overfunctioning, people-pleasing, and emotional exhaustion.

In this episode you'll discover:

• Why what you've been calling anxiety may actually be a subconscious survival response.• The hidden role rejection sensitivity plays in keeping capable women stuck.• Why insight and self-awareness alone rarely create lasting change.• How the nervous system, subconscious mind, and body work together to create a new baseline for lasting transformation.• The three foundational keys of The UnShrinking Method: The Root Map, The Subconscious Reset, and The Body Release.

If you've ever thought, "I know what my patterns are... so why can't I change them?" this conversation was created for you.

You are not broken.

You are not too much.

You may simply be living from a survival pattern that no longer needs to run your life.

If today's episode gave language to something you've been carrying, I'd love to keep the conversation going.

Text "STEADY" to 1-782-608-3271.

I'll send you the next step inside The UnShrinking Method, along with exclusive resources and updates to help you move from surviving to steady.

I'm so glad you're here.

This week on Fascia Fridays, the maneuvers work with the psoas and the full central axis of the body. The physical home of the hierarchy you have been holding alone.

“When we stop dominating and start receiving, the body remembers what synergy actually feels like.” ~ Richard Rudd

The next version of you isn’t louder. She’s truer. 🦋

Thank you to everyone who tuned into my live video! Join me for my next live video in the app.

This week on Fascia Fridays, the maneuvers work with the diaphragm, the jaw, and the palate. The physical home of genuine enthusiasm, full expression, and presence.

“As long as you are indifferent, you can’t ever be different” ~ Richard Rudd

The next version of you isn’t louder. She’s truer. ✨

Thank you to everyone who tuned into my live video! Join me for my next live video in the app.

In this episode Tammy explores Gene Key 16, Magical Genius, and the collective shadow of Indifference that lives in the body as the quiet experience of going through the motions without genuine engagement.

Featuring a personal reflection on folding three distinct disciplines into one living methodology and the fascia science behind why genuine enthusiasm is a body experience before it is a mindset choice.

What we cover:

* The shadow of Indifference and what it looks and feels like in the diaphragm, jaw and voice

* Why your fascia is the most highly intelligent part of your body and how it holds the pattern

* Gate 9 and the pattern of Inertia as moving without actually choosing

* The gift of Versatility and what it feels like to be actually in it

* Mastery as the dragonfly principle: becoming the thing that flies

* Tease for Friday’s three-part Fascia Friday maneuver

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If today resonated and you want to take this deeper, I have a limited number of 1:1 consultation spots available right now. This is where we figure out together exactly where your body is holding the pattern and what the right next step is for you specifically. Whether that’s the workshop, the beta program or something else entirely.

Keep UnShrinking, your body knows the way!

🧘🏻‍♀️ Fascia Friday | The Grounding Release Gene Key 20 | The Now | Arriving in the Present Moment

In today’s live Fascia Friday, Tammy works with the physical home of Gene Key 20 ~ Presence ~ and what it actually feels like in the body when you finally let yourself land.

If you felt shallow breath, feet that barely register the floor or legs that stay braced even when everything is fine this week, this maneuver is for you.

What we covered:

The shadow of Gene Key 20 ~Superficiality, and where it lives in the fascia

The feet, legs and lower body as the physical home of presence and grounding

The Grounding Release maneuver, live and in real time

How the body holds the pattern of never fully arriving

Link: Subscribe to Fascia Fridays (free): https://substack.com/@unshrinkingyou

If today resonated and you want to go deeper, I have a limited number of 1:1 consultation spots available.

This is where we figure out together exactly where your body is holding the pattern and what the right next step is for you specifically.

Link: Book your spot here: https://calendly.com/tammymccroary/unshrinking-you 🦋

In this episode Tammy explores Gene Key 20 — The Now — and the collective shadow of Superficiality that so many of us carry in our bodies without realising it.

Featuring a personal story from a client session during Covid that changed the way Tammy understands presence, this episode goes deep into why presence is a body experience before it is a mindset shift.

What we cover:

• The shadow of Superficiality — what it looks and feels like in the body

• Gene Key 34 and the pattern of busyness as avoidance

• How fascia holds the pattern of not landing

• The gift of Self Assurance and what it feels like to arrive

• Tease for this Friday’s Fascia Friday grounding maneuver

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