Untethered to Rooted

In this episode, Dana Daugherty invites her guest Tyler Brewington-Mathis to explore how she supports grieving families during hospitalizations, specifically at the intersection of grief and unexpected hospitalization during pregnancy. These experiences are not often talked about, especially loss around the expected birth experience. Tyler Brewington-Mathis is a chaplain who supports parents and their support systems as they navigate the NICU. We discuss how she walks alongside people through moments of grief and crisis, inspired by Henri Nouwen’s focus on being with someone instead of fixing the problem for them. We also discuss the ways Tyler helps people make meaning and heal as she regularly sits with and advocates for families alongside their healthcare teams, providing emotional and interfaith care. She thrives in this ministry of presence and values being present for each person who enters the hospital.

Tyler Brewington-Mathis is an ordained American Baptist minister and a board-certified chaplain with a speciality in Neonatal Intensive Care Unit (NICU) and Perinatal Health. Tyler holds a master’s in public health from UC Berkeley and a master’s in divinity from Fuller Theological Seminary. Currently, she is pursuing her doctorate in ministry in Chaplaincy at the Candler School of Theology. Outside of her academic experiences, Tyler is a second-year Made for PAX Fellow in the Contemplative Activism and Spiritual Formation cohort. Tyler was the recipient of the 2023 Frederick Buechner Award for Excellence in Academic Writing, and her writings have been featured in Fuller Magazine, Abbey of the Arts, and Cosmic Christ. She is the author of I Cried Oceans: A Journey of Faith, Hope, and Resilience. Outside of her academic and professional work, Tyler loves walking labyrinths, reading for pleasure, practicing Pilates, writing, hosting dinner parties, and spending time with her beloved community. Tyler lives in her hometown of Los Angeles, California with her husband and their toddler son. 

You can connect with Tyler via email at [email protected] and view her article featured in Fuller Magazine here.

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Disclaimer: The information shared in this episode reflects personal stories and opinions only. The views shared by podcast guests are not reflective of the host's. This podcast does not constitute therapy. The information shared here does not constitute providing medical advice or professional services. The information provided should not be used for diagnosing or treating a health problem or disease, and those seeking medical advice should consult with their licensed treating provider.

In this episode, Dana Daugherty invites her guest Lou-Lou Igbokwe to talk about something some millennials are beginning to face as they move through their 30s and 40s: when their friends and peers die prematurely at a young age. Together we talk about how grieving the loss of friends doesn’t get as much support as grieving family members, the difficulty of processing untimely death because we know a person has so much more life to live, and what it means to keep someone’s memory alive through ritual, story, and connecting with others who are grieving as well.

Born and raised in the suburbs of New Jersey to Nigerian immigrant parents, Lou- Lou Igbokwe has always used the cultural kaleidoscope that colored her world to shape the stories she tells. From reruns of the Mary Tyler Moore Show to the visceral language of Toni Morrison, the common theme of Lou-Lou’s early influences is community.  She discovered her love for theater at Dartmouth College, later earning an MFA in Dramatic Writing from the NYU Tisch School of the Arts Asia, where she developed her play Iyom during her two years in Singapore. Her writing has since taken her into film and TV, with credits including Starz’s Step Up: High Water, BET’s Bigger, and Netflix’s Bridgerton, as well as short film, Chula, that screened at Palm Springs Film Festival. She’s also, by her own admission, a shameless performer who owns three karaoke microphones.

This conversation is for anyone who’s lost a friend and felt like the world didn’t quite know what to do with that grief, and for anyone trying to figure out how to hold onto the memory of their friend once they’re gone.

You can connect with Lou-Lou on LinkedIn or Instagram @writeonloulou 

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Disclaimer: The information shared in this episode reflects personal stories and opinions only. The views shared by podcast guests are not reflective of the host's. This podcast does not constitute therapy. The information shared here does not constitute providing medical advice or professional services. The information provided should not be used for diagnosing or treating a health problem or disease, and those seeking medical advice should consult with their licensed treating provider.

In this episode, Dana Daugherty invites my guest Melissa Braunworth, a licensed marriage and family therapist (LMFT) in California (lic # 129701), to explore sibling loss and how to talk about grief with kids. Melissa brings both professional and personal experience to this conversation, having lost her younger brother to a two-year journey with advanced stage cancer, just two weeks after her own engagement. In the years since, she’s navigated major life milestones, such as growing her family and continuing her clinical work, all while carrying that grief, impacting how she now supports children and families and builds a language for loss.

With over a decade of experience supporting kids, teens, parents, and school staff, Melissa specializes in grief and loss, trauma, ADHD, perinatal/postpartum mental health, and faith deconstruction/reconstruction. We talk about what it really looks like to support a child through loss, how creative expression opens doors that words can’t, and how Melissa brings grief language into conversations with her own kids.

Melissa is a mom to three children, a spouse, a sister, a Native to the Bay Area, an eldest daughter, and a first generation Asian-American U.S.-dweller. Also a note that anything that Melissa says today is for educational purposes and does not constitute therapy or therapeutic advice.

For more information or for the best way to contact Melissa is through her website where you also find a link to her Substack: www.lithopsandbloomtherapy.com 

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Disclaimer: The information shared in this episode reflects personal stories and opinions only. The views shared by podcast guests are not reflective of the host's. This podcast does not constitute therapy. The information shared here does not constitute providing medical advice or professional services. The information provided should not be used for diagnosing or treating a health problem or disease, and those seeking medical advice should consult with their licensed treating provider.

In this episode, Dana Daugherty invites her guest Lexi Mattocks to share her powerful journey of surviving foster care adversity and finding identity in becoming a survivor and a community leader. Lexi grew up in an abusive household where she became the whistleblower for her family’s struggles while dedicating herself to protecting her seven foster siblings, often sacrificing her own goals to keep them safe. We talk about what it meant for her to become a guardian for her severely disabled foster brothers, and how that experience shaped her into an advocate for differently abled people. Lexi opens up about surviving homelessness during her final year of college, and how she found healing, discipline, and a new sense of identity through powerlifting. We also explore the tools she leaned on to cope in her twenties, and why those same tools needed to evolve as she enters her thirties and a new chapter: motherhood. Lexi speaks candidly about confronting generational trauma, grieving what she didn’t have, and why she believes there is real courage in knowing when and how to ask for help. She reflects on the role models she needed to lean on throughout her life, and the lessons she’s carried into her advocacy work today. 

Lexi Mattocks is a South Korean adoptee, survivor, and advocate whose life has been shaped by resilience in the face of trauma. She’s on the board for the USA Powerlifting Disabled Athletes Committee, and has a passion for spreading adaptive awareness in the gym, science lab, and community.

You can find Lexi on Instagram @lexi_adaptive_athlete or on YouTube @LexiAdaptiveAthlete.

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In this episode, Dana Daugherty invites her guest La Quanna Cooper to talk about how rest, ambition, and grief can coexist, and what it looks like to choose address your grief instead of not tending to it. After losing her mother several years ago, La Quanna found that travel, something deeply tied to her bond with her mom, became something that pushed her to trust herself and shed old ways of being that no longer served her. She learned to listen to her body, reset her boundaries, and commit to showing up differently so she was intentional about not leading with her wounds, but with her healing. Now, La Quanna channels her experience into wellness retreats designed to give others a safe place to land, process their emotions, and reconnect with themselves and community. In this episode we talk about grief, growth, and the courage it takes to re-root yourself.

La Quanna Cooper is the founder of Poised Wellness Retreats, a biotech professional by day and wellness entrepreneur outside of her 9-5, creating restorative experiences that honor cultural identity, intentional rest, and the balance between movement and stillness. She is also a Spin and certified Lagree instructor who knows firsthand that taking care of yourself isn’t a luxury, it's the foundation for how we lead, live, and show up for our communities. 

You can find her on Instagram @Lifebyq, @poisedwellnessretreats, @fortheculturecoalition. You can also check out her retreats online at www.posedwellnessretreats.com, or email her at [email protected]

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In this episode, Dana Daugherty invites her guest Frank Ivey to talk about how reflection and journaling helped him in the grieving journey. Losing his father three years ago left Frank overwhelmed, losing hope, and noticing how grief impacts his relationships. In this episode, Frank shares with us about how journaling became his lifeline and helping him unlearn what he'd been taught about masculinity, where he can process his emotions honestly, and reconnect with himself. Allowing himself to truly feel his pain opened the door to deep personal and spiritual renewal, and how his journey through grief became a calling where he works with children in developing the emotional skills and sense of belonging he had to find the hard way.

Frank Ivy is a husband, father, brother, and friend who is deeply committed to growing, loving, and showing up fully in the lives of those around him. He holds a master's degree in health services and is a Made for Pax Fellow in the Contemplative Activism + Spiritual Formation Cohort. He’s passionate about becoming a better man through self-awareness, faith, and real-life experience.

You can find him on Instagram @creatingforevers and learn more about his services at here!

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Disclaimer: The information shared in this episode reflects personal stories and opinions only. The views shared by podcast guests are not reflective of the host's. This podcast does not constitute therapy. The information shared here does not constitute providing medical advice or professional services. The information provided should not be used for diagnosing or treating a health problem or disease, and those seeking medical advice should consult with their licensed treating provider.

In this episode, Dana Daugherty invites her guest Jean Carlo Martinez to explore how loss and grief opened up deep exploration of himself, his family, and his Latino identity. For Jean, he found that grief was a way to learn about his family dynamics and history and to reclaim his Guatemalan roots and culture. The loss of his father sparked different grief reactions in his family, which unearthed hard truths and realities that were always there. In this conversation, we talk about the influence of narratives he grew up with around masculinity and Latino identity in processing grief and how his process reconnected him with his Guatemalan roots and the land. has set him on a path of connecting his rediscovery and reconnecting with Latino identity, specifically as a second-generation Guatemalan immigrant.

Connect with Jean:

- on Instagram: @Jeancito__19

- via email: [email protected]

- on Substack: jeancarlo19.substack.com

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For future episode drops and information visit: ⁠https://www.untetheredtorooted.com/social⁠

Give us a follow on IG: ⁠@untetheredtorooted⁠

Disclaimer: The information shared in this episode reflects personal stories and opinions only. The views shared by podcast guests are not reflective of the host's. This podcast does not constitute therapy. The information shared here does not constitute providing medical advice or professional services. The information provided should not be used for diagnosing or treating a health problem or disease, and those seeking medical advice should consult with their licensed treating provider.

In this episode, Dana Daugherty invites her guest Susana Baker to explore the layered grief of loving someone whose health is changing while they’re still alive. Susana shares her experience of anticipatory, ambiguous, and compounded grief as her father’s medical conditions grew more complex over time. Together, we reflect on caregiving from afar, navigating family dynamics, and grieving multiple versions of a parent, before and after loss.

Susana Baker is a lifelong creative and the founder of Untangling Ideas, a values-led marketing agency providing small businesses and organizations with award-winning brand strategy, messaging, and web design. A proud eldest daughter of an immigrant, she’s Colombian-American, fully bilingual, and now based in Richmond, VA with her rescue dachshund, Lucy, where she's become an enthusiastic amateur potter. You can find her on Instagram or Threads at @untanglingideas.

In this episode, Dana Daugherty sits down with Jessica Sun for an honest conversation about grief, healing, and contemplative political activism aided her in the search for something worth living for. Jessica shares how growing up in an apolitical, culturally conservative, nonreligious, and capitalist-focused household led her to politics as a source of meaning, and later to faith and spirituality as part of her healing journey. We talk about navigating racial discrimination, controlling authority figures, and the mental health system at a young age and how receiving therapy and helping others became a way to survive and make sense of her own pain. Jessica reflects on community organizing as both a path toward self-actualization and a stand-in for healing her family and talks frankly about navigating political burnout and connecting with political activists in community to ground herself again. Jessica is a second-generation Chinese U.S.-ian, community organizer, and former software engineer, currently in the application process with the Sisters of Providence of St. Mary-of-the-Woods..

You can find Jessica Sun online on LinkedIn, or @JessicaSun on UpScrolled and Spoutible.

Links mentioned:

• principled: https://principled.careers/
• Anand Giridharadas' 2023 commencement address to Sidwell Friends (pay walled): https://the.ink/p/a-commencement-address
• "Let Yourself Be Loved" by Philip Bennett: https://www.paulistpress.com/Products/8-482-1/let-yourself-be-loved-revised-and-expanded-edition.aspx
• Noam Chomsky quote "What does it mean to be truly educated?": https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/7360975-what-does-it-mean-to-be-truly-educated-i-think
• Lever News: https://www.levernews.com/
• Drop Site News: https://www.dropsitenews.com/

In this episode, Dana Daugherty invites her guest Reverend Angela Farrar Small to explore intergenerational grief and the unique position clergy are in when navigating grief in their congregations. Rev. Angela discusses how responses to grief and trauma are passed down within families and the negative impact of platitudes on grief. She shares why platitudes come up, and healthier ways we can acknowledge grief and respond instead. Rev. Angela is a licensed clinical social worker who was a pastor of a small congregation of elders. She has worked in hospice, in HIV disease care, and counseling individuals living with chronic conditions and their caregivers, including families impacted by dementia. Rev. Angela has a private practice and is newly focused on pivoting to spiritual care and spiritual trauma healing as it connects to mental health.

You can follow Angela Farrar Small, MSW, LICSW, M.Div., M.S. work at: www.EastSideTherapyAssociates.com and reach out to her at: [email protected] 

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Disclaimer: The information shared in this episode reflects personal stories and opinions only. The views shared by podcast guests are not reflective of the host's. This podcast does not constitute therapy. The information shared here does not constitute providing medical advice or professional services. The information provided should not be used for diagnosing or treating a health problem or disease, and those seeking medical advice should consult with their licensed treating provider.