Unwritten

Emily Guerra is a certified productivity life coach and founder of The Productivity Flow. She helps people (especially those working from home) build a more balanced, sustainable way of working that actually matches how the brain works—instead of forcing more hours and more hustle.

We discuss the real difference between being busy and being productive, why you can love your work and still burn out, the simple sleep and environment shifts that change energy more than any new system, why rigid time-blocking fails for a lot of people (including those with ADHD), the RAT model that connects thinking → action → results, flow state, and why the only reliable path is 1% at a time.

Emily’s site, free resources, and coaching: theproductivityflow.com
Instagram: @theproductivityflow

Chapters:

• 0:00 – Who Emily is and what The Productivity Flow is

• 1:00 – Wedding planner → COVID → freelancing → coaching
• 7:30 – Can you burn out even if you love the work?
• 12:00 – The basics that actually matter (sleep) + 1% rule
• 15:00 – Nightlights, circadian rhythm, and training you body

• 22:30 – Why full-day time blocking fails (and what to o instead)

• 30:00 – Productive vs busy: the actual difference
• 32:30 – Top 3 priorities + the self-worth trap of hustle
• 36:30 – The grayscale phone hack
• 38:30 – How she recognized this was her purpose
• 41:30 – Therapy lessons (and what to do if it isn’t working)
• 55:30 – Productivity and mental health are the same system (RAT model)

• 1:07:00 – Flow state + 90-minute deep work blocks
• 1:14:30 – The one rule: 1% at a time

• 1:16:30 – What she would change about work culture
• 1:20:00 – Final takeaway

Eve Hall on why sexual health never expires, the orgasm gap most couples miss, and how to take ownership of your body.

Work with Eve - https://pleaseme.online/

Timeline

• [00:00] Who Eve is and pelvic floor
• [01:30] How she got into sexual wellness
• [03:00] Ethical non-monogamy
• [07:00] Sexless marriage and making intimacy a priority
• [08:30] Scheduling sex and anticipation
• [11:00] Reclaiming your body after trauma
• [15:00] Tantra and intention
• [19:00] Kama Sutra
• [20:30] Sexual compatibility
• [22:30] Asexuality
• [24:30] Desire, dryness, and lube
• [27:30] Big clit energy
• [29:00] Rebuilding sexual confidence
• [30:30] Self-pleasure and the body
• [36:30] The orgasm gap (95% need external stimulation)
• [39:30] Positions and tools
• [47:30] Why people are having less sex
• [1:04:00] Pelvic floor and sexual function
• [1:09:30] Sexual longevity and the five pillars
• [1:14:00] Sex after 60, 70, 80
• [1:15:30] When to seek help
• [1:18:30] One thing she would change
• [1:20:30] Final takeaway: no expiration date
• [1:21:30] Where to find Eve

Everyone says “just forgive.” Nobody teaches you how.

Katharine Giovanni (author of The Ultimate Path to Forgiveness) shares a practical, step-by-step system that removes the emotional attachment without requiring you to forget or stay in relationship with the person. Anger is toxic. Start with the easy ones. Forgive the energy around the memory if you can’t forgive the person yet. Neutrality is the goal.

Key takeaways:

• The anger cup visual — why “I can manage it” eventually stops your life
• Why anger changes the water molecules in your body
• Rank people/places/things 1–10 and start with the 1s (never open with the dumpster fire)
• Forgive the energy around the memory (the desk, the year, the room, the other people)
• Do the practice before bed so your body can clear while you sleep
• Forgiveness is selfish — you want them out of your head

Timestamps:[0:00] Flashpoint: mother’s death and getting sober[3:40] The anger cup[6:10] Why anger is toxic[9:20] Start with the easy ones[13:50] Outward Bound: three days alone at 16[35:20] Breast cancer and “don’t die until you’re dead”[41:00] Forgiveness is selfish[45:00] Forgiving the energy around the memory[49:00] The exact system[1:10] Leave people better than you find them[1:32] When people show you who they are, believe them the first time[1:37] Final word: you are worthy of a life of joy

Guest: Katharine Giovanni
Book: The Ultimate Path to Forgiveness: Unlocking Your Power
Website: katharinegiovanni.com
Instagram: @katharinegiovanni

Unwritten with Thomas Malpass
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Stay curious. Never give up. You got this. Peace.

Vincent Van den Broeck was hit on an e-scooter in Brussels on October 11, 2024. He says the crash did not change him. The life he built before it is what got him out.

Doctors put survival near 10% and a full recovery near 1%. Rehab was supposed to take two years. He walked out the week of his birthday, in 3 months, January 25, 2025. This conversation is not the injury. It is the three questions he uses before the day ends, the difference between feels and done, and the one word he adds to “why me.”

Book, out October 11, 2026: Everything Feels Impossible Until It’s Donehttps://www.amazon.com/Everything-Feels-Impossible-Until-Done/dp/1911774360

Vincent: Instagram @vincentinthekitchenUID Club: https://www.theuidclub.comBook page: https://www.theuidclub.com/the-book

Timeline:

• 0:00 — The same Vincent as that morning

• 2:30 — October 11 did not change him
• 4:40 — Priorities shifted, not the person
• 7:10 — People-pleaser, and non-negotiable
• 10:20 — His mom, and dropping engineering
• 16:40 — How he knew hospitality was it
• 20:10 — The rooms that made him competitive
• 24:00 — The yeah-but, and what happy actually is
• 27:40 — Three questions before the day ends
• 33:20 — Half the days is a life
• 36:10 — Not happy at $1,000, not happy at $10,000
• 39:00 — When did we stop being kids
• 42:20 — Why the book
• 46:40 — Alignment: think, say, do
• 49:20 — Feels vs done
• 53:00 — Grief, and going back to work
• 56:40 — Destroy the personality built around the pain
• 59:20 — Ten words you love about life
• 63:00 — What “I made it” means
• 65:40 — The life you build is what saves you
• 69:20 — Out by January 25
• 73:40 — There is no plan B
• 75:20 — The unfinished thing that keeps you up
• 78:00 — Live authentically
• 80:20 — Why not me
• 82:00 — Where to find him

She looked successful and could not name one thing she wanted for herself.

Noreen Noble on the rule that caps a life: it will never be better than how you treat yourself. Valedictorian, VP, mom, then both parents and cancer — and the part that actually changed her was not the résumé. If you are stuck, surviving, and outsourcing your happiness, start here.

You’ll hear:

• Why “be the good girl” trains you out of your own wants
• The oxygen-mask rule for love
• Three breaths, a five-minute dump, then walk away
• The Amazon wishlist that is only for you
• Intuition does not ask “what if”
• Forgiveness without letting them back in
• The Superhero Inside, in one sentence

Chapters

• 00:00 The relationship that caps your life
• 02:48 Superpower is not a slogan
• 03:42 Oracle
• 05:28 A life that was prescribed
• 07:52 Looked right, felt wrong
• 10:55 She took the baggage with her
• 12:10 Making peace with her body
• 15:08 Where stuck people start
• 16:12 Three breaths
• 17:04 Write the stuck thoughts
• 19:22 A wishlist only for you
• 20:48 Come back to safety faster
• 01:04:20 Forgiveness is not access
• 01:07:10 What somatic means
• 01:13:40 Intuition doesn’t ask questions
• 01:18:10 How self-trust gets built
• 01:20:10 The book in one sentence
• 01:25:20 One thing she would change

Noreen: noreennoble.comInstagram: noreenleilani.nobleTikTok: noreennoblecoachingBook: The Superhero Inside

Retired Anaheim Fire Captain Rick Cheatham on turning struggle into purpose.

Ten years into his marriage, his wife said she hated him, hated God, and quit. They spent four years putting it back together. They are still married 39 years later.

In 2013 his son Michael was murdered over about $20,000 of cannabis. The killer left. The bitterness did not. Rick’s line: when a snake bites you, the snake is gone. The poison is what kills you. Forgiving the unforgivable was how he got the venom out.

Five months after retiring from Anaheim Fire, he fell, broke C4–C5, and was paralyzed from the chest down. He had to learn to walk again. Same choice. Different crucible.

This conversation is about victimization vs. a decision, faith that is not a church argument, and what it costs to keep a life after the worst day.

Guest: Rick Cheatham
rickcheatham.com

Unwritten with Thomas Malpass
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Instagram: @the_unwrittenpodcast
Email: [email protected]

Stay curious. Never give up. You got this. Peace.

Doug Red Hail Pineda — founder of The Church of Psychedelics — on plant medicine, oil and pharma, and the rites of passage we stopped giving our kids.

• Colorado looks progressive. The people are. The politicians and the oil companies are not.• Hemp is food, fuel, and fiber. CBD is still treated like heroin.• Recreational trip vs spiritual container — same plant, different result• We have no rites of passage. A 10-year-old never has to milk the cow.• Assume positive intent. Extinguish the fire. Don’t fuel it.• If microdosing gives you anxiety, it’s probably the product — not you.• Spirituality is agency. Religion is the structure.• Respond. Don’t react.

TIMELINE• 00:00 — Coming up• 01:00 — Who Doug is• 03:20 — Colorado: people vs politicians• 07:40 — Religious freedom and sacrament• 11:00 — Why Texas banned hemp• 14:40 — 85-cent gasoline and a plant that threatens two industries• 17:20 — First psychedelics — Lakota church and the campfire bag• 22:00 — What fracking leaves under your house• 28:00 — We have no rites of passage• 32:00 — When the weave can hold water• 35:40 — The braid that isn’t on his head• 44:00 — Random acts of kindness• 46:40 — Assume positive intent• 48:20 — Extinguish the fire• 55:20 — The hypocrisy of “drugs are bad”• 1:02:00 — MDMA, solvents, and dirty molecules• 1:04:00 — Why the microdose is giving him anxiety• 1:07:40 — Strain matters more than dose• 1:14:50 — A spiritual being having a human experience• 1:18:00 — Spirituality is not religion• 1:19:00 — Kill the apathy• 1:22:00 — Respond. Don’t react.• 1:24:00 — Where to find Doug

Guest: Doug Red Hail PinedaWebsite + newsletter: thechurchofpsychedelics.comInstagram: @the_church_of_psychedelics

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This is a conversation, not medical, legal, or clinical advice. Psychedelics and hemp are regulated differently by location.

Stay curious. Never give up. You got this. Peace.

She spent 15 years as a TV news anchor. Thousands of people saw her. Almost nobody knew her.

Leslie Draffin — former anchor, somatic guide, and host of The Light Within — on shame, the body, and coming home to yourself.

KEY POINTS• Playing a role on camera while feeling invisible• A diagnosis at 18, religious trauma, and sexual shame• Hustle, alcohol, and high-functioning collapse• Somatics vs just working the feeling out at the gym• Microdosing as a catalyst, not a cure• Sobriety, grief under anger, and listening to yourself sooner

Chapters:

• 00:00 — Finding the light within
• 01:00 — What “the light” actually means
• 03:00 — Seen by thousands. Known by no one
• 04:20 — How she became a news anchor
• 07:20 — The diagnosis at 18
• 09:00 — Preacher’s daughter, perfectionism, proving worth
• 11:00 — Why she finally said it publicly
• 11:40 — Can herpes be healed?
• 13:10 — Dating, disclosure, and “lucky to be loved”
• 15:20 — Stigma, transmission, cold sores
• 20:00 — Shame spiral, drinking, high-functioning collapse
• 23:00 — Microdosing: what it is and is not
• 26:00 — Recreational trips vs intentional work
• 29:20 — Full-dose journeys, mother wound, grief
• 36:00 — Anger under grief. Needs she wouldn’t ask for
• 37:30 — Trickle vs full blast
• 39:00 — How she works with shame now
• 47:00 — What somatics actually is
• 50:00 — The gym vs sitting with the feeling
• 51:00 — Fight, flight, freeze — coming back to safety
• 56:00 — Morning routine that stopped being a performance
• 58:20 — Legs up the wall
• 1:00:00 — Cold therapy
• 1:02:40 — Getting sober
• 1:09:00 — No light without darkness
• 1:14:30 — Cycle as compass. Religion as rules
• 1:21:20 — Card + five questions
• 1:25:20 — Biggest regret
• 1:32:20 — Biggest impact
• 1:40:20 — Lesson learned the hard way
• 1:43:20 — If money and time were unlimited
• 1:46:00 — Final word + where to find Leslie

Guest:Leslie DraffinInstagram: @LeslieDraffinWebsite: lesliedraffin.comPodcast: The Light Within

Unwritten with Thomas MalpassYouTube: @UnwrittenPodcastInstagram: @the_unwrittenpodcast

Stay curious. Never give up. You got this. Peace.

Disclaimer: Conversation only — not medical advice. Psychedelics are not a cure and legality varies. If you need support, contact a qualified professional or call/text 988 in the U.S.

Born addicted to drugs and alcohol. Taken into foster care. Adopted.

Tywin shares how he turned that start into drive, left a full-ride scholarship, built businesses from nothing, and now trains men to take full ownership of their life.

• Born addicted & foster care
• Searching for bio family & forgiving his mother
• Abandonment (even with parents present)
• Why most people never do real personal development
• Faith, emptiness, and why success still feels empty
• Sports, college, and walking away from a full ride
• From jobs to entrepreneurship
• Training men: body, vices, accountability
• Kids with multiple women – the hardest lesson
• Biblical marriage, soul ties & why women peak at 20

Chapters:

• 0:00 Born addicted & foster care
• 2:40 Adopted by a Caucasian family
• 3:50 Searching for bio family & forgiving his mother
• 6:40 Abandonment (even with parents present)
• 12:40 Why most people never do personal development
• 15:00 Faith, emptiness & why success still feels empty
• 17:00 Censorship, free speech & conspiracy theories
• 24:10 Sports path, college recruiting & walking away from a full ride
• 31:30 From jobs to entrepreneurship
• 33:00 Training men: body, mindset & accountability
• 35:00 How to overcome vices (the real first step)
• 1:10:00 Accountability, no excuses & kicking people out
• 1:36:00 Therapy vs getting to the real root
• 1:45:00 Biggest regret & biggest impact on his life
• 1:54:00 Kids with multiple women – the hardest lesson
• 2:01:00 Biblical marriage, soul ties & why women peak at 20
• 2:06:50 Ideal life if money and time were unlimited
• 2:09:00 His 3AM daily routine

Eddy Smits spent years as a hospital clown working with terminally ill and palliative children. What he learned in those rooms became a complete philosophy for living — about authenticity, honesty, resilience, human connection, and real success.

In this conversation we talk about:

• • How to walk into the hardest rooms in life
• • Why connection must come before comedy (or performance)
• • The difference between being a clown and acting like one• Why honesty (even when it hurts) builds stronger people
• • The danger of shortcuts and blueprints
• • Why most fears are taught, not real
• • Human connection in a world obsessed with AI and automation
• • Why you need the downs to experience the highs.

This is one of the most honest and grounded conversations we’ve had on Unwritten.

Chapters:

• 00:00 – The quote that started everything
• 04:00 – How Eddy became a hospital clown
• 08:30 – Connection before comedy
• 17:00 – Honesty that actually helps people grow
• 28:00 – Spirituality, God & the circle of life
• 38:00 – How Model C was written
• 40:00 – What Model C really means
• 50:00 – What it means to truly live
• 52:00 – The dehumanization of modern life (AI & automation)
• 01:09:00 – Can a clown be taken seriously?
• 01:14:00 – Why shortcuts almost never work
• 01:18:00 – The only two real fears we are born with
• 01:23:00 – Where Should We Begin?
• 01:26:00 – Biggest regret
• 01:31:00 – Who made the biggest impact
• 01:38:00 – The hardest lesson learned
• 01:43:00 – You need the downs to get the highs