Today we wrap up the season until the new year! Join us for some reflections on the last few months of episodes and to hear some exciting changes that begin when we start back up! We also dive a bit into the origin story of Upbringing… how we began to lean into learning, the crazy toddlers who helped us to redefine their resistance, our angle on feminist parenting, the cultural conditioning of the patriarchy and why to we’re trying our damndest to strive for alignment as parents and people. We have SO much gratitude for being here on this insane adventure alongside you. Thank you. We laugh, we cry, we lean in. Join us!

Relevant Links:

- Upbringing’s 12 Empowerments
- Upbringing’s RESIST Approach
- Why Perception of Stress Matters - via Limeade
- Hillary Franks’s Atlantic article that pissed us off
- Feminism on Wikipedia and Vox
- Patriarchy on Wikipedia and The Guardian
- RIE Parenting
- Modeling skills as a parent - on Very Well Family

This episode is supported by The Rajah Press, an online boutique that celebrates life's adventures through fine jewelry. Visit www.therajahpress.com and enter code Upbringing for 15% off your order.

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Today we have the honor to connect with the unwillingly enlightened, temporarily brilliant, alchemical cancer mom Alexa Wilding. She is a musician, writer and mother of 7 year old sons West and Lou, who was recently diagnosed with cancer for the second time. This is a special episode in so many ways -- and represents more than just Alexa’s family story. Her words weave a golden thread, a magical life-line that connects us to what matters most in life and how we can all be united by it. It is also a rare view into the prismatic, internal life of a woman ascending -- and the wise and poetic lessons she’s learned along the way.

In listening to Alexa’s story, we are awakened... Better able to lean in bravely to the scary plot twists of our own lives AND to leave our fear and egos behind as we care for others who are suffering. Join us to hear her candid, humorous and magical lessons about surrender, patience, true love, silver linings, loneliness, past selves, perspective, clarity, dignity, and acceptance. We laugh, we cry, we lean in. 

Relevant links:

- Alexa's instagram
- Alexa's website
- How I Became A Cancer Mom: Alexa’s article in Parents.com
- Alexa’s family’s GoFundMe site to share and donate!
- Leonard Cohen - Anthem song - Spotify - Lyrics
- I’m OK - You’re OK by Thomas Harris
- Molly Rosen Guy - @mollyrosenguy - @stonefoxride
- Desperately Seeking Susan movie

Today’s episode is supported by Daughter of the Land- a skincare line created using clean, organic, fair-trade ingredients and created with sustainability in mind. Support Upbringing by visiting Daughter of the Land! 

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Today on the podcast we explore why and how we’re working to grow up alongside our kids. We examine the pressure-filled impostor syndrome of new parenthood, the power of the growth mindset, the weight of our egos, and ways to play in the gray with our our learning as well as our kids’. When we can respect our kids as equals, then we can move forward, hand in hand, growing together. When we can show vulnerability, resilience, awareness and humor in our mistakes and successes, they are given that permission, too. And when we can say “I’m not done yet”, then we can all feel brave enough to ask “what’s next?” We laugh, we cry, we lean in. Join us!

Relevant Links:

- Upbringing’s 12 Empowerments
- Upbringing’s RESIST Approach
- Implicit Learning
- Brene Brown
- Carol Dwek Revisits the Growth Mindset
- Child development: The right kind of early praise predicts positive attitudes toward effort
- Beauty Sick by Renee Engeln
- Screen Free Parenting Resource site
- Harvard study about how the closeness of relationships helps us live longer

WE’RE NOT DONE YET- We may be grownups, but we aren’t done growing. We want our journey as parents to be about progress, not perfection, so we begin each day fresh with the acknowledgement that we have just as much growing up to do as our kids.

Today’s episode is supported by Tradlands- high-quality, sustainably crafted essentials for women, inspired by classic menswear. Visit www.tradlands.com and enter code Upbringing15 for 15% off your purchase.

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Today we connect with Darcy Lockman, clinical psychologist and author of All The Rage, a book that explores how egalitarian relationships become traditional ones when children are introduced to the household. We loved connecting with Darcy about the mother load, the myth of maternal instinct, why we struggle with relationship expectations, the complications of socialization vs biology, and how we can best raise children of any gender to be both communal helpers and independent doers. 

Interview begins: 1:53
H&K After Show begins: 41:42
Ask Us Anything begins: 1:03:45

Relevant links:

- Darcy Lockman’s website
- Buy All The Rage on Amazon, B&N, Powells
- Darcy on Twitter and Instagram
- Therapist Terry Real
- Terry Real on Goop Podcast: It’s normal to occasionally hate your spouse
- How Not To Hate Your Husband After Kids by Jancee Dunn
- American Time Use Survey
- Sarah Blaffer Hrdy, anthropologist & primatologist
- Testosterone Rex: Myths of Sex, Science, and Society by Cordelia Fine
- DABDA Grief Cycle
- Having It All: How Equally Shared Parenting Works by Francine Deutsch
- Equally Shared Parenting: Rewriting the Rules for a New Generation of Parents by Marc Vachon & Amy Vachon
- Dr. Toni Schmaeder - An article on HEED Domains
- Down Girl: The Logic of Misogyny by Kate Manne

Today’s episode is supported by Artifact Uprising, a sister-owned company helping us honor the meaningful moments in our lives through printed photo gifts, books, and more. Their beautiful, minimalist products are made from recycled papers, reclaimed materials -- all in the USA. Learn more about Artifact Uprising and support Upbringing by visiting their website our Partner’s page at www.upbringing.co/partners.

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Today on the podcast we explore how to play the long game with our kids. We examine the four main factors that hinder our perspective and trust in the process: fear, pressure, impatience and ignorance. This episode helped us set our sights on embracing our children for who they are and how they’re learning, growing and showing up RIGHT NOW. We talk about the Resist Approach and how it’s helping us lean in and scaffold skill-building with our kids around tough situations like manners, meals, hygiene, and chores. We laugh, we cry, we lean in. Join us!

Relevant links:

- Upbringing’s 12 Empowerments
- Upbringing’s RESIST Approach
- We Meet Kids Where They Are Episode

This episode is supported by The Rajah Press, an online boutique that celebrates life's adventures through fine jewelry. Visit www.therajahpress.com and enter code Upbringing for 15% off your order.

Visit our website, www.upbringing.co to learn more about us and sign up for our newsletter! We want to hear your thoughts. We care deeply about what you think and how you’re doin’, so get in touch -- we’re better together.

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Today we connect with Theresa Thorn, the co-host of the parenting humor podcast One Bad Mother and the author of It Feels Good to Be Yourself: A Book About Gender Identity for children.  We loved exploring the ways in which gender can be a unique and personal expression of self for all of us… Additionally, how this perspective can build momentum in dismantling our binary thinking and unconscious fears/expectations of who are kids are and who they will become. Join us!

Interview begins: 1:58
H&K After Show begins: 31:00
Ask Us Anything begins: 48:45

Relevant links: 

- Theresa Thorn’s website
- It Feels Good To Be Yourself on Amazon
- Illustrator genius Noah Grigni
- One Bad Mother Podcast
- Jesse Thorn
- Jesse & Theresa on Slate
- Genius and Fail Moments on OBM, Episode 307
- I Am Jazz - by Jessica Herthel, Jazz Jennings & Shelagh McNicholas
- Red, A Crayon Story - by Michael Hall
- Upbringing’s Empowerment episode: We Love Without Condition
- Upbringing's Convo w/ Kaelyn Rich, author & activist
- Teaching Tolerance - The Gender Spectrum
- Human Rights Campaign’s LGBTQ Glossary of definitions

Today’s episode is supported by Primary, a baby and children's clothing brand offering quality-made, gender-neutral basics. Support Upbringing by visiting Primary or our Partner’s page.

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Today on the podcast we explore how to meet our kids where they are. To respect them as unique individuals, to open our communication, to embrace our vulnerability and to examine our expectations. This episode helped us set our sights on becoming more aware, more able to seek acceptance, and ultimately, more able to trust in the process. Which feels fucking impossible most of the time. Right? Join us to deep dive a bit into our beliefs, expectations and tough interactions with our kids. We laugh, we cry, we lean in. Join us!

Relevant links:

- Upbringing's Empowerment Episodes
- Out of Control by Dr. Shefali Tsabary
- The Conscious Parent by Dr. Shefali Tsabary
- The Awakened Family by Dr. Shefali Tsabary
- Alfie Kohn
- RIE Parenting
- Magda Gerber, Respectful Parenting Pioneer
- Upbringing's RESIST Approach
- We Play In The Gray Upbringing Episode
- Janet Lansbury
- Dr. Ross Greene of Collaborative and Proactive Solutions
- Parenthood, 1989 movie
- Perfect Harmony tv show

This episode is supported by Revival Rugs, a direct-to-consumer rug company that ethically sources beautiful, one-of-a-kind vintage rugs from Turkey. Support Upbringing by visiting our website’s Partners page to learn more!

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Today we connect with LaTonya Yvette, a Brooklyn-based stylist, blogger and author of Woman of Color, a memoir and lifestyle guide full of moving essays, gorgeous photos, and practical style and beauty advice. We loved connecting with LaTonya about what coming of age means to her, the ways she’s helping her children look at their differences and scars as both beautiful and empowering, and the ways she’s healed from trauma through storytelling, color, and fashion. Join us!

Relevant links: 

LaTonya Yvette Blog
Woman of Color
Vitiligo skin condition

Aftershow + Ask Us Anything links:

Anne of Green Gables
Unconditional Parenting by Alfie Kohn
Growth Mindset

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Today on the podcast we explore how to separate our kids’ challenging behaviors from their value as human beings. It’s called loving unconditionally -- and it feels fucking impossible most of the time. This episode is all about challenging our beliefs to change our thoughts, behaviors and subsequent interactions with the infuriating, inspiring children in our lives. We talk about power, love, habits, boundaries and communication. We talk about rage, vulnerability, learning and identity. We laugh, we cry, we lean in. Join us!

Relevant links:

Upbringing’s 12 Empowerments
Upbringing's RESIST Approach
Alfie Kohn
Brené Brown
Brené Brown's Netflix Special, A Call To Courage
How to find a therapist
Kathrine Reynolds Lewis + The Good News About Bad Behavior
Ross Greene + Collaborative & Proactive Solutions
Positive Discipline
Hand in Hand Parenting
Daniel Siegel
The Gottman Institute
Non-violent Communication
Upbringing Podcast - The Power of Tone Episode

Today’s episode is supported by Artifact Uprising, a sister-owned company helping us honor the meaningful moments in our lives through printed photo gifts, books, and more. Their beautiful, minimalist products are made from recycled papers, reclaimed materials -- all in the USA. Support Upbringing by visiting www.artifactuprising.com.

Visit our website, www.upbringing.co to learn more about us and sign up for our newsletter! We want to hear your thoughts. We care deeply about what you think and how you’re doin’, so get in touch -- we’re better together.

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Today we connect with Elizabeth Antonia, creative director, designer and author of Early Riser Companion, a family resource filled with songs, rhymes, recipes and ideas for rituals and rhythms to layer into our homes. We loved connecting with Elizabeth about balancing routines with spontaneity, how we can create anchor points of peace throughout our day, the ways mindful transitions can reduce stress and how we can all listen more for magic in the mundane moments. Join us!

Relevant links: 

Early Riser Companion website
Early Riser Companion instagram
The Littlest Blog
The Littlest instagram

Tyler Mongan - The Mind Lab Institute
The Kingdom of Childhood by Rudolph Steiner
Common Sense Media
RIE Parenting
The Whole Earth Catalog
Living on This Earth by Alicia Bay Laurel
Simplicity Parenting Book by Kim John Payne
Doshas
Upbringing’s RESIST Approach
Upbringing’s Empowerments

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