Us and Kids: Parenting and marriage coaching with therapist, Jan Talen

Courage...have you used yours all up??

This podcast will answer those great questions! Everyday life with littles and a spouse is challenging - so listen in so that you can live “in courage” together!

On today’s show, we're going to talk about Easter. But, we're also going to fit that into our desires, and the skills that we need to achieve our desires. This is not a highly spiritual, Christian podcast in terms of that we're not going to talk all about the Jesus part of it. We're going to talk about the good human health part of it. We can make it so that it also works with everyday life, and how does it fit into your spiritual life.

We are going to break down the word Easter. And, we're going to say, "Well, what are some ways that we can live really well, as we continue into 2021?" So we're gonna use the acronym process, and include in it not just what within the E word, but also what necessary skill would I use if this was one of my New Year's resolutions.

On today’s show, we are going to talk about trauma. Not many of us like to think about it, but probably all of us have it. And trauma impacts families, it impacts marriages and impacts us as individuals. And yet I feel like it’s not very often talked about even though it often impacts how a family and a couple reacts and interacts with things.

Today we are going to talk mostly from the general perspective about trauma with a little bit of application more towards the end. You will hear some of the DNA process.

So today’s show, we are going to talk a little bit more about the DNA process. We’ve been talking a lot about marriages lately and when I wanted to do was say, okay, let’s pay attention to those kiddos. So we’re just going to talk a little bit about one of your hopes and dreams.

If you’re listening to Us and Kids, you probably had a desire to have a family, and that’s part of what that D is in the DNA. What are your dreams? What are your desires and help understand what they are so you can make plans on helping them come true. One of those dreams or desires could well be to have a family and you have a new baby arriving.

Today I'm glad you joined us becausewe are tying together the last threepodcasts aboutupgrading your marriage so that it will last forever, while you also become more awesome parents taking care of your kids together.

We've talked about the D: Defining your desires and values.  Then we moved onto two other podcasts that talked about the N: Necessary core comunication skills that we need for living out those values in ways that hold relationships together.  

And today we're going to take those values, add a Necessary core skill to them and then I'll give you and example of how to A: Apply it.  

So, the complete communciation pattern is:

D: Defining your desires and values

N:  Using the Necessary core skills to communicate those desires

A:  Applying those desires and necessary skills appropriately for any age and stage of your family members.  So fun and good!

Today we are talking about the last three of the eight core or necessary pieces that we know to make the DNA in our marriage and our family life really strong and healthy. You and I both know our marriages are very unique. And even how our marriage was five years ago and how it is now also can be very different and looks very different.

Its important that we know how to keep those values together. Not every marriage, or person in the marriage has the same values but learning how to value what our spouse values and vice versa really ties the relationship nicely together much like DNA is woven together.

Last week we looked at the values that we bring into our relationship and how those values build up the basic structure of our relationships with our kids or even with our spouses. So today we’re going to look a little bit more at the particulars that hold this structure together.

This structure is in the particulars were going to talk about are important for your marriage and for any age kiddo that is sitting next to you. So this applies all the way around has lots and lots of applications so it’s really worth hanging in here and listening in. I’m sure you can find something that you can say “This is my next step”

In today’s show, we are focusing on building up the skills we need for helping our marriages and our families regardless of the messiness of life. Today we are going to talk about DNA and we are looking at DNA within your relationships, your marriage, and your family because that too is always going to be unique just to you and so we can’t make a course or a program that is going to be one size fits all.

This week we are diving into the D strand specifically and while the D strand could stand for a lot of different things, we are going to be talking about defining your desire.

On today’s show, we are diving into shame and responsibility and it’s going to apply both to you as a husband or wife, and how you interact with your kiddos. We’re going to start by talking about yourself because so much of our parenting and interactions in our marriage can come from a place of shame and that can be somewhat contagious.

The podcast today will help you understand where shame sneaks into your heart and mind...and how it sneaks into kiddos’ being as well. And then, we’ll help you gain a pathway out of shame and into responsibility, and courageous, yet calm connections.

On today’s show, we are wrapping up the last part of a 5 part series we started in January about how to stay married forever while you parent together - not one or the other. Today we are talking about KISSes. Of course, there has to be kisses! Eskimo and butterfly kisses, as well as I love you - oooh! kisses.

But when there is stress and headaches, so much and too much! Who even remembers to kiss? And, does it really matter if we kiss? Really? Well, if you can take care of this kind of KISS, then the other kisses are so much better and sweeter!