Us and Kids: Parenting and marriage coaching with therapist, Jan Talen

On today’s show, we are talking about feelings - a pretty normal part of our life. At some points over our life and even 2020, we have ones we don’t really know what to do with. Where do those big feelings come from? Some of us have them a lot and often, and some of us have them rarely so when they show up we’re thinking “Where did this come from?”

This week we are talking about our emotions and next week we will talk about our kiddos. When we understand some of the triggers that might put us into tension and emotional states, we can be more intentional about working through those emotions and feelings.

On today’s show, we are talking about feelings - a pretty normal part of our life. At some points over our life and even 2020, we have ones we don’t really know what to do with. Where do those big feelings come from? Some of us have them a lot and often, and some of us have them rarely so when they show up we’re thinking “Where did this come from?”

This week we are talking about our emotions and next week we will talk about our kiddos. When we understand some of the triggers that might put us into tension and emotional states, we can be more intentional about working through those emotions and feelings.

On today’s show, we are talking about feelings - a pretty normal part of our life. At some points over our life and even 2020, we have ones we don’t really know what to do with. Where do those big feelings come from? Some of us have them a lot and often, and some of us have them rarely so when they show up we’re thinking “Where did this come from?”

This week we are talking about our emotions and next week we will talk about our kiddos. When we understand some of the triggers that might put us into tension and emotional states, we can be more intentional about working through those emotions and feelings.

What You’ll Learn in Today’s Episode

On today’s show, we are talking all about boundaries. It’s hard to believe that half of 2020 is done! Do you just feel overrun? The kids do what they want, don’t want to do what you want them to do...and cooperation is at someone else’s house...certainly not yours! So, what to do?

Do you just give up - Oh my and oh well….maybe we’ll reset next year? I am not sure it’s worth the argument and fight and tension. The easy way out is their way, even if it’s not a good way. What good are boundaries and rules, if no one obeys them? What good are they if you can not keep them steady and live within them?

On today’s show, our topic is about fathers. I know Father's Day just passed last week and so we just wanted to let you keep thinking about it. There can be a lot of pressure around dads. And sometimes it's important to understand “What's my role in this?”. So I wonder what do you think, is being a dad great? Is having your husband next to you, as the dad, wonderful? Or are you both as husband and wife a little confused by what's the role of a dad?

Some people think it’s easier than being a mom. Well, that probably depends. Some people think that being a dad is really just about the money, home repair and maybe some play-sport time. Our research about the impact that Dads have on our kiddo’s development is growing and showing us that dads role and impact starts even before birth!

On today’s show, we're talking about a hole in our bucket. I'm curious, do you know this song? It's about two characters - Henry and Eliza. Henry has a leaky bucket and Eliza just wants him to fix it. The song describes a deadlock situation where the things you need are dependent on the things you currently don’t have.

My question for you is, are there decisions made in your house that sounds like this song. Is there one parent who always needs something done or fixed and just wants it finished now? Does the other parent always seem to have a roadblock and find reasons it won’t work?

On today’s show, we’re going to talk about donuts. What does National Doughnut Day have to do with being married forever while you parent together? National donut day is on June 5th or the first Friday of June every year. Interestingly enough it comes out of the Salvation Army sending donuts throughout the camp during WWI, and the troops would enjoy a taste of home that brought encouragement and emotional support and joy.

Now you’re probably wondering, what does this have to do with our joy of eating donuts in our everyday life? We’re going to look at the connections of our everyday life as spouses and parents and how they might feel like their own battlefield.

Is it possible to keep sweet love alive for a lifetime?

Is it possible to move from sweet to sour and back again?

Or to make a really stale and stagnant relationship significant and supportive again?

So many questions - with lots of answers via a story that made its way from sweet to sour and stale and back to sweet again!

On today’s show we are talking about the D seed of divorce.   When does this snarly seed get planted - and how can we weed it out before it overtakes our thoughts, reactions and relationships.  The Divorce seed does not need to stay.  Take a few minutes to learn how to pull it out and keep your marriage steady, strong and safe.

Is it possible to keep sweet love alive for a lifetime?

Is it possible to move from sweet to sour and back again?

Or to make a really stale and stagnant relationship significant and supportive again?

So many questions - with lots of answers via a story that made it’s way from sweet to sour and stale and back to sweet again.

On today’s show we are talking about the D seed of divorce.   When does this snarly seed get planted - and how can we weed it out before it overtakes our thoughts, reactions and relationships.  The Divorce seed does not need to stay.  Take a few minutes to learn how to pull it out and keep your marriage steady, strong and deliciously sweet! 

On today’s show, the topic we're talking about today isn't necessarily a really happy one. But it's a rather common one. And the topic is about grief or loss for a child and how they experience it, but also how we can help them develop skills to get through it. We usually think we know what grief means to us or other adults we know, but it might look a lot different to the kids in our life.

To children, the loss or grief happens because someone or something precious is gone out of their life, either permanently or temporarily. We can also have grief at the loss of an ability to do something that we want or like to do.  These things build into your kiddo's identity.  We are going to dive into the ways we can identify these emotions and ways to express them in healthy ways.