This weekly podcast comes to you from Veritas Psychology Partners, Dr. Dan Kessler and Dr. Gayle MacBride. Your host selects a conversation from the internet forums that neither psychology has heard or read before, and they give their unrehearsed, unvarnished opinions--essentially answering the question, "just who is the a**hole here?" The host brings in feedback from internet commentors to round out the discussion, and we close out each episode with a bonus conversation about any number of things! Stay tuned through the end to find out!

Today Gayle and Dan mentioned a couple of things during the podcast:

--The Art of Gathering: How We Meet and Why It Matters, by Priya Parker: https://amzn.to/3Gv22pF

--“Ask Culture” vs “Guess Culture”: https://medium.com/redhill-review/navigating-ask-and-guess-cultures-in-a-modern-world-30b167f8ab09

--The “M’Naghten case”: https://www.psychiatrictimes.com/view/daniel-m-naghten-the-man-who-changed-the-law-on-insanity

In this episode, the question is: "Am I the a**hole for not bringing anything to my friend's potluck, after she told me not to?"

And if you'd like to schedule an appointment with either of our psychologists, visit: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://www.veritaspp.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠

Otherwise, our team can be found at:

Dr. Dan Kessler at: ⁠⁠⁠@drdankessler

⁠⁠⁠Dr. Gayle MacBride at: ⁠⁠⁠@drgmacbride

⁠⁠⁠Kelley Buttrick at: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://kbvoiceovers.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Michael MacBride at: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://www.michaelmacbride.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Thanks for listening and/or watching!

This weekly podcast comes to you from Veritas Psychology Partners, Dr. Dan Kessler and Dr. Gayle MacBride. Your host selects a conversation from the internet forums that neither psychology has heard or read before, and they give their unrehearsed, unvarnished opinions--essentially answering the question, "just who is the a**hole here?" The host brings in feedback from internet commentors to round out the discussion, and we close out each episode with a bonus conversation about any number of things! Stay tuned through the end to find out!

Today Gayle and Dan mentioned a couple of things during the podcast:

--Dr. Gayle MacBride mentions the " Region-Beta Paradox", here's perhaps the first article that discusses it: https://web.archive.org/web/20160304110109/http://www.scn.ucla.edu/pdf/PeculiarLongevity.pdf⁠

--Dr. Gayle MacBride also mentions something she thought was on NPR, but it turned out to be Inner Cosmos with David Eagelman's podcast, Ep 92: Why is it hard to keep a secret? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C8EEdMNjjnU

In this episode, the question is: "Am I the a**hole for pranking my struggling friend with a fake lottery ticket?"

And if you'd like to schedule an appointment with either of our psychologists, visit: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://www.veritaspp.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠

Otherwise, our team can be found at:

Dr. Dan Kessler at: ⁠⁠⁠@drdankessler

⁠⁠⁠Dr. Gayle MacBride at: ⁠⁠⁠@drgmacbride

⁠⁠⁠Kelley Buttrick at: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://kbvoiceovers.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Michael MacBride at: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://www.michaelmacbride.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Thanks for listening and/or watching!

This weekly podcast comes to you from Veritas Psychology Partners, Dr. Dan Kessler and Dr. Gayle MacBride. Your host selects a conversation from the internet forums that neither psychology has heard or read before, and they give their unrehearsed, unvarnished opinions--essentially answering the question, "just who is the a**hole here?" The host brings in feedback from internet commentors to round out the discussion, and we close out each episode with a bonus conversation about any number of things! Stay tuned through the end to find out!

Today Gayle and Dan mentioned a couple of things during the podcast:

--4 horsemen handout: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1vS6gx83cNN6ONNjbmhrDaur0i0fPKkqW/view?usp=sharing

--Dr. Gayle MacBride’s TikTok about "not buts": https://www.tiktok.com/@drgmacbride/video/7308425976701046059

--and Michael mentions "FANBOYS": https://www.shsu.edu/centers/academic-success-center/writing/handouts/loc/punctuation/Commas.pdf

--Dr. Gayle MacBride mentions the "Region-Beta Paradox", here's perhaps the first article that discusses it: ⁠https://web.archive.org/web/20160304110109/http://www.scn.ucla.edu/pdf/PeculiarLongevity.pdf⁠⁠

In this episode, the question is: "Am I the a**hole for telling my girlfriend that I wouldn't make her coffee anymore unless she stops micromanaging me?"

And, if you had an experience with the "Region-Beta Paradox", or have another thought to share or question for us, reach out via our mailbag: https://www.veritasviews.com/contact

And if you'd like to schedule an appointment with either of our psychologists, visit: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://www.veritaspp.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠

Otherwise, our team can be found at:

Dr. Dan Kessler at: ⁠⁠⁠@drdankessler

⁠⁠⁠Dr. Gayle MacBride at: ⁠⁠⁠@drgmacbride

⁠⁠⁠Kelley Buttrick at: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://kbvoiceovers.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Michael MacBride at: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://www.michaelmacbride.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Thanks for listening and/or watching!

This weekly podcast comes to you from Veritas Psychology Partners, Dr. Dan Kessler and Dr. Gayle MacBride. Your host selects a conversation from the internet forums that neither psychology has heard or read before, and they give their unrehearsed, unvarnished opinions--essentially answering the question, "just who is the a**hole here?" The host brings in feedback from internet commentors to round out the discussion, and we close out each episode with a bonus conversation about any number of things! Stay tuned through the end to find out!

Today Gayle and Dan mentioned a couple of things during the podcast:

--Andy Kaufman: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KTQzHvkpV_0

--How many potatoes and where did they come from: https://potatogoodness.com/potato-fun-facts-history/

--Mens rea: https://www.law.cornell.edu/wex/mens_rea

--Dr. Daniel Kessler’s TikTok on Narcissism: https://www.tiktok.com/@drdankessler/video/7476587158728396078

--Dr. Gayle MacBride’s article with Parents Magazine: https://www.parents.com/narctok-and-why-teens-are-on-it-11687479

In this episode, the question is: "Am I the a**hole for pretending I didn't know what a potato was at my girlfriend's family dinner?"

And if you'd like to schedule an appointment with either of our psychologists, visit: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://www.veritaspp.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠

Otherwise, our team can be found at:

Dr. Dan Kessler at: ⁠⁠⁠@drdankessler

⁠⁠⁠Dr. Gayle MacBride at: ⁠⁠⁠@drgmacbride

⁠⁠⁠Kelley Buttrick at: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://kbvoiceovers.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Michael MacBride at: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://www.michaelmacbride.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Thanks for listening and/or watching!

This weekly podcast comes to you from Veritas Psychology Partners, Dr. Dan Kessler and Dr. Gayle MacBride. Your host selects a conversation from the internet forums that neither psychology has heard or read before, and they give their unrehearsed, unvarnished opinions--essentially answering the question, "just who is the asshole here?" The host brings in feedback from internet commentors to round out the discussion, and we close out each episode with a bonus conversation about what ever happens to be on their mind. Sometimes something from their mailbag.

Today, they are joined by Dr. David Nathan. David Nathan is a Licensed Psychologist who lives and works in St. Paul, MN. He is the father of twin 12-year-old daughters. He is primarily a child and adolescent psychologist. He works with clients on issues including ADHD, Autism, Anger Management, Anxiety, Depression, PTSD, and adoption. He is the east region lead for outpatient mental health at Allina Health, a large healthcare organization based in Minneapolis, MN. He also has a side private practice where he provides ADHD and ASD testing in St. Paul, MN. In the rare moments when he is not being a parent or a psychologist, Dr. Nathan likes to travel, attend live music performances, read, spend time with his friends and family, and play piano. He can be found online at David Nathan PsyD: https://www.davidnathanpsyd.com/

They also mentioned the following in this episode:

--PDR—which stands for Physicians Desk Reference: https://www.pdr.net/

--How To ADHD Jessica McCabe: https://amzn.to/4isPzR4

In this episode, the question is: "Am I the a**hole for telling my girlfriend to go back on her ADHD medication?"

And if you'd like to schedule an appointment with either of our psychologists, visit: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://www.veritaspp.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠

Otherwise, our team can be found at:

Dr. Dan Kessler at: ⁠⁠⁠@drdankessler

⁠⁠⁠Dr. Gayle MacBride at: ⁠⁠⁠@drgmacbride

⁠⁠⁠Kelley Buttrick at: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://kbvoiceovers.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Michael MacBride at: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://www.michaelmacbride.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Thanks for listening and/or watching!

This weekly podcast comes to you from Veritas Psychology Partners, Dr. Dan Kessler and Dr. Gayle MacBride. Your host selects a conversation from the internet forums that neither psychology has heard or read before, and they give their unrehearsed, unvarnished opinions--essentially answering the question, "just who is the asshole here?" The host brings in feedback from internet commentors to round out the discussion, and we close out each episode with a bonus conversation about what ever happens to be on their mind. Sometimes something from their mailbag.

In this episode, the question is: "Am I the a**hole for vandalizing my neighbor's dog's winter coat?"In this episode, Dr. Gayle MacBride and Dr. Daniel Kessler both mentioned the impact of The Bay of Pigs on JFK, and how he changed his thought-making process after. Here is a great article about it, and several books that also discuss that topic:

Morten T. Hansen's "How John F. Kennedy Changed Decision Making for Us All" (2013) in the Harvard Business Review: https://hbr.org/2013/11/how-john-f-kennedy-changed-decision-making

Morten Hansen's Collaboration: How Leaders Avoid the Traps, Build Common Ground, and Reap Big Results (2009): https://amzn.to/4hQe3no

Robert F. Kennedy's Thirteen Days: A Memoir of the Cuban Missile Crisis (1999): https://amzn.to/4idPWPBA great book about Abraham Lincoln's cabinet and how he intentionally built it with people who disagreed with him:Doris Kearns Goodwin's Team of Rivals: The Political Genius of Abraham Lincoln (2006): https://amzn.to/4baQ9kdAbout the way the vice presidency used to be awarded and what its roles/responsibility were:

Lindsay M. Chervinsky's Making the Presidency: John Adams and the Precedents That Forged the Republic (2024): https://amzn.to/41apMGy

Jody C Baumgartner and Thomas F. Crumblin's The American Vice Presidency: From the Shadow to the Spotlight (2015): https://amzn.to/4hMVaC7

Jules Witcover's The American Vice Presidency: From Irrelevance to Power (2014): https://amzn.to/41q68rk

James Roger Sharp's The Deadlocked Election of 1800: Jefferson, Burr, and the Union in the Balance (2010): https://amzn.to/3EMQYUi

John Ferling's Adams vs. Jefferson: The Tumultuous Election of 1800 (2005): https://amzn.to/4k4JR9X

And, our bonus conversation references our "blueberries" episode, (Season 2, Episode 4). Here are links to those if you want to listen:

Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/episode/5pl6kdg28aKxHIatfphh76?si=e6bf5178a4374187

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aSFe1fq0nu8

And if you'd like to schedule an appointment with either of our psychologists, visit: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://www.veritaspp.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠

Otherwise, our team can be found at:Dr. Dan Kessler at: ⁠⁠⁠@drdankessler⁠⁠⁠Dr. Gayle MacBride at: ⁠⁠⁠@drgmacbride⁠⁠⁠Kelley Buttrick at: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://kbvoiceovers.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Michael MacBride at: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://www.michaelmacbride.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Thanks for listening and/or watching!

This weekly podcast comes to you from Veritas Psychology Partners, Dr. Dan Kessler and Dr. Gayle MacBride. Your host selects a conversation from the internet forums that neither psychology has heard or read before, and they give their unrehearsed, unvarnished opinions--essentially answering the question, "just who is the asshole here?" The host brings in feedback from internet commentors to round out the discussion, and we close out each episode with a bonus conversation about what ever happens to be on their mind. Sometimes something from their mailbag.

In this episode, the question is: "Am I the a**hole for asking my wife to take down a social media post about our child's heart surgery?"

The bonus conversation in this episode references the Super Bowl episode (Season 1, Episode 25). Here are links to that episode:Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/episode/5sT2AKxvxtxMMsaGz7SJIN?si=fd333da1f750453aYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Rc4bhLKOJVsAlso, Dan and Gayle mention two other episodes in this one. So here are links to those:Gluten-free donut (Season 1, Episode 26):Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/episode/6njS70wM15VHpdQPX7YvKd?si=56390ea391da4c42YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C82avy_2GhkVegan daughter (Season 1, Episode 15)Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/episode/6sTAPVHg0pCY2G5xPQDxyr?si=3face80569d14cc9YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3NeWWfDIM3Q

And if you'd like to schedule an appointment with either of our psychologists, visit: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://www.veritaspp.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠

Otherwise, our team can be found at:Dr. Dan Kessler at: ⁠⁠⁠@drdankessler⁠⁠⁠Dr. Gayle MacBride at: ⁠⁠⁠@drgmacbride⁠⁠⁠Kelley Buttrick at: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://kbvoiceovers.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Michael MacBride at: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://www.michaelmacbride.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Thanks for listening and/or watching!

This weekly podcast comes to you from Veritas Psychology Partners, Dr. Dan Kessler and Dr. Gayle MacBride. Your host selects a conversation from the internet forums that neither psychology has heard or read before, and they give their unrehearsed, unvarnished opinions--essentially answering the question, "just who is the asshole here?" The host brings in feedback from internet commentors to round out the discussion, and we close out each episode with a bonus conversation about what ever happens to be on their mind. Sometimes something from their mailbag.

In this episode, the question is: "Am I the a**hole for letting other people take my kids and me to Disney, even though I knew my husband was not okay with it?"

And if you'd like to schedule an appointment with either of our psychologists, visit: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://www.veritaspp.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠

Otherwise, our team can be found at:

This weekly podcast comes to you from Veritas Psychology Partners, Dr. Dan Kessler and Dr. Gayle MacBride. Your host selects a conversation from the internet forums that neither psychology has heard or read before, and they give their unrehearsed, unvarnished opinions--essentially answering the question, "just who is the asshole here?" The host brings in feedback from internet commentors to round out the discussion, and we close out each episode with a bonus conversation about what ever happens to be on their mind. Sometimes something from their mailbag.

Today, they are joined by Dr. Jennifer Service, who is board certified in psychiatry and neurology and has a subspecialty board certification in forensic psychiatry. She has more than twenty-five years of experience caring for adult psychiatric patients and completing civil and criminal forensic psychiatric assessments. Dr. Service graduated from the University of Minnesota's Medical School and completed an internal medicine internship at Salem Hospital in Salem, Massachusetts. She completed a psychiatry residency at the Massachusetts General Hospital and a Forensic Psychiatry Fellowship at the Harvard Law and Psychiatry Service. For the past thirteen years, Dr. Service has been providing outpatient psychiatric care in person and via telehealth for a large nonprofit health system. She has provided consultation to various law firms in the Twin Cities, completed civil and criminal forensic psychiatric assessments, and has testified in both civil and criminal matters. You can find her online, at https://www.mnforensic.com/ and https://www.mankatoclinic.com/providers/jennifer-service/

The question today is: "Am I the a**hole for refusing to wake my boyfriend up in the morning?"

Otherwise, our team can be found at:

This weekly podcast comes to you from Veritas Psychology Partners, Dr. Dan Kessler and Dr. Gayle MacBride. Your host selects a conversation from the internet forums that neither psychology has heard or read before, and they give their unrehearsed, unvarnished opinions--essentially answering the question, "just who is the asshole here?" The host brings in feedback from internet commentors to round out the discussion, and we close out each episode with a bonus conversation about what ever happens to be on their mind. Sometimes something from their mailbag.

In this episode, the question is: "Am I the a**hole because my girlfriend doesn't like my knitting?"

In this episode, we also reference Season 1, Episode 36, in which we cover gift-giving as well. In that episode, the question is posted by the gift-receiver. In this one, the poster is the gift-giver. Enjoy them both and see which side you come down on.

Also, Dr. Gayle MacBride mentions Brene Brown’s book Rising Strong (2015), in which she talks about “stealth expectations.”

And if you'd like to schedule an appointment with either of our psychologists, visit: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://www.veritaspp.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠

Otherwise, our team can be found at: