In this powerful episode, hosts Gary and Jana Moritz open up about the often-overlooked emotional challenges of church revitalization. Drawing from their decade-long experience at City United Church, they explore the personal cost of ministry leadership—from anxiety and isolation to spiritual warfare and leadership loneliness. The episode provides honest insights and practical strategies for maintaining emotional health while navigating the demanding journey of church transformation.
Episode Notes
Introduction
Gary and Jana Moritz introduce the topic of emotional toll in church revitalizationAlarming statistics: Over 50% of pastors struggle with depressionMany pastors would leave ministry if they had alternative incomeChurch revitalization is spiritually, physically, and emotionally demandingImpact extends beyond pastors to spouses and familiesPersonal Challenges
Constant scrutiny and "living in a fishbowl"Gary experienced anxiety in year two after implementing governance changesJana faced social isolation when relationships changed during transitionCarrying others' emotional reactions to change (grief, fear, identity loss)Leadership loneliness from bearing confidential burdensSpiritual warfare - multiple simultaneous challengesSupport Systems
Ministry coaching relationship - monthly video calls with experienced mentorsMentors normalized experiences and identified warning signsSupport group of other ministry couples provided understandingProfessional counseling helped process emotional patternsEstablishing healthy emotional boundariesQuestion: "Who has permission to determine your worth and success?"Practical Wellness Strategies
Regular personal and couple retreats for renewalPhysical activity as emotional release (Gary's weekly workouts)Creative outlets unrelated to ministry (Jana's reading and shows)Celebrating small wins to maintain perspectiveFriendships outside church to ground identity"Emotion mapping" - regular check-ins using 1-10 scaleAdjusting expectations when one partner is emotionally depletedClosing Thoughts:
Emotional health is as important as strategy and theologySuccessful revitalization requires emotionally healthy leadershipEncouragement to find coaching, support groups, and counselingFree assessment offered to listeners feeling stuck"Guard your emotional health as carefully as your theology"
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