Voice Is

Julie and Casey sit down with ADHD coach Frankie Berkoben to talks about her journey from PHD drop out to ADHD coach. We talk about the flawed criteria for a diagnosis, shame, and options for creating your own team (and how to be on it yourself).

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TOP TAKEAWAYS

• Women with ADHD are often misdiagnosed with anxiety, depression or borderline personality disorder. ADHD is often missed because it presents so differently in girls than in boys.
• Many ADHD people have long running shame stories about their inability to measure up to expectations: they tend to believe they are hopelessly broken, and a correct diagnoses as a result can be both freeing and grief inducing for all the lost time
• "Potential" can be a dirty word for ADHD folks; it's about what you COULD be but never ARE.
• ADHD brains aren't broken, they just need different things to function at their best. They have enormous memory, but relatively small processing capacity. That means they can connect dots like nobodys business, but can get overstimulated seeing EVERYTHING AT ONCE. Things like task switching and unacknowledged over stimulation can have a negative impact.
• Mini-Lesson: What ADHD has to do with your voice

ADHD Resources:

ADHD 2.0 by Dr. Edward Hallowell (a classic, well written, well researched intro to an ADHD brain)

Jessica McCabe's How to ADHD Youtube

Our favorite podcast, 'Ologies does ADHD

Frankie Mansfield Berkoben

Julie and Casey head out to Oakland to sit down with Maya Borgueta, founder of Stella Nova Psychology — they dive into emotional labor, how diversity movements in the workplace might be set up to fail, imposter syndrome, self-care, Chopin, and why beating yourself up is NOT, in fact, the secret to productivity.

Thank you to our Season 3 sponsor, Armoire! If you're ready to try a new look, Armoire's high-end clothing rental service (full of amazing women-owned brands) will hook you up! For 50% off your first month's rental + a free item, go to http://armoire.style/voiceis and use VOICEIS in the referral box!

TOP TAKEAWAYS:

• Define your core values — both general and for communication — to give your life a north star. They should be a little aspirational, and you won't nail it 100% of the time.

• Imposter syndrome is pervasive, and connected to some really unhelpful ideas about what "confidence" looks like. You don't have to feel like a Boss Bitch 100% of the time — and if you do, maybe you aren't being very self-reflective.

• Research says that people who are self-compassionate get more done and are more able to problem-solve than people who are self-critical . . . which might seem obvious, but is really hard in practice, especially for high achievers.

Maya Borgueta, PsyD, is a licensed clinical psychologist, a passionate lifelong feminist, and the founder of Stella Nova Psychology, Inc., a therapy clinic for women and non-binary professionals in downtown San Francisco. Her professional mission is to help women to live their most powerful and fulfilled lives at work and at home. Her personal mission is to pet as many cats as humanly possible. You can find Maya's work online at stellanovapsych.com, or by following Stella Nova on Facebook or Instagram @stellanovapsych.

Julie and Casey sit down with Ann Shoket, founder of New Power Media and owner of The Li.st, to talk about her journey from editor of Seventeen to author to community builder, why millennial women revolutionized the workplace and the world, redefining polish, and building communities that help women of all ages achieve and succeed.

Thank you to our Season 3 sponsor, Armoire! If you're ready to try a new look, Armoire's high-end clothing rental service (full of amazing women-owned brands) will hook you up! For 50% off your first month's rental + a free item, go to http://armoire.style/voiceis and use VOICEIS in the referral box!

TOP TAKEAWAYS:

• As the Editor of Seventeen Magazine in the early 2000's, Ann witnessed a sea change in what young women wanted to talk about — suddenly instead of advice about summer dating, they wanted advice about summer internships. It's no surprise, really. Teen girls are natural innovators, and millennial women changed everything about how we work. (Watch Ann's TED talk here.) https://www.ted.com/talks/ann_shoket_why_we_should_all_be_more_millennial
• New power can't just LOOK different (as in seeing more non-white, non-male people having it) . . . it must BE different. New power is diverse, transparent, inclusive, accountable, and collaborative.
• We all have a part to play in changing the "women just don't support other women" narrative. Challenging our own beliefs about scarcity of opportunity and seeing other women as opportunities to learn and grow instead of a threat is a start. And, you have to show up for other people if you want them to show up for you.
• Mini-lesson: Taking your time space is a power move.

Ann Shoket is a trailblazing senior media executive who has been a key architect in shaping the national conversation about ambition and success for women.

She has brought two major young women's media brands to number one across every category. And most recently, her media and events company, New Power Media, acquired TheLi.st, a pioneering digital community for high-impact women in media, technology and business.

Shoket is the author of the widely-acclaimed book, The Big Life, which was hailed by The New York Times as "a guide for women in their 20s and 30s who are hungry for a job they love, a supportive network of friends, respect from their posses and partners who want all those things for them as badly as they do."

Shoket has been a consultant and a regular contributor for Good Morning America. She speaks for conferences and corporations including TEDx, SXSW, The Pennsylvania Women's Conference, Facebook, Microsoft, Avon and more.

Forbes has named Shoket one of the "10 Most Powerful US Fashion Magazine Editors." Folio: named her one of the "Top Women in Media". www.annshoket.com

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Julie and Casey sit down with disability advocate Emily Ladau to talk her new book, being a full human and not just a disability, and how we can be better supporters and allies. Along the way, they discuss high school theater nerdery and embracing your inner peacock.

TOP TAKEAWAYS

• As we talk about disability, it's important to acknowledge the WHOLE human, not just the parts that convenient for your narrative.
• There is a difference between being noticed and being seen — being noticed is about them, being seen is about you.
• Before deciding to help, figure out if your help is wanted or needed from the actual individual you wish to help. Making assumptions about what someone needs (even if well intended) dehumanizes more than it helps. Let people tell you what kind of ally they need, instead of assuming your help is needed and welcome.
• Mini-Lesson: Peacocking — taking the reins of your own visibility.

Episode Transcript here.

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Emily Ladau is a passionate disability rights activist, writer, storyteller, and digital communications consultant. She is the author of Demystifying Disability: What to Know, What to Say, and How to be an Ally, published by Ten Speed Press, an imprint of Penguin Random House.

Links for Emily:

Demystifying Disability: What to Know, What to Say, and How to be an Ally Website | Facebook | Twitter | LinkedIn | Instagram

Julie and Casey sit down with speaker, author, and creativity expert Natalie Nixon, founder of Figure 8 Thinking, to discuss how everyone can find more creativity, how the workplace should be redefining productivity, and lessons from a life lived all over the world. Along the way, we learn about intuition, the gifts of being "in the margins", and why leaders should consider learning the tango.

Thank you to our Season 3 sponsor, Armoire! If you're ready to try a new look, Armoire's high-end clothing rental service (full of amazing women-owned brands) will hook you up! For 50% off your first month's rental + a free item, go to http://armoire.style/voiceis and use VOICEIS in the referral box!

TOP TAKEAWAYS:

• Noticing what she heard over and over again from the leaders and business folks she was talking to ("it's like jazz" and "something told me to…" being two examples) and following her own curiosity led Natalie down her primary research paths: chaordic systems, intuitive leadership, and creativity.
• Natalie explains creativity as "wonder + rigor". Wonder is the necessary time/energy for reflection, play, experimentation, rest, etc., and rigor is the necessary time/energy for grit, practice, discipline, and gaining expertise.
• What if we had new metrics for productivity? Natalie coined the term "invisible work" to put a label on the ideation, ruminating, reframing of problems, reflection, etc that goes into the VISIBLE results in the business world. This stuff is absolutely necessary but difficult to quantify — the old metrics of "widgets created/time on task" don't work in our new era of work.
• Mini Lesson: The challenges—and gifts—of being a "clumsy student"

Natalie Nixon, PhD is a creativity strategist, global keynote speaker and author. As president of Figure 8 Thinking, LLC she advises leaders on transformation—by applying wonder and rigor to amplify growth and business value.

Natalie is one of Real Leaders' "Top 50 Keynote Speakers in the World for 2022" She is the author of the award-winning The Creativity Leap: Unleash Curiosity, Improvisation and Intuition at Work—an honoree in the creativity category of Fast Company's 2021 World Changing Ideas Awards. Her firm Figure 8 Thinking, was named among the top 20 women-led innovation firms by Core 77 in 2021.

Natalie received her BA (honors) from Vassar College, and her PhD from the University of Westminster in London.

Follow Natalie on social media: https://www.instagram.com/natwnixon/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/natalienixonphd/ https://twitter.com/natwnixon https://www.facebook.com/natwnixon

Find out more about Figure 8 Thinking - https://www.figure8thinking.com/

Julie and Casey sit down with designer and CEO Phnam Bagley to talk effective hard work, defying people's expectations and changing how we talk about possibility.

TOP TAKEAWAYS

• Don't worry if your journey hasn't been linear. Our adventures and experiences in life influence who we will become as leaders.
• Designing the future is both a rigourous discipine and expression of wild imagination. We must have both.
• Don't confuse the bells and whistles with the person. Talent may or may not look like you think it should.
• Mini-Lesson: Setting the pace for yourself

Thank you to our Season 3 sponsor, Armoire! If you're ready to try a new look, Armoire's high-end clothing rental service (full of amazing women-owned brands) will hook you up! For 50% off your first month's rental + a free item, go to http://armoire.style/voiceis and use VOICEIS in the referral box!

Phnam Bagley is a partner and creative director at Nonfiction, a San Francisco-based design firm that turns science fiction into reality for a better future. She is a French industrial designer, aerospace architect and futurist. Her designs span many industries, including Wearables, Audio-Visual, Neurotech/Biotech, Healthcare, Education, Transportation, Robotics, Luxury and Aerospace. She specializes in turning groundbreaking technologies into attainable, intuitive, and beautiful products that help humans become the best versions of themselves. She speaks internationally on the subject of "Design for a Better Future", covering stories of sustainability, social impact, and the future of humans as an interplanetary species. With her co-founder, she hosts Future Future, a video series that demystifies design and the future of everything. Links: Website: www.nonfiction.design Instagram: @nonfiction.design Twitter: @phnambagley LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/phnambagley/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/NonfictionDesign/videos

Julie and Casey sit down with Lynn Harris (founder of Gold Comedy, cohost of A Bintel Brief, and prolific writer) about how comedy can change the world. Along the way, they discuss why (and HOW) we should get rid of the term "women's comedy", and we discover our own personal connection to Lynn's creation, "Breakup Girl".

Thank you to our Season 3 sponsor, Armoire! If you're ready to try a new look, Armoire's high-end clothing rental service (full of amazing women-owned brands) will hook you up! For 50% off your first month's rental + a free item, go to http://armoire.style/voiceis and use VOICEIS in the referral box!

TOP TAKEAWAYS:

• Comedy is power: when you make people laugh you make people listen.
• One significant theory/framework for comedy is "disturbing a norm" . . . so doesn't it make sense for people OUTSIDE of "the mythic norm" to be naturals at doing this?
• "Comedy isn't rearranging the stars, it's just seeing your own pattern." When it comes to comedy as a coping mechanism, comedy doesn't change what happened (or is happening) to you, but it can allow us to see the stars in a new way — our OWN way. But it's not just the processing . . . the sharing is powerful too.
• Mini Lesson: In comedy, in speaking, and in life, you gotta put a stake in the ground. Here's how.

About Lynn Harris: I'm an award-winning journalist-comedian-creative strategist-multihyphenate driven by the power of comedy to change culture. I am founder and CEO of GOLD Comedy, the comedy academy, creative network, and content platform for women/non-binary folks who want to be their funniest selves. I'm also co-host, with Ginna Green, of A Bintel Brief: The Podcast, which brings the Forward's iconic advice column into the audio age. With supergenius Chris Kalb, I co-created (in 1997!) one of the earliest internet success stories: Breakup Girl, the only superhero who can both bend steel bars and mend broken hearts. I'm an award-winning journalist, author and novelist, communications executive, and comedy producer / performer / instructor. Plus a co-founder of the comedy/event series Persisticon, which raises money to elect women. I am also a former Tonya Harding lookalike, which is a long story.

Julie and Casey sit down with expert facilitators Xina Eiland and Emily Radowsky (cofounders of UNMUTE) to talk about what it really takes to change hearts and minds through difficult conversations about race.

TOP TAKEAWAYS:

• These conversations need guidance: a facilitator that can understand both the social and neurological aspects of the triggers that can be ignited.
• People need to be able to sit in their "stuff" before they can engage in meaningful conversation. Facilitation can help provide these moments to look inward, and also guide us as we come back.
• For white women who want to be an ally: Be prepared to confront your own discomfort, and offer understanding before asking for it.
• Mini-Lesson: Putting the meaning in the middle.

Thank you to our Season 3 sponsor, Armoire! If you're ready to try a new look, Armoire's high-end clothing rental service (full of amazing women-owned brands) will hook you up! For 50% off your first month's rental + a free item, go to http://armoire.style/voiceis and use VOICEIS in the referral box!

Xina Eiland, Co-Founder, UNMUTE

In addition to her leadership with UNMUTE, Xina is the President and CEO of X+PR and a visionary leader and recognized authority in multicultural communications and digital media. Xina brings a wealth of experience to clients, helping them effectively connect with diverse and hard to reach populations. Her dedication and tenacity, complemented by energy and drive, have earned her a well-deserved reputation as an innovator who gets the best results.

Xina is also the co-host of Get Found Get Funded, a podcast about creating visibility, paths for growth and opportunity for entrepreneurs.

Emily Rasowsky, Co-Founder, UNMUTE

Emily is a somatic release expert, entrepreneur, and marketing leader. She combines mindfulness and business expertise to help heart-centered leaders to build heart-led companies and teams. As an executive breathwork and somatic coach, she helps C-suite leaders and entrepreneurs leverage alternative therapies to manage triggers and develop emotional intelligence. With her background in marketing, she has worked with Fortune 50 brands, government organizations, nonprofits, and agencies to launch national campaigns and initiatives.

Julie and Casey sit down with Stephanie Nadi Olson, founder of We Are Rosie, to learn how her personal journey led her to create a company that's revolutionizing the way the marketing industry finds and utilizes talented people (and grew exponentially in just 4 years!). Along the way, we talk communication lessons from our families, how the marketing industry should be leading the way on innovation and social change, and the first question companies really need to ask their constituents to create an environment where people can truly belong.

Thank you to our Season 3 sponsor, Armoire! If you're ready to try a new look, Armoire's high-end clothing rental service (full of amazing women-owned brands) will hook you up! For 50% off your first month's rental + a free item, go to http://armoire.style/voiceis and use VOICEIS in the referral box!

TOP TAKEAWAYS:

• We're in the middle of enormous shifts in both how we work and the balance of power between employer and employed. They're long overdue! They're also going to take consistent work, because pushback from the powers that be is inevitable. "Strategic rebels" make the difference.
• There are far better ways to evaluate talent than old markers of "pedigree" — not only are they more inclusive (and more FUN!), but they have been wildly successful for the Rosies so far.
• What communication skills and strengths has your past given you? We hear beautiful stories about Stephanie's vibrant family and the turning point moment in her childhood that made her the communicator she is today.
• Mini-lesson: How to find your inner communication Strategic Rebel. (And check out our Communication Core Values workbook!)

Stephanie Nadi Olson is an advertising executive who founded We Are Rosie in 2018 based on a genuine understanding of what it feels like to "not belong." Her life experience as the daughter of a refugee has driven her affinity and advocacy for marginalized groups. We Are Rosie is a manifestation of her soul's calling to create a better way to do business by focusing on the people doing the work. Over the course of her career in advertising, Stephanie has worked closely with big brands and major tech companies and has developed a unique 360-degree view of industry practices and the need for transformation. Using this experience, she has created a human-centered approach to marketing that celebrates diversity and facilitates happiness, while ensuring that We Are Rosie maintains integrity and authenticity every step of the way. Last year, Stephanie was named one of the EY Entrepreneurial Winning Women™ and joined the Class of 2021. In addition, Stephanie was named AdAge Visionary of the Year 2020, was recognized by Adweek in the 2020 Creative 100, was named World Changing Woman 2020 by Conscious Company, and was awarded Entrepreneur of the Year 2019 by the Stevie Awards.

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Julie and Casey sit down with multipotentialite Bree Nachelle to talk all about social media, podcasting, curating your feed, taking care of yourself and even cosplay.

Thank you to our Season 3 sponsor, Armoire! If you're ready to try a new look, Armoire's high-end clothing rental service (full of amazing women-owned brands) will hook you up! For 50% off your first month's rental + a free item, go to http://armoire.style/voiceis and use VOICEIS in the referral box!

TOP TAKEAWAYS

• People want to be seen, heard, and most importantly belong. Finding the right communities to join can give you a place for all of that.
• Your Feed is Your Fault: You can and should unfollow, block and delete liberally. Curate your content to delight your spirit.
• When it comes to podcasting, Just Do It! There are resources available to help you out, but it doesnt have to be perfect to get it out there.

Lesson: Self Talk and the Self Critic

Brée Nachelle is a DC-based, creative strategist passionate about podcasting and helping others understand the joy of social audio. She is the host of the Fabulous Fuckery podcast and assists entrepreneurs in using their message to expand their community through guesting on podcasts. As a speaker, Brée has shared her podcasting and social media knowledge with the attendees of Podthon, ShePodcasts, Podcast Movement, Blerdcon, AfroPunk, and more. Find Brée 3-D printing cosplay goodies, ranting on Twitter, or wrapped up in a fuzzy blanket reading a movie script. https://instagram.com/baronessbree https://twitter.com/baronessbree http://www.baronessbree.com/