Do you chase? Do you pull away? Or do you shut down when things get too close? or do you do both?

In this episode, we dive into the psychology of attachment styles and how it’s shown up in our own lives. From anxious spirals to avoidant shutdowns and queue the confused version of both, we reflect on the patterns we’ve carried—and how we’re learning to feel safe within ourselves.

It’s not about fixing yourself—it’s about finally understanding yourself.

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Ever felt the need to explain yourself just to feel understood? Or waited for someone to tell you you’re enough before believing it? Yeah — same. In this episode, we talk about the less obvious ways we seek VALIDATION: needing to be agreed with, wanting to be “chosen,” and measuring our worth by how others respond. We get into where that comes from, how it holds us back, and what it looks like to stop waiting for permission to feel secure. From romantic attention to emotional approval, we explore what it actually looks like to stop performing and start self-validating, even when it feels uncomfortable. Because growth doesn’t come from being seen. It comes from seeing yourself clearly — and standing in it.

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This one’s personal! 💌

In our first-ever voice note, we’re taking you through the messy, uncomfortable, but necessary beginnings of our self-development journeys. We reflect on what made us question who we were becoming, how people-pleasing shaped our lives, and what it took to finally say, “enough".

From unlearning autopilot living to choosing ourselves in small, quiet ways—this episode is your permission slip to outgrow versions of you that no longer feel right.

🎀 What we talk about:

– Living by other people’s expectations

– People-pleasing, shapeshifting, and performance

– The moment we each decided to change

– Real talk on healing, boundaries, feminine energy, and self-trust

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Spotify:  https://open.spotify.com/show/6UK4TlEluqwr7c5VLksyra 

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After 4000 trials and overthinking- WE'RE FINALLY HERE!!💌

We started recording voice notes when we had no idea what we were doing — with life, healing, boys, boundaries…

We were just becoming the best version of ourselves. Or at least trying to. Most of those voice notes didn’t have answers — just feelings. Real and raw. And sometimes ugly.

This podcast is born from those moments.🧸

If you’ve ever outgrown a version of yourself, questioned your worth, or started over quietly, this space is for you.

New episodes every Wednesday!

Follow along — let’s become our best selves together! 🤍

- Shiff&Aishie

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Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/voicenotes-to-her/id1819517727

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCcxhPnkT6T0O4dlLJf8uUSA

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