Complex-PTSD is something most people walking this planet struggle with–emotional flashbacks and dysregulation, attachment trauma, addiction, guilt, shame, and low self-love. The good news is, there is no shortage of ways to heal and feel better. Here is a list of tools that have worked for me along my journey. What has worked for you?

“Life is short” is such a cliché that it's all but lost all meaning, but that doesn’t make it any less true. Your path in this life is unique, it's perfectly tailored for your infinite soul to experience what it needs to learn, to grow, and to find liberation–not to be perfect, not to succumb to “supposed to,” and certainly not to suffer. Let go. Just be. Live your one wild and precious life.

Existing within a system that operates on the condition that you will sacrifice what you want in order to meet your material needs, and growing up in toxic family systems that reinforce those expectations in order to receive love, knowing what you want can be a struggle. Even once you come to terms with what you want, owning it is another skill entirely. 

Self-Sabotage is something that we do unconsciously, but that doesn’t mean it's unfixable! The root of this subconscious impulse is unworthiness and the first step to healing it is awareness. How do we make the unconscious conscious? How do we let ourselves have what we want?

Unrequited love (also known as limerence) is something that most people experience in their lives, so much so that people in Medieval times had a word for it; courtly love. People who struggle with attachment issues experience limerence more often, and more intensely than people with healthy attachments (who are usually more drawn to people who are equally drawn to them). If you’ve dealt with the longing, the daydreaming, the fantasy, the 'irresistible' magnetic pull to someone who doesn’t want you, who can’t be with you, or who is otherwise unavailable, don’t worry, you won't always have to suffer like this -- you can heal it. 

Fake (or toxic) friendships are something that most people experience in their lives. They have all the hallmarks of toxic romantic relationships--but they tend to last much longer. Why? What are the signs? What are the symptoms? We'll talk about all of that, how to lay boundaries and how to walk away because you definitely deserve better. 

Denial is the first stage of grief and some people stay there forever--suspended in animation, never being able to see past their own pain, acting out of that wounded space, all while having no idea where it's all stemming from. As individuals, as family units, as communities, as a country, and as a species, we have been suffering from collective denial about the state of things. Maybe it's time to start accepting where we are. The only way out is through. 

I got a lot of problems with you people!!! And now you're gonna hear about it!!!!

Complaining is a sacred practice. If we don't vent, the frustration stays in our bodies. So let it out. Let it alllll out. 

The historical and/or mythological figure of Jesus has been highly depoliticized by the Christian right. Why? Could it have something to do with the fact that their messiah's politics dramatically opposed their own? Would he be pleased with the direction his brand is going? Or was he a marginalized people-loving-anarchist who hated the kind of hypocrisy currently being pedaled as a means of control? 

“The War on Christmas”-- is it a real attempt at marginalizing white Christian conservatives by the PC Mafia, or is it just people with power playing the victim? Happy Holidays.