Wandering the Wild Mess

Have you ever wanted something so badly, but deep down questioned whether you were actually good enough to have it?

Maybe it's the relationship you've always wanted, the career opportunity you've been working toward, financial freedom, or simply a life that looks different from the one you're living today.

The interesting thing is, you can be confident in who you are, proud of how far you've come, and still question whether you're worthy of the things you want most.

In this episode of Wandering the Wild Mess, we're unpacking why we sometimes convince ourselves we're not good enough, even when we are.

We're diving into the psychology of contingent self-worth, how we unknowingly attach our value to our circumstances, accomplishments, and past mistakes, and why the fear of rejection or disappointment can keep us from pursuing the very things we desire.

I'm also sharing some personal realizations about the pressure to have everything figured out before opening ourselves up to new opportunities, especially when it comes to relationships, and why sometimes we reject ourselves before anyone else even gets the chance.

In this episode, we're talking about:

• Why you can be confident and still struggle with feeling good enough
• How contingent self-worth influences what we believe we deserve
• Why we convince ourselves we're not ready for the things we want
• How fear of rejection and disappointment can hold us back
• The difference between knowing your worth and feeling qualified for the life you want
• Why your past mistakes and current circumstances don't determine your value
• How to separate your identity from the things you're still working to change

Because sometimes the question isn't whether you're worthy. It's whether you're afraid of wanting something you might not get.

And here's something I hope you take away from this conversation: You don't have to have everything figured out to be worthy of the life you want.

You can be a work in progress and still be deserving of love, happiness, success, and beautiful things.

So let me ask you: What would you do differently if you already believed you were worthy of the life you want?

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What if the person you're trying so hard to convince to choose you isn't even the right person for you?

So often, we get caught up in proving we're worthy of someone's love, attention, or effort that we forget to ask ourselves whether they're actually right for us.

In this episode of Wandering the Wild Mess, Heather gets real about the difference between fighting for a relationship and forcing one that isn't working. Through personal experiences with divorce, rejection, and learning to be alone, she explores why we hold on to people who aren't choosing us, and how fear of rejection can make us forget our own worth.

Because there's a difference between putting effort into something meaningful and exhausting yourself trying to make something fit.

You can want love without begging for it. You can feel rejected without questioning your worth. And you can walk away from something that isn't right for you, even when it hurts.

If you've been chasing someone's attention, waiting to be chosen, or wondering why you keep holding on to something that keeps hurting you, this episode is for you.

Sometimes we're so busy trying to be chosen that we forget we have a choice, too.

In this episode:
00:00 Why Are You Trying to Prove Your Worth?
04:01 Stop Convincing Someone to Choose You
08:01 Why Rejection Feels So Personal
13:43 The Power of Knowing Your Worth
19:46 Learning to Be Alone Without Settling
23:45 Stop Forcing What Isn't Meant for You

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Do you actually miss your ex… or do you just miss having someone there?

In this episode, we’re talking about the confusing space after a breakup where loneliness can sound a lot like longing.

Because sometimes you’re not missing the relationship itself. You’re missing the familiarity, the routine, the comfort, the person you always texted, and the version of life you thought you’d still have.

We get into why breakups can hurt even when leaving was the right decision, how fear and familiarity can pull you backward, and why starting over often comes with grief that has nothing to do with wanting the relationship back.

I also share a simple therapist-recommended exercise to help you get honest about what you’re actually grieving: the person, the relationship, or just the emptiness they left behind.

Because if you don’t get clear, loneliness can convince you to reopen doors that were meant to close.

We talk about why holding on can block healthier love, how repeating old patterns keeps you stuck, and what it looks like to sit with loneliness long enough to heal instead of using someone familiar to avoid it.

If you’ve been tempted to go back, questioning your decision, or wondering why you still feel attached to something you know wasn’t right for you, this episode is for you.

Sometimes moving forward means accepting that missing someone and missing what they represented are not always the same thing.

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Have you ever felt stuck in life, knowing something needs to change, but somehow you keep finding yourself in the same patterns, having the same conversations, and telling yourself the same story?

The truth is, nothing changes if nothing changes.

In this episode of Wandering the Wild Mess, we're talking about why we stay stuck, why familiar patterns can feel safer than the unknown, and what it really takes to change your life.

Drawing from my own journey of divorce, starting over, and rebuilding my life, I share the uncomfortable truth about personal growth: you can't keep waiting for someone else to change, repeating the same behaviors, or holding on to the life you're trying to leave behind and expect a different future.

Real change requires different choices, new habits, a shift in mindset, and a willingness to get uncomfortable.

We'll explore how to break old patterns, overcome the fear of change, build self-trust through small wins, and start becoming the person you want to be.

Because starting over isn't just about leaving an old life behind. It's about changing the way you think, the choices you make, and the patterns you carry forward.

If you've been feeling stuck, waiting for your life to change, or struggling to take that first step, this episode is for you.

Sometimes the life you want requires you to stop living the way you always have.

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I knew divorce was going to change my life. I just didn’t realize how much of my life would change with it.

Divorce doesn’t just end a marriage. It can change your routines, relationships, future plans, identity, and even the way you see yourself. And when so much of the life you knew disappears at once, one question can get really loud: What do I do now?

In this episode of Wandering the Wild Mess, I’m sharing what starting over after divorce actually looked like for me. From moving across the country and navigating an admittedly messy season of freedom, to rebuilding my career, finding structure again, strengthening my faith, and slowly figuring out what I wanted my life to look and feel like.

We talk about the identity loss that can come with divorce, the unexpected loneliness of starting over, and why rebuilding your life doesn’t happen overnight. Sometimes the blank canvas feels so overwhelming that you spend a while just making messes before you’re ready to create something new.

More than three years later, one of the greatest things divorce taught me is that I can trust myself. I know I can build a life on my own. I know I can start over. And I’ve also learned that being capable of doing life alone doesn’t mean I have to stop wanting someone to share it with.

If you’re navigating divorce, heartbreak, a major life transition, or simply wondering what comes next, this episode is a reminder that you don’t need to have the entire next chapter figured out today.

Sometimes starting over is simply being willing to meet yourself along the way.

If you want to hear the episode, I started to realize that I may be ready for a shared life....
Go listen to 71. When They’re Not the One, Just the Preview: What They Came to Teach You

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The biggest lie about starting over is that you’re back at square one or even worse.. you're too far behind. This episode will show you why you are NOT! 

You’re not starting from nothing. You’re starting with lessons, wisdom, experience, and a much clearer understanding of who you are, what you want, and what you want to do differently this time. And this life is NOT a race. 

For the final episode of the six-part Starting Over Series, I wanted to bring back one of my most-listened-to episodes because I think it’s the perfect place to end this series.

I talk about what rebuilding has taught me about identity, habits, routines, strength training, trying new things, and making changes before you necessarily feel ready for them.

Because starting over isn’t just about rebuilding what was lost. Sometimes it’s an opportunity to build something completely different.

If you’re navigating divorce, heartbreak, a career change, a move, an identity shift, or any season where life looks nothing like you thought it would, I hope this episode leaves you feeling excited about what could come next.

Starting over isn’t the end. It might just be the beginning of a whole new adventure.

This is episode 6 of 6 in the Starting Over Series. If you missed any of the previous episodes, go back and listen from the beginning of the series.

And next week, I’m officially back with brand-new episodes of Wandering the Wild Mess.

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What happens when you’ve rebuilt so much of your life, but it still doesn’t look like you thought it would by now?

In episode five of the Starting Over Series, we’re talking about a part of starting over that doesn’t get talked about enough: the lonely gap.

It’s that strange space between how far you’ve come and the parts of your life that still haven’t arrived yet.

Maybe you’re no longer grieving the relationship, the career, or the life that ended. Maybe now you’re grieving the timeline you thought your life would follow.

In this episode, I talk about the difference between surviving and rebuilding, what it feels like to put your life back together brick by brick, and the complicated truth that you can genuinely love the life you’ve created while still longing for something more.

Because healing doesn’t mean you stop having desires. And being grateful for your life doesn’t mean you’re never allowed to feel lonely in it.

If you’re starting over and wondering why this in-between season can still feel so heavy, this episode is for you.

This is episode 5 of 6 in the Starting Over Series, created to help you rebuild, rediscover who you are, trust where you’re going, and keep moving forward even when your life doesn’t look the way you once imagined it would.

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When life doesn’t go according to plan, it can feel like you’ve lost your direction entirely.

In episode four of the Starting Over Series, we’re revisiting one of the most-loved episodes of Wandering the Wild Mess and exploring what it really means to let go of control, release the future you thought you were supposed to have, and find direction after a major life shift.

Whether you’re navigating divorce, heartbreak, a career change, or an identity transition, this episode will help you look at uncertainty differently. Feeling lost doesn’t always mean you’re on the wrong path. Sometimes it means the old plan no longer fits the person you’re becoming.

Because letting go of the original plan isn’t giving up on your life. Sometimes the detour isn’t the delay. Sometimes the detour becomes the path.

This is episode 4 of 6 in the Starting Over Series, created to help you shift your mindset, trust your path, and move forward wherever you are in your starting-over journey.

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You can change your surroundings, your routines, and even the people around you—but if you’re still making decisions from an old version of yourself, it’s easy to recreate the same life in a different place.

In episode three of the Starting Over Series, we’re talking about the identity shift that happens when who you were no longer fits, but you haven’t fully become who you’re meant to be next.

Because starting over isn’t only about what you leave behind. It’s also about recognizing the beliefs, behaviors, and stories you’ve carried with you—and deciding which ones are no longer allowed to shape your future.

In this episode, we explore:

• How your identity quietly shapes the choices you make
• Why changing your circumstances doesn’t always change your patterns
• What happens when you continue seeing yourself through the lens of your past
• How small, consistent choices help you become someone new
• Why feeling uncomfortable may be a sign that you’re growing—not that you’re on the wrong path

If you’re rebuilding after divorce, heartbreak, loss, a career change, or any season that has made you question who you are now, this episode will help you look honestly at the version of yourself you’ve outgrown—and begin stepping toward the person you’re becoming.

You don’t have to have your entire next chapter figured out. But you do have to stop letting an old identity decide what you believe is possible for your life.

Wandering the Wild Mess is a podcast about starting over, finding yourself again, and learning to trust the path forward, even when life looks nothing like you thought it would.

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What does it really mean to let go of your old life and fully step into the person you’re becoming?

Letting go of who you were can sound freeing, especially when you know it’s no longer who you want to be. But as so many of us learn, wanting to become someone new is much easier than actually letting go of who we’ve been.

Even when you know you’re ready for something new, there may still be parts of your old identity, familiar patterns, relationships, and the life you once imagined that you aren’t quite ready to release. But you can’t create a new life while keeping one foot in your old one.

In Replay 2 of the six-part Starting Over Series, we explore why starting over after divorce, heartbreak, loss, or a major life transition requires more than physically walking away. Sometimes, we also have to release the familiar patterns, identities, relationships, and fears that keep us emotionally tied to the life we’ve known. 

This episode is about choosing yourself—not out of selfishness, but because you can’t build a new life while still living in alignment with the old one.

It’s about facing change, trusting what’s ahead, and making choices that reflect the future you say you want.

If you’ve been caught between who you were and who you’re becoming, this is your sign to stop straddling both lives and go all in.

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