Watching Our Egos: The Podcast

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This week Jake and Missy dive into life lessons they wish they were able to learn earlier in life. Jake recounts the time he made a very poor decision with his money in buying a very expensive pair of shorts. The power of artistry is also discussed.

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Communication is the thread that runs through everything: love, work, family, and the quiet stories we tell ourselves when we do not know how to say what we mean. We start with a simple question that gets surprisingly big fast: when someone says they’re “struggling with life,” how much of that is really a communication problem including the inability to express needs, name emotions, or stay present during conflict? From slouched posture to zoning out, we look at the signals our bodies send when our voices cannot. 

We unpack how family systems, especially alcoholic or chaotic environments, can teach us to retreat into our heads as a coping mechanism. That matters in adult romantic relationships because the same pattern shows up as freezing mid-conversation, misreading tone, or assuming the worst. We share a funny but painfully relatable miscommunication story about boiling eggs twice, then pivot into deeper territory: pre-verbal emotion, nervous system activation, and a practical strategy for moments when you “can’t find the words” by describing sensations in your body first. 

From there we go straight at abandonment fear, ego defence, and why people sometimes burn bridges even when they crave connection. The most grounding takeaway is the commitment to never self-abandon, because when you stay aligned with your values, other people’s reactions become survivable. We also talk couples therapy as proactive skill-building, “receiving the communication” without reacting, and how workplace communication and social media make all of this harder. If you want better communication skills, stronger boundaries, and healthier relationships, hit play, then subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review with the one idea you’re taking with you.

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Jake and Missy dive into the reality of conspiracy theories: are they valid or are they crazy? Social media, big news corporations, and various other entities that we rely on for information are discussed. Jake explores the possibility of living outside the US in the future.

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Missy dives into what the concept of permission really means in an alcoholic family system. Jake recounts a very vulnerable conversation with his dad. Both continue their conversation about today's political and cultural climate.

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Jake dives right into a vulnerable current event in his life. The complexities of parenting as it relates to taking care of yourself, the right to privacy, and doing what’s best for your kids is discussed. Missy shares stories from her past and Jake comments on what his future relationship with alcohol might look like.

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This week, Jake and Missy dive into whether tracking your partners location is a healthy thing to do. They expand into why they believe monogamy is still what works best for each of them. Missy goes down a large rabbit hole about politics after Jake opens up about his recent questioning of capitalism.

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Jake explores a tough question: do we actually resent our parents, or just the beliefs they taught us? He also reflects on the early days of discovering his sexuality and the internal struggles that came with it. Plus, a look at the growing political claim that education is really "indoctrination."

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Special Guest Lelia B joins to reflect on a weekend of healing! Various other topics discussed including healing from SA/rape trauma.

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Audio is better this week. Jake discusses his experience with marketing the podcast on TikTok over the last 7 weeks.

Missy and Jake talk about plant medicine. Missy does a deep dive into the true privilege of being an American.

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Jake and Missy ditch the effort to go in with a topic idea and go with the most natural form of conversation.

Perfectionism, racing thoughts, "chasing the carrot", and the concept of death are just some of the big picture topics discussed.