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Loneliness is a difficult emotion for many. I live off-grid, spending large amounts of time alone, yet I never feel lonely anymore. In this video, I'll perform a freestyle spoken word poem about my experience of loneliness and how that changed for me.
This video accompanies an article I wrote for my newsletter, which takes a deep dive into loneliness and my whole journey with it from childhood. The links for that are above.
What I realized about loneliness is that it came from the misconception that I wasn't complete without others. It's ironic. Because many of us have the experience of being alone while in a room full of people.
So the cure isn't spending more time with people. It's much better to hang out with people without trying to escape loneliness. Otherwise, you may seem desperate, and they'll likely avoid you. Being avoided creates more loneliness, obviously.
So the other thing I realized, which I go into in this poem, is that everything you feel when you're with other people comes from inside.
Now the secret to destroying loneliness for good is to generate those emotions, like the feeling of completeness, love, peace, etc, through focusing on your heart, resting your attention, and letting go of needing anyone for anything.
I go into that within this freestyle, and of course, check out the links at the top for more in-depth info on my story, and how I made it work.
During this performance, I'll also show you how I created an ethereal fantasy art illustration that captivates this technique for feeling complete, even if you are on your own. If you want a framed print, the link for that is above
Please remember: you are magic, you are whole, you are enough. Never forget that. Everything you think you can get from others is within you. There is no need to look outside yourself to feel complete.
The trick is generating everything you think you're missing from others not being there, in yourself, at will. People talk about willpower being non-existent. But that comes from a misunderstanding.
Willpower is heightened focus. You take awareness, which is wide open, and focus it on a single point, like your heart. When you do that, you can generate emotions, slow your heart rate down, and decide how you feel.
It's a great technique and totally freed me from loneliness. You are way more powerful than most of us believe ourselves to be. That power starts in the mind, and you grow it by finding that sense of serenity within.
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