Wellish

We’ve been taught to chase chemistry.

The butterflies. The obsession. The excitement. The feeling that someone can completely consume our thoughts.

But what if that’s not actually what creates healthy relationships?

In this episode, we’re talking about the difference between chemistry and emotional safety and why so many of us mistake anxiety, uncertainty, and inconsistency for connection.

You’ll learn:

• Why chemistry isn’t always a sign of compatibility

• How your nervous system influences who you’re attracted to

• The signs of emotional safety in relationships

• Why healthy love can feel “boring” at first

• How to stop asking “Do they like me?” and start asking “Do I feel safe here?”

If you’ve ever confused intensity for intimacy or found yourself addicted to relationships that kept you guessing, this episode is for you.

Because the goal isn’t finding someone who makes your heart race. It’s finding someone who helps it rest.

May felt like a month of contradictions.

I spent part of it dealing with mental health ruts, anxiety about being hard to love, panic spirals around abandonment, and the uncomfortable realization that I might be the common denominator in some of my struggles. I also found myself confronting something deeper: the idea that I don’t have to be happy all the time to be worthy of love, belonging, or a good life.

At the same time, there were so many things I loved this month. New friendships. Book club. Fruit making its triumphant return to my diet. A surprisingly meaningful lesson from delayed trains. Learning what it feels like to genuinely like someone without confusing chemistry for compatibility. And slowly stepping into a softer version of myself that doesn’t feel responsible for protecting herself from everything.

In this month’s Hates & Favs, I’m sharing the products, books, mindset shifts, relationship reflections, and life lessons that shaped May.

If you’ve been navigating anxiety, self-worth, dating, friendship, growth, or simply trying to become more yourself lately, this one’s for you.

This month’s confessions revealed something interesting: a lot of us are learning that just because something feels true doesn’t mean it is.

Feeling burnt out doesn’t mean you have a bad attitude. Feeling guilty doesn’t mean you’ve done something wrong. Feeling afraid doesn’t mean something bad is about to happen. And feeling unfinished doesn’t mean you’re broken.

In this episode of Confessions of a Wellish Listener, we're talking about workplace burnout, people-pleasing in dating, dreaming bigger before you have proof, emotional regulation without losing yourself, and the hidden downside of consuming too much self-improvement content.

If you've ever felt exhausted from trying to be a better version of yourself, this episode is for you.

In this episode:

• Why burnout and a "bad attitude" aren't the same thing
• The dating lesson that changed how one listener views rejection
• What a listener's incredible Jay Shetty story teaches us about possibility
• The difference between emotional regulation and emotional suppression
• Why self-improvement can quietly turn into self-rejection

Because sometimes the biggest growth isn't changing yourself. It's questioning the stories you've been believing about yourself.

What if the real problem is that you’ve become so self-aware, self-critical, and growth-focused that you’ve forgotten how to stay on your own side?

In this episode, we’re talking about what self-compassion actually looks like when you’re someone who values accountability, emotional intelligence, and personal growth. If you’ve ever struggled with feeling like being kind to yourself is lazy, delusional, or letting yourself off the hook, this conversation is for you.

We’ll unpack why self-compassion feels so uncomfortable, the hidden ways you might be abandoning yourself every day, and the mindset shift that helped me stop turning every mistake into evidence that something was wrong with me.

Because self-compassion isn’t pretending you’re perfect.

It’s refusing to become your own enemy while you’re still learning.

Everyone wants to be emotionally intelligent until they realize it doesn’t mean becoming perfectly calm, healed, or unbothered all the time.

In this episode of Confessions of a Wellish Girly, Sarah talks about the difference between hyper self-awareness and actual emotional regulation, including a very real moment this week where she reacted unfairly toward her boyfriend while trying to stop herself in real time.

She also shares a surprisingly healing moment involving lost AirPods, nervous system regulation, and the quiet ways emotional growth actually shows up in everyday life.

This episode is for the people who are trying to heal without becoming robotic. The people who are learning that emotional intelligence isn’t about never reacting — it’s about taking responsibility faster, regulating sooner, and no longer glorifying your emotional chaos.

Topics include:

- emotional intelligence vs hyper self-awareness

- emotional regulation in relationships

- therapy speak vs actual healing

- nervous system regulation

- emotional maturity

- reacting vs responding

- healing perfectionism

- self-awareness and accountability

- relationship triggers

- realistic healing & growth

If you’ve been trying to become better for years but still secretly feel like you’re not enough this episode is going to hit hard.

In today’s conversation, I’m sits down with trauma-informed coach and intuitive healer Tori Jenae to unpack the hidden wound behind perfectionism, overachievement, people pleasing, hyper-independence, and the constant need to “fix” yourself.

Together, we explore why chasing enoughness can actually become a form of self-rejection and how so much of modern wellness culture quietly reinforces the belief that who you are right now isn’t enough.

This episode dives into:

- Why perfectionism is often a trauma response, not ambition

- The nervous system patterns behind overworking, overgiving, and burnout

- Why achieving the “dream life” still doesn’t create fulfillment

- How childhood wounds shape relationships and self-worth

- The difference between healthy growth and self-abandonment

- Why your body can’t heal when it thinks you’re unsafe

- How to stop outsourcing your worth to productivity, appearance, relationships, or validation

- What it actually looks like to feel enough without needing to earn it

If you’ve ever felt exhausted from constantly trying to improve yourself… this conversation will feel like exhaling.

This isn’t about giving up on growth. It’s about learning how to grow without abandoning yourself in the process.

What if the habits you call “self-improvement” are actually destroying your self worth?

In this episode, we’re talking about 3 extremely normalized behaviors that look like growth in self improvement culture but quietly teach you that who you are right now is never enough. From turning yourself into a constant self-improvement project, to using productivity to earn your self-respect, to confusing emotional isolation with confidence, this episode is for the person who is exhausted from trying to optimize themselves into feeling worthy.

If you’ve ever felt like:

• your self-worth disappears when you’re unproductive
• you can’t stop “fixing” yourself
• rest makes you feel guilty
• healing has started to feel like a full-time job
• you only like yourself when you’re doing everything right

…this episode is probably going to hit harder than you expected.

This isn’t about becoming your “best self.” It’s about finally stopping the daily behaviors that make you feel like you’re never enough in the first place.

This week’s episode is for the people who are exhausted from abandoning themselves in the name of being “good,” loyal, understanding, forgiving, or easy to love.

This wasn’t a normal rut. It wasn’t “if I fixed my routine” or “if my life looked different.” It was deeper than that. It was the kind of spiral that makes you question your entire existence and whether you’re even lovable as a person.

In therapy this week, I realized I’ve spent years stuck between two values: honesty and loyalty. And almost every time, I chose loyalty even when it meant betraying myself.

Today we’re talking about what happens when two core values collide, why breaking old patterns can feel guilty instead of empowering, and how to tell the difference between being selfish and finally being honest.

If you’ve ever called yourself “loyal to a fault,” this episode might explain why you feel so emotionally stuck.

If you’ve ever thought “why am I like this?” “why can’t I just get it together?” or felt like no matter what you do, it’s never enough this episode is going to hit.

Because what if you don't actually hate yourself? What if you’ve just been grading yourself your entire life, scoring your body, your productivity, your emotions, your progress, against standards you didn’t even consciously choose?

In this episode, we’re unpacking the subtle but exhausting habit of turning your life into a performance review and why it’s the real reason you feel like you’re always falling short.

You’ll learn:

• Why “self-hatred” is often just constant self-evaluation
• How you unknowingly built your internal grading system
• Why you never feel good enough (even when you’re doing well)
• How to stop living like a report card and start actually experiencing your life
• Simple, realistic ways to build self-worth that isn’t based on performance

This is your reminder that you’re not behind, broken, or not doing enough. You’ve just been measuring yourself in a way that makes it impossible to ever feel like you pass.

In this episode, we’re getting real about what your daily life actually says about you because your habits, routines, and patterns aren’t random!!!! They’re a reflection of what you believe you deserve, what you prioritize, and where you might be a little out of alignment.

If you’ve been feeling like you’re “failing” your routine or lifestyle, constantly starting over, or trying to keep up with habits that look good online but feel impossible in real life, this episode is your reset.

We’re talking about:

• why you’re probably being way too hard on yourself
• how your life might be more performative than aligned
• the subtle ways social media is shaping a routine that doesn’t actually fit your life
• and how to build a lifestyle that actually feels good to live, not just one that looks good

This isn’t about fixing yourself. It’s about finally understanding yourself, so you can build a life that feels like yours.

Because a Wellish life isn’t perfect. It’s human, repeatable, and livable.