Wellish

This is your reminder that self-improvement doesn’t look like having it all together, it looks like paying attention and getting to know yourself on a deeper level.

In this week’s Confessions of a Wellish Girly, I’m breaking down what actually worked for me in April and what didn’t. From the small habits that quietly kept my mental health afloat, to the patterns that still trip me up (hi reassurance + abandonment wounds!!!!), this episode is a real look at what growth actually feels like in real life.

We’re talking:

• the truth about movement + mental health
• why “not self-abandoning” feels uncomfortable at first
• the difference between emotional reactions vs clarity
• what’s shifting for me in relationships, routines, and career pressure
• and the little things that made life feel so much better this month

If you’re in a season of figuring yourself out, softening your standards, and trying to build a life that actually feels good (not just looks good) this one’s for you.

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Somewhere along the way, we started believing that for our lives to be good enough they have to be full. Full schedules. Full calendars. Full routines. Full potential. So we keep adding more. More goals, more habits, more plans, thinking eventually it will feel like enough.

But what if the problem isn’t that you’re not doing enough, it’s that your life is overpacked?

In this episode, I sit down with Brian Pultro, former Navy Commander turned financial planner, to unpack why so many of us feel the need to fill every inch of our lives in order to feel worthy, productive, or “on track.”

We talk about the pressure to do it all, why slowing down feels uncomfortable (even unsafe), and his philosophy of “monk speed,” a more intentional, grounded way of living that prioritizes presence over pressure.

Because a life that looks full isn’t the same as a life that feels full.

If you’ve been chasing the feeling of “enough” by trying to do more, this episode will help you rethink what actually makes a life feel good to live.

If you’re trying to reset your life right now and instead of feeling better you feel uncomfortable, disconnected, or like something is off, this episode is for you.

Because the truth no one tells you is that starting over doesn’t feel empowering at first. It feels unfamiliar.

It feels like:

• being misunderstood when you stop people pleasing
• questioning yourself when things finally get calm
• missing chaos even when you know it wasn’t good for you
• not fully recognizing your own life yet

In this episode, we’re getting into the real experience of resetting your life. Not the aesthetic version, but the emotional, identity-shifting, slightly uncomfortable version that actually leads to change.

We’re talking about why peace can feel wrong, why people may not like the new version of you, and how to stay grounded when you’re in that in-between phase where nothing feels fully right yet.

If you’ve ever thought, “why doesn’t this feel as good as I thought it would?” you’re not doing it wrong. You’re just changing.

Today’s episode is for anyone who feels like they’re doing life “wrong” even though they’re trying.

In this Confessions of a Wellish Listener episode, I’m reading your real, unfiltered thoughts from judging your life based on other people’s expectations, to assuming the worst in every situation, to feeling happy for the first time in a while and immediately waiting for it to fall apart.

We’re talking about:

• why you don’t trust your life yet (and what to do about it)
• the difference between intuition and fear
• why your “healthy habits” aren’t sticking
• what it actually means when you outgrow your friends
• and why your life might feel off simply because you’re not actually enjoying it

If you’ve ever felt behind, disconnected, or like you’re secretly not as put together as you “should” be this episode will make you feel seen and help you start thinking about your life differently.

Because maybe nothing is wrong with you!!!! You’re just in the middle of becoming someone new.

If you’ve been trying to build a better life but keep getting stuck in perfectionism, pressure, or routines that feel more forced than fulfilling, this episode is for you.

This week, I’m joined by Terri Hanson Mead, reinvention advocate, helicopter pilot, and author of Piloting Your Life, for a conversation about what it actually looks like to change your life in a real way through the choices you make every day.

We talk about burnout, people-pleasing, external validation, the “messy middle” of change, and how to start building a lifestyle that feels good to live instead of one that just looks good on paper. We also get into micro-changes, experimenting with your life, how to stop quitting every time you miss a habit, and why the goal isn’t perfection, but intention.

This episode is for anyone who feels like their life is fine but not fully theirs yet and wants to start changing that in a way that’s realistic, freeing, and actually sustainable.

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You plan the perfect routine, you feel so motivated, you tell yourself this is the one that’s going to change your life and then life happens. You get busy, tired, off your game for a day and suddenly you’re back at square one, wondering why you can’t stay consistent.

But what if the problem isn’t you?

What if the problem is that you’ve been trying to follow routines that only work when your life is perfect?

In this episode, we’re reframing everything you’ve been taught about routines. Because you don’t need something optimized, aesthetic, or “ideal”you need something you can actually repeat. Something that works on your worst days, not just your best ones.

We’re talking about why perfect routines fail, how to build a routine that fits your real life, and the identity shift that actually makes consistency feel natural instead of forced.

If you’re tired of all-or-nothing habits and ready for something that actually sticks this one’s for you.

This week, I had to set a boundary that completely threw off my energy for the day and it made me realize something that honestly shifted how I look at everything:

Your life isn’t just determined by what you do it’s determined by how much energy you have to do it.

And if you’re constantly pouring your energy into things, people, or situations that drain you of course you feel behind. Of course everything feels harder.

In this episode, we’re talking about:

💘what protecting your peace actually looks like in real life

💘how one draining moment can spiral into days of low energy

💘why you might feel off even when you’re “doing everything right”

💘and how the right environments and relationships can either drain you or quietly propel you forward

This isn’t about cutting everyone off or becoming untouchable. It’s about becoming aware of where your energy is going because that’s what’s shaping your life more than you think.

You don’t need a perfect routine to change your life. You need one decision you actually follow through on.

In this episode, I’m talking with Janet McConnell, Healthy Longevity Advocate, author, and national champion bodybuilder, who rebuilt her life after a health crisis in her 40s and is now approaching 70 stronger than ever.

But this isn’t about becoming a bodybuilder. It’s about:

• how your daily habits quietly shape your identity
• why “discipline” isn’t punishment—it’s alignment
• and how to build routines that actually support your life (instead of proving your worth)

We get into the real reason you fall off after two weeks, how to stop trying to change everything overnight, and why the smallest decision you make today might be the one that changes everything.

If you’ve been feeling behind, inconsistent, or like you “should” have it together by now this episode will shift how you see your life. Because maybe the goal isn’t to become perfect. Maybe it’s to become consistent enough to trust yourself.

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You’ve been trying to get your life together. Fix your routine. Be more consistent. Do things “right.” But what if the problem isn’t your life, but it’s how you’re looking at it?

In this episode, we’re talking about the quiet pressure to make your life look good: productive, aesthetic, put together, and how that’s actually disconnecting you from what it feels like to live it. Because real life is inconsistent. It fluctuates. It doesn’t always make sense. And that doesn’t make it wrong.

If you’ve been feeling like you’re behind, like you can’t get it together, or like your life just doesn’t look how it’s “supposed” to this episode will shift how you see everything.

You don’t need a more perfect life. You might just need a more honest one.

this week’s episode is a confession of genuine good feeling compared to the typically more negative ones

I had a moment where this week that I realized I felt truly happy with myself and my life and it caught me off guard because nothing huge changed, i just made a decision about who I am and started showing up like that despite any fear that comes up for me.

We’re talking about what happens when you stop going back and forth with yourself, start letting fear guide you instead of stop you, and actually follow through on the version of you you say you want to be.

This isn’t about steps that will fix your whole life, it’s about why things start to feel better when you finally have your own back.