“Trying to create a new normal where no one uses violence

against anyone.” 

A pretty big goal, yes! He and Men as Peace Makers recognize that. Yet it is one the organization is mindfully working towards all the time.

Chris works in a program called Domestic Violence Restorative

Circles at Men as Peacemakers in Duluth,

MN.  He has been doing work around ending domestic

violence in various capacities since 2008. Both with those who have used

domestic violence and survivors.  

I, Judy, met Chris as one of my mentors when I started

co-facilitating groups with men who have used domestic violence, at The

Domestic Abuse Intervention Program (DAIP) as part of the Duluth Model.

Chris shares his experience with the work. In our

conversation he speaks candidly sharing his current, and ever evolving,

perspective on our culture, how violence is a culturally supported problem that

will not be solved by working with the men in these programs alone.  Chris speaks to the challenge and costs, at

times, to speaking up in situations where comments are made that are sexist or

discriminatory. 

Issues of domestic violence are complex and layered, no

doubt.

What do we need to understand if we really want a new normal

where no one is using violence against anyone else? It is about recognizing the

social norms that lead to and support violence. 

“It isn’t just THOSE guys in THOSE programs that need to change.” It is

MUCH bigger than that!

We also touched on…

Do the groups work and cure men from doing violence?

Can you still have your masculinity and treat women, and the

things that are typically considered “feminine” with respect too?   

The emasculation or “pussyfication” of America.

And, much more.

Contact Website:https://www.menaspeacemakers.org/dvrc

I LOVE

Brené Brown!

I take a few concepts from her book… fitting in, belonging as well as the word Courage… and share thoughts inspired while reading that arose for me about culture and our courage to find our place of true belonging instead of trying to fit in.

She is on my list of people I want to be my neighbor… along with Elizabeth Gilbert, Tori Amos, Natalie Merchant, Caitlin Doughty, and Boy George!  I will have SUCH a great neighborhood!  

Not

familiar with Brené?  She is a

researcher… NO, NO, NO… It is MUCH cooler than it sounds!  She studies courage, vulnerability, shame and

empathy.  That may not sound like a great

sell, but trust me.  Check her out before

or after you have a listen.

A few

Brené Links

6 Types of

People Who Do Not Deserve to Hear Your Shame Story | SuperSoul Sunday with

Oprah

The Gifts of Imperfection – Brene Brown https://ldshopeandrecovery.com/the-gifts-of-imperfection/

The BookThe Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Arehttps://amzn.to/30GnFdX

Judy shares some thoughts from and about the book titled, From Here to Eternity: Traveling the World to Find the Good Death by Caitlin Doughty. 

Doughty advocates and educates for death positivity and

funeral reform.  YUP, that SURE IS a

thing… it is brilliant!

Caitlin Doughty is arguably one of the most famous

morticians… maybe ever??. She has an intriguing video series titled Ask the

Mortician as well as some fun books besides this one.

I also touch on

Death Café’sFuneral planning and the love of Casket shopping! (A Judy guilty pleasure.)

Caitlin’s websitehttp://caitlindoughty.com/

Caitlin’s bookFrom Here to Eternity: Traveling the World to Find the Good Deathhttps://amzn.to/2tUXbZS

A sample of her bookhttps://thriveglobal.com/stories/the-story-of-the-only-public-open-air-funeral-pyre-in-america/

If you are someone who feels like your art,  project, book, podcast episode…eh-hem… is NOT

ever ready for release… or that your to do list is NEVER

done!     Take a listen.

I’m sharing my thoughts on an insightful reflection I had, created by a

synergistic smash up.  Inspired by a

quote from an interview with comedian Tim Minchin and the opening set up of a

book I’m about to read called “Getting Stuff Done” by David Allen.  

They came together in my brain and felt like they turned on a light bulb and

lifted a little weight off my shoulders. 

As I am doing a bit of reorganizing of stuff and time in my personal

world, it was great timing.  Maybe they will do the same for you.  

If you are feeling a bit life overwhelmed like I am sometimes, perhaps this

will speak to you.

THE INSPIRATIONS

‘Sometimes it freaks me out’: Tim Minchin on Matildahttps://youtu.be/4G7g0K7DU6o

And the book with the inspirational beginning, Getting Things Done, by David Allenhttps://amzn.to/35zARlz

TIM MINCHIN SONGS

MENTIONED

Not Perfect

Prejudice

Canvas bag video

We all KNOW that we need to keep our body moving and in

shape. 

Many of us struggle to make that happen for ourselves for a

myriad of reasons.

And… we struggle on knowing what to do and WHY we are REALLY

doing it.  We know we want to feel good

and be in the best shape we can as we age… but, unless we are training for

something… we don’t really have a great goal or direction.

Dr. Peter Attia has created a GREAT concept that has been driving his exercise and training and has him feeling great.

What IS Centurion Olympics?

I’ll share with you what I learned by listening to Dr.

Peter.

I think it is a pretty exciting concept!  Even if you have a great work out plan that is

working for you… check out this idea! I’d love to hear your thoughts!

For those who need purpose to their movement, this might just be a key: functional, useful and purposeful.

I think it makes a lot of sense that has potential to change

the way you train your body to a stronger, easier, more functional rest of your

life!

AND…

THANK YOU to all of you who listen to the podcast.

Who share the episodes with friends who might find help and

support.

For sharing your thoughts and feedback in comments on Facebook, on the episode pages, in personal emails, written notes and live and in person.

To those who support the work through my Patreon page! 

To all who have been my guests and trusted me with your

words and your work.

To those who helped make my Podcast ParTAY this year a

BLAST!

You all have NO idea how much your trust, words and support

can brighten my day to keep up this work!  

I do it for you, the listener. 

I can see many are listening, but to hear from you in one

way or another is what drives my soul!   

Thank YOU for being a part of my world, my journey, my

passion!

Judy B.

The topic today Inspired by…

The Tim Ferriss show

Posted on November 27, 2019 by Tim Ferriss

Peter Attia, M.D. — Fasting, Metformin, Athletic Performance, and More (#398)https://tim.blog/2019/11/27/peter-attia-fasting-metforming-longevity/

Doctor’s Farmacy

What To Do Today To Be Healthy At 100

https://shows.acast.com/the-doctors-farmacy/episodes/what-to-do-today-to-be-healthy-at-100

Other TedMed talk mentioned

Peter Attia: What if we’re wrong about diabetes?

Kari, my unexpected frequent side kick, shares a great story

that I heard her share at an event. 

(Story within).  I find myself

interested in people and their Santa experiences.  This is a great story about the lengths a

family will go to keep the mystery alive!

I share a little of my experiences and contemplations on

Santa.

And I share some highlights from an article about the study

telling us when people stopped believing in Santa, state by state. And, how

many (again by state) said they never believed in Santa.

ARTICLE

When Do Americans Stop Believing in Santa by Statehttps://housemethod.com/lifestyle/not-believing-in-santa-by-state/

Judy’s Christmas alone song:More Than Likely – Boy George and PM Dawn

SPECIAL HOLIDAY OFFERS BY PREVIOUS GUESTS

COOKIETo participate in Cookie’s special offer – Contact her by Jan 3, 2020

$25 off your first massage for new clients6 pack (buy 5 get 1 free)

Cookie Kilian Manual Therapy and Massagehttps://www.facebook.com/cookiekilian/http://cookiekilian.com/

KARI

To connect with Kari about her special, Finish 2019 focused and fearless by

the end of December

$25 for a 45 minute session3 -1 hour sessions for $100ELI/Energy Leadership Index Assessment with 60 minute debrief for $100

218-341-3228

https://karibecken.com/

We invite Kari Becken for another “rant” This time we react to and discuss this article… Life-sized model shows what office workers might look like in 20 years https://news.sky.com/story/life-sized-model-shows-what-office-workers-might-look-like-in-20-years-11843868?fbclid=IwAR3l8lsnNLT0IMzX87NoSqr8EKhW7qPkyUkJIPk0kb7g06mqcxxj4fgWT_A

Emma shows how office workers might look in 20 years

according to William Higham..  Looking to address concerns about health

issues in the UK

as people’s desk/computer jobs continue to replaces active work activities.   He is

calling it out as an issue that needs to be addressed more seriously for health

and productivity sake.

Kari and I bring forth some ideas to help our bodies handle

our increase of sitting with a little more ease.  

MENTIONED BY KARI

Pomodoro time management methodhttps://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pomodoro_Technique

CONTACT FOR KARI

To see about Kari’s Special, Finish 2019 focused and fearless, or her other [email protected]://karibecken.com/

For MOST of us holiday

time adds stuff! Lots of shift and change from the norm.  How can we find our stasis with the variance

in schedules, additional activities, to do lists, food environments, friends

and family time that we want but can also be a lot to manage.

Cookie and I share bunches

of thoughts, tips, reminders to help make the holidays flow with grace and

ease!

Friends, family, food,

self care, hosting.

FOOD

Helping us all to support our balance of keeping us nourished and have fun.  When dietary needs are in the mix.  Making it as easy as we can on everyone.

Articles eluded to…ALCOHOL AND MUSCLES

Articles eluded to Does Alcohol Dehydrate You?https://www.healthline.com/health/does-alcohol-dehydrate-youhttps://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5513686/

CONTACT COOKIETo participate in Cookie’s special offer – Contact her by Jan 3, 2020

Cookie Kilian Manual Therapy and Massagehttps://www.facebook.com/cookiekilian/http://cookiekilian.com/

Photo credithttps://www.flickr.com/photos/trishhamme/6522437185

Lexi tells the story of her self development journey

starting at 8th grade.  She

shares the challenges and wins that brought about WhySheWhistles and what it

has turned into today.

What did we talk

about?

More about Why She Whistles Creating communities of like mind and like mission for supportGoal Getter Workshop Dec 28th  in Duluth MN. Our law of attraction plan for winter – A challenge for words and mind set for embracing the “dark” season. Lexi gives us a picture of the well rounded perspective she has and what steps one takes when working with her A walk through of her Goal Getter Worksheet. (Play along at home!)The evolution of WHySheWhistles.A KINDA random, but not really, convo about coffee and tea. Vision and law of attractions… how they have manifested for her. And more!

Goal Getter Workshophttps://www.facebook.com/events/3248404035231797/Monday, Dec 307pmWild State Cider – Duluth, MN

CONTACT

InstragramWhySheWhistles

Websitewhyshewhistles.com

Facebook (Use spaces)Why She Whistles 

OTHER MENTIONS

WhySheWhistles,com/connectGet the Goal Getter Worksheet

Podcast to walk you through the work sheet – Episode 20https://www.whyshewhistles.com/listen

The coffee blog posthttps://www.whyshewhistles.com/post/what-i-learned-from-30-days-of-no-alcohol-coffee

Lexi tells the story of her self development journey

starting at 8th grade.  She

shares the challenges and wins that brought about WhySheWhistles and what it

has turned into today.

What we talked about…

She shares her inspiration and mission.

What the law of attraction means to her and where she puts

her focus.

Our words, the law of attraction and money.  She shares ideas and tools around money in a

way that speaks in an empowered, but true to us, way. As opposed to language of

lack or a destructive word choice to ourselves. 

Bringing up our energy, power and purpose.

A little bit of science… the part of our brain that supports

the law of attraction working for us.

Our vision, is it clear? 

How can we do that?

She shares her personal journaling practice.

Leveling up!

Her journey… How the lows in our life can serve us.   How they can be a tool for growth.

Embracing being a beginner

The power of conversation; people sharing their stories, challenges

and journeys and how those were key to her finding her way.

How feeling empowered to use our voice!

And, more.

Goal Getter Workshophttps://www.facebook.com/events/3248404035231797/Monday, Dec 307pmWild State Cider – Duluth, MN

CONTACT

InstragramWhySheWhistles

Websitewhyshewhistles.com

Facebook (Use spaces)Why She Whistles 

OTHER MENTIONS

WhySheWhistles,com/connectGet the Goal Getter Worksheet

Podcast to walk you through the work sheet – Episode 20https://www.whyshewhistles.com/listen

The coffee blog posthttps://www.whyshewhistles.com/post/what-i-learned-from-30-days-of-no-alcohol-coffee