Hello, I hope you all are doing well. Tonight’s episode focuses around allowing yourself to be angry without shame, as well as the use of silence when trying to get through a conflict. Within this episode, I briefly speak on a conflict that has recently occurred between a good friend of mine and myself. It was not a large conflict in and of itself, but in the moment, it seemed to be that way from my point of view (and probably from my friend’s as well).
I just wanted to note that while communication is key when trying to get through a conflict, you must also recognize silence as an important tool, too. While silence can also rub some the wrong way, I think that taking some time to ponder on what has been said can be very beneficial for each party involved. However, silence alone is an immature and destructive way to go about issues that need to be dealt with. After taking a moment to evaluate the situation within your own mind and taking a moment to calm down, a more levelheaded conversation can be had.
However, if all parties involved seem to be at a loss for words, then that’s okay, too. Be silent, feel anger, or whatever other emotion that comes from the conflict. Just be sure to allow yourself time to think, before saying something spurred on by a temporary feeling. I will of course be reaching out to my friend soon, in order to share with them how I genuinely felt during that moment.
TLDR: Silence in conflict/feeling anger is good, silent treatment bad, reaching out after feeling less angry/emotion fades also good.
Anyways, I hope you enjoy the episode.
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