What stories do we tell ourselves when life feels overwhelming, painful, or uncertain?

Steven Tierney invites us to look closely at the narratives that shape our experience—especially in moments of grief and fear. Reflecting on the recent loss of Jeff Lindemood, he shows how the mind rushes to create stories about unfairness, danger, and identity, and how Buddhist practice helps us pause long enough to see these stories clearly. He reminds us that grief itself is a Buddha, a natural expression of love and impermanence, and that we can choose which stories truly support our well‑being.

We can widen that lens to the suffering in the world so we do not shut down, but respond with compassion and grounded action.

• Begin meta with yourself—“I am a beautiful human being deserving and worthy of love.”
• Choose stories that benefit you and others, releasing those that cause harm.
• Recognize all emotional states as Buddhas, each impermanent and worthy of attention.
• Let service and connection guide you, even when the world feels heavy.

Steven reminds us that the world needs what only we can offer.

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Steven Tierney (Kai Po Koshin) is a Dharma transmitted teacher in the lineage of Suzuki Roshi. Steven has a new Sangha: Oceans Compassion Sangha and also practices with Gay Buddhist Fellowship, Meditation in Recovery at SFZC, Great Spirit Sangha, SFLGBTQA Sangha, and the Hartford Street Zen Center.

Steven believes that we can find wisdom, compassion and awakening wherever good people come together for practice, healing, service and joy. Dr. Tierney is a psychotherapist in private practice and Professor Emeritus in Counseling Psychology at CIIS.

He is a Certified Addiction Specialist and has been named a Diplomate in Clinical Mental Health by the American Mental Health Counselors Association. He is also a certified suicide prevention and intervention trainer, providing workshops, classes, and consultations. Steven can be reached at 415-235-1061 or [email protected]

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