What Not To Do

In this episode Astrologer Melissa Marcum joins the pod to teach us what this year's eclipses are pushing us to work on within ourselves BUT you probably won't listen to this awesome conversation because Mercury hates Tristan and is retrograding dafuk out of the podcast this month 🥴😭. Also, don't be sad face, this is only goodbye for now:)

Regardless, you should get in touch with Melissa for a kick-ass chart reading!

Her facebook:

https://www.facebook.com/jane.oneill.142035/

Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/melissaoneillmarcum/

www.mmastrovibes.com

Follow us on Instagram: @whatnottodopc

Have you ever been curious about BDSM or D/s? What is it? Is it safe? Is this for me? Then tune in because sex coach Tiffany Keeping is here to give us the lowdown on this particular corner of kink. Tiffany shares a bit of her personal experiences with Dom/sub relationships and gives us insight on how to start figuring out which side we may want to play.

To find Tiffany:

https://www.tiffanykeeping.com/

Instagram and TikTok is @tiffanykeeping

Facebook is https://www.facebook.com/tiffany.gibsonkeeping

Here's a free gift for your audience too that can help them start exploring some fantasies.          

https://funnels.tiffanykeeping.com/sexyfantasies-9568

To message or follow this podcast, find @whatnottodopc on Instagram

Dating Coach and creator of LOVE-U, Evan Marc Katz joins the pod to teach us how to properly use online dating platforms (your profile probably needs a reboot), how to lower your expectations without lowering your standards, and why you need to get really clear on what it is you are looking for in a partner before swiping left on anyone! Whether you're new to online dating or a seasoned veteran trying to keep your hope alive that your person IS out THERE, this is an episode you can't afford to miss!

Connect with Evan here:

Evanmarckatz.com

Instagram: www.instagram.com/realevanmarckatz

Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-love-u-podcast-with-evan-marc-katz/id1091310056

Felicia Kashevaroff, relationship coach and inventor of the TEND TASK app joins the pod to discuss how to keep a good thing going once you've finally found the one!

To connect with Felicia...

To learn more about Tend Task go to: https://tendtask.com  or follow on IG @tendtask

To get her free eBook - "The Top 10 Mistakes Couples Make When Building a Balanced Relationship — And What To Do Instead," go to this link - https://tendtask.myflodesk.com/free-ebook

This week Serena Haines, certified Sexologist and sex and intimacy coach, joins the pod to deep dive into sexless marriage with Tristan. From avoiding whats happening in your marriage to finding the strength to fix it, accept it (or end it 😬) this conversation is geared to help you understand a little bit more about the "why" of it all, with the additional hope you'll understand more avout what you want and what you are willing to accept after a good listen.

Important links:

Podcast Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/whatnottodopc?igsh=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==

7 SECOND BODY SIGN UP

https://7secondbody.my.canva.site/tristan

www.serenahaines.com

Instagram

https://www.instagram.com/serena_haines/

SOLO CAST! What is the new 3 day rule? Listen as Tristan explains what, why, and how this can eliminate frustration and wasted time in your online dating journey.

Learn all about what profile lines mean in your human design chart with Human Design expert Shakti Rios plus Tristan tells you the best spots to find sugar daddy's in South OC 😄

Find your human design here: https://phnxlegacy.com

Shatki's course link: https://phnxlegacy.com/dts

SOLO CAST!! Okay guys if you are a man or a woman currently dating YOU MUST LISTEN TO THIS EPISODE then share it with your single friends. It's so incredibly simple and yet men all over the country are dropping the ball on this! I know you can do better, but ladies you have a part in this too. This one thing could change everything (especially how you look at potential partners).

If you still haven't gotten enough past lives information, don't you worry your pretty little head about it because we got you!! In this episode a Akashic alchemist Erin Stabile is here to break it all down and shares why its important to look at all the journeys your soul has been on to better understand why you are here now as YOU.

To further connect with Erin:

http://www.vintagemoons.com/

https://www.facebook.com/erin.morganstabile?mibextid=LQQJ4d

https://www.tiktok.com/@erinintuitivecoach

https://www.instagram.com/erinvintagemoons/

CLASS IS IN SESSION! Kristin Wilder, sex and intimacy coach extraordinaire is back to teach you how to feel confident in asking what you want from your partner and to give a much needed tutorial on how to TALK DIRTY! Its all here in this episode!! Make this valentines day your spiciest ever with a little help from your favorite podcast!

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SHOW NOTES:

DYAD:

Formal communication exercise (not a conversation): the goal is to facilitate deeper understanding (not to agree).

Face each other, take turns

1st partner instruction: “Tell me….” (read the rest of the prompt from the handouts)

2nd partner instruction: receive instruction, contemplate, answer briefly 1 thing

1st partner: “thank you” to complete the communication loop. 

Communication aids:

clarify that (if you don't understand what they meant)

summarize that (if they said a lot)

say it again/speak louder (if they mumbled, you didn't hear them)

Switch speaking/listening roles. 

2nd partner instruction: “Tell me…” (use the same prompt from the handouts)

We will go for _x_ minutes (set timer). Repeat the same prompt over and over until the time is done.

General Sexuality Dyads (build up over time)

● Tell me something you love about our sex life

● Tell me something that you love about my body

● Tell me something about your sexuality you would like for me to understand

● Tell me something you would like more of in our sex life

● Tell me something we’ve never done that you’d like to try

● Tell me what moves you when it comes to our intimate physical connection

● Tell me a desire you have never fulfilled sexually

● Tell me something you think about when you self pleasure

● Is there anything you’ve fantasized about but never tried in real life?

● What are some of your peak erotic experiences? 

● Tell me a way you would like to expend erotically

LINKS:

Sexual Communication Checklist: Email [email protected] and she will send you a copy! 

BDSMtest.org 

Google the "Will Want Won't List" 

Kristin's Erotic Blueprints Spotify Playlists: https://open.spotify.com/user/1265105704

Erotic Blueprints Quiz: https://BlueprintBreakthrough.ontralink.com/t?orid=78858&opid=4

Erotic Blueprints Breakthrough Course (purchase for self-study, included for private clients): https://BlueprintBreakthrough.ontralink.com/t?orid=78858&opid=2 

Book a Free Intro Call with Kristin: https://calendly.com/wilderintimacy 

Website: www.kristinwilder.com