What that drink cost me

On this season finale of What That Drink Cost Me, I’m sharing the five lessons I’ve learned from reinventing my life. These are the things that kept coming up over and over for me and with my clients.

I’m taking the summer off from this podcast so I can focus on my travels and get some rest. In the interim, you can follow me on Instagram at magicaltadrigal. You can also book a call with me to discuss how I can help you with your own reinvention here: https://calendly.com/thopp84/30min

Have a wonderful summer!

Ok, you’ve done it. You’ve made this big life change. And now, you’re overcome with a sense of loneliness. A feeling that you weren’t expecting. One that is making you wonder if you made the right decision.

In this episode, I tackle what to do when those feelings of loneliness hit. You don’t have to get on the next plane back home or beg your boss to take you back. Instead, you can find community and figure out things that will make you want to stay.

I also unpack the difference between being alone and being lonely. They’re different and I discuss what that difference is and how to discern which one you’re actually experiencing.

If this episode resonated with you, click on the link below to book a free clarity call with me to discuss how we can work together to combat loneliness and make sure you aren’t regretting your decisions. Book a call here: https://calendly.com/thopp84/30min

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Ok, you’ve finally done it. You’ve made the big leap that you’ve been dreaming about for months or even years. And… now what? What comes next after you take that big brave step?

In this episode, I unpack what comes next after you make the leap. I unpack the questions you probably have and the emotions. And I give you practical advice that you can use in the moment. So if you’ve been stuck, this episode is for you!

Join my Reinvention Intensive. $397 gets you four weeks of private coaching to help you get out of the messy middle. You’ll receive private one on one coaching calls weekly plus journal prompts, guided meditations and weekly goal setting. Only open to a select few so if you want in, book a call with me here: https://calendly.com/thopp84/30min

Too often, we find ourselves waiting for a catastrophe to happen before we make a change. We get fired. We get a DUI. Our spouse serves us with divorce papers. But what if we didn’t wait until we hit rock bottom? What if we just decided to look for subtler signs that it is time to make a change?

In this week’s episode, I unpack what happens when we decide to not wait for permission to change our lives. I examine the emotions involved in it and give you actionable tips. So if you’ve been waiting because your life hasn’t hit rock bottom yet, let this episode serve as your motivation that you don’t have to wait until then.

Hi, I’m Tad a reinvention and transitional coach. I help people figure out what’s next after the major life change. Book a call with me to talk about how I can help make this next chapter your best one yet: https://calendly.com/thopp84/30min

You finally did the thing you’ve been putting off. You told friends and family that you’re queer. And… now what? What do you do after the coming out?

In this episode, I help you sort through the emotions you might be feeling in the immediate aftermath of coming out. And I give you some actionable, practical steps that you can use in your new life as a queer person.

If you’ve recently come out, gotten a divorce, experienced a job change or a move and you’re wondering, what’s next, this is the work I do with clients everyday. I’ve recently opened up a few spots in The “What’s Next?” Reinvention Intensive. Here’s what’s included in that:

4 Weeks of Transition Coaching for People Navigating Major Life Changes

Includes:

* 4 private 60-minute sessions

* personalized transition roadmap

* voice note support between sessions

* reflection exercises/journal prompts

* action steps after each session

Ideal for:

* newly sober people

* career pivots

* relocation

* divorce/breakups

* identity shifts

* burnout recovery

* post-coming-out reinvention

Investment:

$397

If you want in, book a clarity call with me here: https://calendly.com/thopp84/30min

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Making a major life change can feel terrifying because it often feels like starting over from scratch.

Leaving a career. Getting sober. Moving to a new city. Starting over after divorce.

It’s easy to look at your life and think:

“I’ve wasted too much time.”

“I’m too far behind”

“Everyone else already has it figured out.”

But what if you’re not actually starting over?

In this episode, I’m talking about why the skills, experiences, and lessons from your old life still matter - and how to stop seeing reinvention as failure.

I also share some of my own experiences with sobriety, career shifts, and the shame of feeling “behind” in life.

Because you’re not starting from scratch. You’re starting from experience.

I’m tad Hopp, a reinvention and transition coach who helps queer people figure out what comes next after major life changes.

If you’re navigating a transition and feeling stuck, you can book a call with me here: https://calendly.com/thopp84/30min

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Feeling stuck in your life but afraid to make a change? In this episode, we’re talking about the hidden cost of staying the same - and why avoiding change might be costing you more than you realize.

You’ll learn:

• ​why staying in the same job, relationship, or environment isn’t as “safe” as it feels
• ​The emotional and long term cost of avoiding change
• ​How to start thinking differently about risk and decision-making

If you’ve been putting off a big life decision, this episode will help you see things from a new perspective.

I’m Tad Hopp of A Tad Better Coaching. I’m a life coach who helps queer people navigate major life transitions and get unstuck. To book a call with me, click here: https://calendly.com/thopp84/30min

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We’ve all had this thought: if I just change this one thing, everything in my life will finally fall into place.

A new job. A new city. Getting sober. Starting over.

And while those changes can improve parts of your life, they don’t fix everything—and they’re not supposed to.

In this episode, I’m breaking down why big life changes often expose deeper issues instead of solving them, and why that’s actually a good thing.

I also share my own experiences with sobriety and moving abroad, and what those changes really taught me about growth, identity, and starting over.

If you’ve ever made a big change and still felt stuck, this episode is for you.

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I’m Tad Hopp, a life coach who helps queer people navigate life transitions without spiraling, stalling, or self-sabotaging.

If you’re in the middle of a major life change and don’t know what to do next, you can book a call with me here: https://calendly.com/thopp84/30min

Feeling stuck in your life? Whether it’s your job, a relationship, where you live, or even your drinking habits—what if you’re not actually stuck at all?

In this episode, I’m breaking down the real reason so many of us feel stuck: we’re avoiding making a decision. I talk about why decision-making feels so hard, how overthinking keeps us in place, and the hidden cost of staying exactly where we are.

I also share my personal story of coming out and how finally making one decision changed everything in my life.

If you’ve been feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or unsure what to do next, this episode will help you start moving forward.

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I’m Tad Hopp, a life coach who helps queer people navigate life transitions without spiraling, stalling, or self-sabotaging.

If this episode resonates, you can learn more about working with me at the link in the show notes.

Book a call with me here: https://calendly.com/thopp84/30min

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If you’re a sober gay man and dating feels harder than it used to, you’re not alone—and you’re not doing anything wrong.

In this episode of What That Drink Cost Me, I break down the 3 biggest dating mistakes sober gay men make—and why these patterns can leave you feeling stuck, disconnected, or ready to give up on dating altogether.

We’ll talk about:

• ​ Why avoiding dating after getting sober keeps you stuck in loneliness
• ​ How trying to recreate “drunk intimacy” actually blocks real connection
• ​ The hidden ways dating apps can limit your chances at meaningful relationships

The truth is, you’re not bad at dating—you’re just learning how to do it without alcohol.

This episode will help you shift your mindset, understand what’s really going on beneath the surface, and start approaching dating in a healthier, more intentional way.

If you’re ready to build real connection, confidence, and intimacy in sobriety, this episode is for you.

👉 I’m also hosting a Dating in Sobriety workshop where I’ll go deeper into how to navigate first dates, build confidence, and create real connection without alcohol. You’ll find the signup link here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/dating-after-sobriety-tickets-1985274619830

Want to book a call with me to discuss working together? Do that here: https://calendly.com/thopp84/30min