Stefan felt that familiar anxiousness welling from his gut to his throat as he listened to his coworker explain why the project was behind... and he wasn't right! ... Belinda's heart pounded and fear rose within her. How would her son get into a good college if he couldn't get the essays written on time? Maybe YOU have the urge to control or have to DEAL WITH someone else who does. Listen in as we look at what's causing conflict and what to do about it on today's episode of What to Say & How to Say It!

Sitting across the table from her husband, Natasha realized his emotional words were about him, and NOT her. She spoke gently to him, "Sounds like you feel strongly about this and are hurting. What are you feeling right now, physically?" They then continued in a connecting conversation, putting an end to the argument. In today's episode, listen in as Nina takes a look at 5 things that get in the way of creating connections in the middle of conflict and what to do!

Hearing his father's judgmental words caused Paul's chest to tighten, his pulse to race, and all he could do was stare at his Dad. He was frozen, couldn't move, couldn't speak. So much for the communication class he'd taken at work! Those conflict sessions seem to be ineffective at best. Sound familiar? Knowing how to navigate conflict without making it worse is a skill. And a process. If you don't know how to figure this out, you'll spend your time at work, home, and church, arguing with people, creating disagreement, and fostering a lack of unity and connection. Join Nina as she helps us dissect three proven steps to create a better outcome when dealing with conflict!

Leesha looked at Stefan... Stunned. She couldn't believe he had just said what he did. Her heart pounded, her throat felt tight, and anger surged. She couldn't think straight, couldn't even focus on what he was now saying... Ever happen to you? All the communication skills in the world won't save you if you don't know this ONE thing that keeps you from falling into Leesha's shoes. We all struggle with times like this, but knowing what to do with them can be a game changer for you and all your relationships. Listen in as we dive into this episode of What to say & How to Say It!

“I’m sorry, honey. I can understand how you could be upset, especially thinking your mom is being neglected. I’ve had a lot on my mind lately. I want to be here for you. But please don’t accuse me of an affair. That feels like an assault on my character, and it hurts. Please talk to me about what’s going on with you instead.” Do you wish you could respond kindly to accusations? Join Nina as she takes a look at how God can change how we show up in challenging situations - without become a doormat or steamroller. 

I saw this speaker at a conference and thought, "WOW. He seriously actually KNOWS Jesus in a way I can relate to and want even more of!" So you know I had to interview him to share his insights with you. Want to know how to overcome shame and fear in your relationships? In this episode, Nina interviews author John Lynch. His books include The Cure, and On My Worst Day. Listen in to learn the secret to being filled with Christ such that He spills over into all of your relationships!

Sandi stood in the line next to her 5th grade peers. Name after name was called by the two team captains. It was recess, and sighs of relief and angst, barely audible, pricked the playground air. Sandi knew she'd be called close to last, but at least Don was here today.

He ran slower than she did and couldn't hit the broadside of a barn with a ball, even when he tried. She blushed at her judgmental thought, pushed it away, and prayed instead, "Lord, don't let me be last," and as an afterthought, "Please help Don get better at kickball, but not so much better I get called last." Many adults have memories like this from their childhood - and to this day, still deal with feeling unwanted or unloved. Can you relate? Tune into today's episode of What to Say & How to Say It!