What We Were Never Taught: Relationships, Marriage & Family — From Parenting Doctors

This is a large topic.  Some of the keys include what parents can do and what teachers can do.

Besides psychological treatment, let's discuss some things parents can do.  I remind us of the behavioral rehearsal, specifically the goodbye ritual.  Another reminder of healthy attachment with two moments of warmth per day.   A reminder of the importance of speaking good into our children / and calling good out of them.  

Some things for teachers to consider, besides parents open to their words and influence, thus maintaining open communication with parents to give them that chance, and open communication with the counselor, include scaling anxiety and safe zones - while sensitive of potential for avoidance.  

This is a large topic but I wanted to give you some quick solutions.  First, we need to be aware of how the meltdown may be behavioral, emotional, or an attachment issue.  Second, we want to address the issue of reinforcement - there are things we do that reinforce tantrums.  "You must go to the coffee appt."  "You must go to the job interview."  Or, the child needs to go to school.  

I provide an example of a goodbye ritual that can make a difference.  

We have an extensive video on our youtube channel that articulates the five golden coins of loving angry children!  Check us out at www.parentingdoctors.com

This podcast focuses on the key points in a few minutes.  

Children will go down the rabbit holes of negative cycles.  Sometimes these cycles include manipulation or passive aggressive behavior.  Parents can nip these behaviors in the bud by speaking good into children.  Nip Negative Cycles in the Bud by Speaking Good Into Children!

In our first parenting podcast of the year, we return to explore decision making.  Many parents are susceptible to approaching their parenting as maximizers versus Satisficers.  Maximizers will go to 10 stores in order to find the perfect pair of jeans.  Satisficers will be content with the jeans at the first store because they are "good enough."  So often, we as parents put our "maximizer mentality" on our kids.  This mentality is a new kind of "snowplow parenting" (the cousin of the helicopter parent), but they inevitably plow before the snow comes.  

Nothing is good enough.  

Hard to please.

Unwilling to sit with coaches, teachers, or pastors to work through problems.  Instead, moving on becomes the norm for parents seeking the Perfect "fill in the blank."