What Would Love Do?

Perfectionism is borne from Fear. The fear of not being enough, the fear of being unworthy, the fear of being unlovable.

When we know better, we do better. Parenting is transformational and is a healing process. Before we become parents, have we done the deep thinking into what needs forgiveness and acceptance in our past?

What would life look like if we could stop surrendering to fear or anxiety and start surrendering more to love or trust? - How would we show-up? What would our relationship to our life feel like?

Why Love? Why should we invest our time and energy into understanding this energy called Love?

I use to think "Regret" was a dirty word. A word when spoken meant you were holding onto the past and you couldn't move on.

In listening to an interview with Brene Brown on Oprah's Super Soul Sunday, my relationship to the word "Regret" transformed. If we value a growth mindset, we have to be willing to let go of beliefs that no longer served us. We have to be willing to unlearn what we have learnt.

With Brene Brown's definition of Regret, I unlearnt my relationship to Regret. Regret can now be seen as a teacher. It shows us when we have acted being guided by Fear.

The fear of disappointment can be the thing that hinders us from showing up, from giving everything everything... and the thing that robs us of having a remarkable and magical rendezvous with life.

We can choose to think that life is working for us, or life is working against us. We fear the experience of disappointment. We fear the experience of not knowing how to deal with heartbreak or being able to expand and keep our heart open when something doesn't work out the way we want it to be... however these fears haven't even been realised and these outcomes are just thoughts - and yet, we buy into these thoughts as though they are reality. We rob ourselves of joy and of experiencing the magic of life.

What is the reality of a fish that lives in a fish bowl? We are each our own fish in our own fish bowl - what does it take to be an observer of our life?

What if there was no Plan B? When we choose to live from a space of Love, we are present. We show up fully engaged. Our mind isn't thinking "if this doesn't work, we have a fall back plan". When we live from a place of Plan B, Plan C.. we are living from a place of fear. We are fearful of failure and the achievement of an outcome - so we create conditions to minimise our experience of disappointment and anguish. However, what if there is no Plan B? What would life be like if we lived with no back-up plan - and we show up with faith, love, and focus?... and trust that the outcome is perfect for our evolution and growth?

Bringing awareness to how we created our model of Love is the opportunity of transformation. We created a model on what Love is, what Love is, and how to Love based on our observations and our experiences as a child. When we can bring awareness to this, we have a choice to change the narrative and meaning of Love.

Being divorced was a blessing - it was my wake-up call to bring awareness to my unconscious beliefs and take responsibility for how I show-up in relationships. In this episode, I share 9 things I learnt from my divorce and how the transformation of my thinking contributes to crafting a magical and loving relationship.

Throw away the checklist. It is never about the other person, who they are, what they have, and who they are for us. What if the real work is about looking at ourselves? What if the real work in being able to craft a magical relationship is centred around understanding and being grateful on who we get to become, who we get to show up as, and being humbled by the joy of loving another?