What Would The Aunties Say?

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What Would The Aunties Say? episodes

January 19 Why you *DON'T* have to feel behind in your 30's
Everyone makes it seem like your 30s come with a checklist: career sorted, relationship locked in, life perfectly figured out. But… who actually decided that timeline?
In this episode of What Would The Auntie Say, we’re talking about why you’re not behind, even if your life doesn’t look like everyone else’s highlight reel. From career pressure to relationship timelines, comparison culture to self-doubt, we break down where that “I should be further by now” feeling really comes from — and how to let it go.
If you’ve ever felt like you’re running out of time, this one’s your reminder that your path doesn’t need to look like anyone else’s to be meaningful, successful, or beautiful.
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30 min
January 12 Things we are *NOT* bringing into 2026 and do we need to rebrand ourselves?
Happy New Year! We get into how it feels going into the new year, if we really need to give in to the pressure to rebrand ourselves and I'm responding to all the things you told me we are NOT bringing into 2026!
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38 min
December 23, 2025 Reacting to your brown girl problems and girl talk
As we slow down before Christmas, I'm discussing how we don't need to feel the pressure to re-brand your life while we have a chilled, chatty catch up and I react to a few of your brown girl problems while giving you my honest opinions and advice.

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29 min
December 15, 2025 "What Will Other People Say?!" How to stop thinking about what other people think
Why does this one sentence have so much power over our lives?

In this episode, we’re unpacking the fear of being talked about - by aunties, by family, by friends, and by people who don’t even know us that well. From the choices we don’t make, to the dreams we shrink and to the versions of ourselves we keep hidden… all because we’re scared of what other people might think.

We talk about how this mindset is passed down, why it hits harder in brown and collectivist cultures, and the emotional toll of constantly living for external approval. I share personal stories and the slow (very imperfect) process of unlearning people-pleasing and choosing myself instead.

If you’ve ever paused your life because of “log kya kahenge,” this episode is for you. Consider this a gentle reminder that other people’s opinions are loud - but they don’t get to run your life.

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35 min
December 08, 2025 How to *ACTUALLY* love yourself and change your life
What does self love ACTUALLY mean? We hear this term all the time, and often people relate it to the aesthetic style of self love you see on the internet. In this episode I'm discussing how to do the inner work to TRULY love yourself. If you're on your healing journey, or ready to do the work on yourself to change your life, this episode is for you!

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25 min
December 01, 2025 How did I let a NARCISSIST into my life?! My story on love bombing, fraud & being stalked
This is my story of surviving a narcissist that not only love bombed me, but stole millions of pounds from people and put me through an extremely traumatic time in my life by stalking and harassing me. It has taken me years to find my voice again and share my story. In South Asian culture, we shy away from talking about negative events publicly because of shame, however I no longer carry the shame for what someone else did to me. I am sharing to help inspire you to choose yourself, to always speak up and to show you that you can re-build yourself.

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53 min
November 21, 2025 Get to know me all over again
After a long break, I feel it's only right to re-introduce myself and allow you to get to know me all over again before we dive into some heavier topics in upcoming episodes
17 min
November 17, 2025 Season 3 Trailer
Season 3 is officially in session! We unpack identity, culture, womanhood, and the glow-up that comes from finally choosing yourself. This season, we’re going deeper, laughing harder, and healing out loud. If the aunties are talking, we might as well join the chat.
2 min
July 15, 2021 "How will you find a husband with that weight?"
"How will you find a husband with that weight?", "put some lipstick on", "you must wax your hair.". These are some things you might hear a South Asian Auntie say when talking about body image. Model and activist Neelam Kaur Gill joins me to discuss the pressures of looking marriage ready and meeting the South Asian standard.
49 min
July 08, 2021 "You will never find a husband in this job, be a doctor"
"You will never find a husband in this job, be a doctor", "Indian girls never make it in those industries", "You will never make money in a creative job". When talking to South Asian Aunties about getting into a creative career, these are some of the things you might hear them. I'm joined by BBC Women's Hour presenter and broadcaster Anita Rani. We discuss her experiences as a brown woman in a predominantly white industry and the pressures of following a particular career path.
56 min