Chuck wants to talk with His #1 Phan about a complicated matter within our community: at the end of a meal or a shared transaction, who pays? Does it get more complicated among class, gender, age, host vs guest, and other factors? Why do our dads seem to want to pay every time but also secretly don't mind (after much negotiation) when their sons cover the bill? We draw from history, anthropology, and personal experience... and figured out a system that works for the both of us.