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When Couples Counseling Makes It Worse: The Hidden Risks of Therapy in Emotionally Abusive Relationships


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When Couples Counseling Makes It Worse: The Hidden Risks of Therapy in Emotionally Abusive Relationships 💬 Episode Summary: If you’ve ever sat in a couples therapy session hoping a professional would finally see the emotional abuse—only to walk out feeling more confused, dismissed, or even blamed—this episode is for you. In today’s trauma-informed conversation, we’re unpacking why traditional couples counseling can be dangerous in emotionally abusive marriages, especially when coercive control, narcissistic abuse, or gaslighting are present. So many intelligent, capable women go to therapy believing it will help fix the relationship. Instead, they walk out feeling unseen, unsafe, and unheard. Here’s the truth: Most therapists are not trained to recognize emotional abuse, and when it gets missed, the harm is real. In this episode, I’ll share: Why couples therapy often fails women in emotionally unsafe marriages How gaslighting, manipulation, and coercive control show up in therapy rooms The psychological impact when a therapist unintentionally validates the abuser’s narrative What a trauma-informed, abuse-aware approach to therapy should actually look like Real-life stories from clients who were retraumatized by therapy—and how they reclaimed their voice 🔥 What You’ll Learn: The 3 biggest red flags that therapy is making things worse Why phrases like “communication is key” and “it takes two” can be harmful and misleading The difference between conflict and abuse—and why most therapists aren’t trained to tell the difference How to protect your emotional safety if you’re currently in counseling with your partner The critical importance of working with someone who understands narcissistic abuse, trauma bonds, and emotional manipulation. If You Felt Seen By This Episode… Please take a moment to share this with another woman who might be silently suffering in an emotionally abusive marriage. Therapy should never make you feel more confused or more ashamed. 🔍 SEO Keywords for Discovery: emotional abuse in marriage • therapy and emotional abuse • couples counseling and narcissistic abuse • coercive control in relationships • therapy that makes things worse • trauma-informed therapist • gaslighting in couples counseling • narcissistic abuse recovery • why therapy doesn’t help abuse victims • fawn response in therapy • family court and emotional abuse • emotionally unsafe relationships • healing from narcissistic marriage • when couples therapy is harmful • trauma-informed relationship coaching

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